Recently, people often tell me in the background: Zhang Meng teacher, Anxiety What should I do?
First of all, I have always disliked creating an atmosphere of anxiety or activate an anxious mentality, and I do not want to be an outputer of this kind of content. Because I think there is no need to activate everyone's anxiety, so that everyone is willing to work hard and struggle, but there is a better way to make everyone work hard and struggle.
Today we will talk about the issue of Anxiety .
I have seen "The Round Table" in the past. There is a teacher named Zhou Yijun. She once talked about the word anxiety. What is the antonym of anxiety? You can think about what do you think is the antonym of anxiety?
She said it was— Specific . I actually didn't expect the idea of
. She said, "As soon as you talk about specificity, you will know the method path." Anxiety is a very illusory word. If we can make our feet step on a specific path, when we move forward step by step, there will be no anxiety in life.
I was very happy to see this content at that time. She also gave an example, such as taking the university. Which university should I take? For example, if you take , Beijing Normal University , what major do you want to take? In which year did you take the exam? How many points do you need to take?
When we can list a series of specific goals, anxiety actually does not exist.
I think the so-called anxiety must be solved by using the target solution.
When we always have our own anxiety, you must focus yourself on one small thing after another through actions. Only when you do one small thing after another small thing can you fundamentally solve your anxiety problem.
When it comes to small things, many people look down on small things and think that small things are not important. I think Life is actually in the details . You will find that those who are particularly powerful will really do the details very well, do them very well, and will be very careful.
I have met a colleague of this type. Before he works with you, he will send you a job outline. I plan to use this content to communicate with you. After we communicate, he will also review it with you to tell you what I learned in this communication and how I should do it next time. Then think about it again.
When we can think clearly about the effective path, he will also review his growth from time to time, and there is a very clear path for his life promotion, and what position he can achieve.
Indeed, after several years of hard work, he has indeed reached such a height in the workplace.
Look at this type of friend, one of the things he did is Use targets to replace anxiety , so today I want to talk to you about the solution to anxiety, which is to use targets to replace anxiety method.
But when it comes to goals instead of anxiety, you have to think about a whole new dimension behind it. How can you set your own goals?
I often listen to everyone’s opinions, saying that Teacher Zhang Meng, I am not sure about setting goals. Although I set goals, I actually don’t know if this is my goal and how should I achieve this goal?
Indeed, we still need to focus on the goals and on achieving this matter. How can we set goals and achieve achievable goals.
There is actually a formula here. No matter how grand a career is, it is composed of one small goal after another.
For example, I want to spell a Lego toy, this toy is a palace, but I have to spell it piece by piece before it can finally become a palace.
But in this stage of life, we not only have the number of Lego blocks, but also the different colors of LEGO. In addition, we have a timeline. Life is a basic unit cycle of 365 days with one year as a basic unit, and then year after year, and finally achieve a goal through year-on-year efforts.
Many people often think about it. In fact, I always think that Focus is the kingly way .
Why is focusing the king?
You think a person’s resources and abilities are very limited. The so-called resource of a person is that only 365 days a year, and the money in the bank account he can use is not very good. In other words, this person cannot leverage too many resources to realize himself.
That means, if you put all your energy, your time and money into a field, you will definitely be able to make a pit, if you work hard and work hard enough.
But if you smash it, you actually don’t get this pit anywhere, and in the end it will be useless. This is actually talking about the power of to focus .
Speaking of goals, what else should we have besides having focus? I think in essence, we should have the ability to turn from large to small, and then turn from small to large .
Don’t worry, let me break it down one by one, what does it mean to go from to small ?
For example, the goal of this year is composed of 12 months, and then list all the goals for these December months. The 12 months are composed of 4 weeks, and the 4 weeks are composed of 7 days each week. When you can list the daily goals together, this means that from big to small.
Then we talk about the way from small to large. When you add each day together, 7 days are added together to be a week, 4 weeks are added together to be 1 month, and 12 months are added together to be 1 year. This is the way to set the annual target of .
So you see this is a process from big to small and then from small to large. You must master this way of thinking so that you can know how to achieve your goals.
Then I took weight loss as an example. For example, I have a goal to improve my body shape. If I want to lose weight, how should I do the goal from big to small and then from small to big.
For example, your weight is 56 kg, and your height is about 1.6 meters. At this time, your goal is 50 kg. Our goal setting must comply with the smart rule , and your goal must be specific .
second can measure ? Third, can you reach to ? Because some students often say that Teacher Zhang Meng, I want to reduce the amount of 200 pounds to 100 pounds now. Do you think I can achieve it? I will draw a question mark, at least it cannot be effectively completed in a short period of time.
First of all, you must set goals. Setting goals is actually very simple. For example, losing 50 kilograms of weight and losing 30 kilograms of weight. This is called setting goals, but most people cannot break down goals.
Here I introduce to you a concept I often talk about is called single point breakthrough method . You need to formulate 4 steps, namely planning, implementation, summary, evaluation, and planning again.
You need to make a plan first.
Weight loss requires reducing body fat rate. I think the easiest way to reduce body fat rate is through Cality difference . Every day you must be able to ensure that the relationship between what you eat and your input and output is not in a balanced state.
If you eat too much every day and output too little, you will definitely stock up on fat and will get fatter and get fatter. If what you eat every month is continuously smaller than what you output, then you can ensure that you achieve the desired weight loss goal.
I strongly recommend that you record it every day. We usually do not measure our own body, but when you use this way of recording, you will find that all your efforts can be seen, which is very important.
The premise of what kind of body you want is that you must correctly establish your own good figure, how to control calories, how to effectively make yourself better through exercise, and how to persevere.
In the real process of implementation, you need to execute efficiently, but more importantly, the ability to summarize and evaluate .
should be summarized separately, turn this series of phased results into so-called digital and modelable things, and finally enter the evaluation stage to judge whether your abilities can be achieved and whether your review goals are truly achieved.
Because of this effective way to "self-upgrade", you will find that your growth and maturity will become faster and faster. Your self-growth every day is actually improved through your evaluation and your summary. This is from smaller .
Through this way of changing from large to small to large, your growth rate can be seen.
Nicethet said that only those who know why can survive.
When you are confused and anxious, and don’t know what you are going to do or what you can do, the first step we need to do is Find the direction , find your single point breakthrough method .
Some people always feel that they are not good at it. They have worked very hard but they have no results, but do you know? Those who are better than you work harder than you, and those who are worse than you have never given up working hard.
Who can guarantee that you are not confused or anxious? The important thing is to gain growth in confusion. When one day your plan and real implementation are consistent, you will naturally become super invincible.
I hope today's sharing can bring some positive power to you.
