For a long time, marriage has been "the words of the matchmaker" for many people. In ancient times, if any adult man or adult woman is at the age of marriage but still not getting married, she will not only be urging and constantly connected by her parents and other relatives, but will also attract strange gazes from neighbors, as if the person has violated some big precepts.
And even in today's highly developed economy and civilization, the words "leftover women" and "leftover men" have been created to mock those who do not get married.
Because getting married and starting a business is a must-pass path in life in the eyes of most people, it is the foundation of the family and the destination of love. Therefore, the popularity of blind date programs and parents in the corner of the park help them find a partner with their children's personal information.
But there are exceptions when it is common, Tie Ning, chairman of Chinese Writers Association , is such a special existence. In her first half of her life, she had never been anxious or hated to marry because of marriage. She kept waiting and said firmly: "I would rather not have one than make do with marriage."
finally waited for true love at the age of 54, and the president of Yanjing Huaqiao University - Watson . What did a completely different first half of life from an ordinary woman? Has she ever wavered when everyone around her got married and had children and moved towards the next stage of her life?
Unique childhood
Tie Ning was born in a family of scholars. His father was a famous oil painter, and his mother was also a music professor in a local university. Since childhood, she has been influenced by her parents' artistic influence, and naturally she has a keener insight into the environment and people and a high degree of sensitivity.
When the friends around her were traveling around, she just wanted to stay at home and study. Perhaps it was because of her personality or she liked the colorful world in the sea of books.
In short, when the painting and music professors who were proficient in her parents, although she listened carefully and did her homework meticulously, she knew her daughter better than her mother. Her mother found that this six-year-old girl was the most energetic and happiest every time she read a book, but she never had such a bright smile on her face during the music learning process.
Therefore, her parents who dote on her bought a study for her, which also opened the writing path of this famous writer in the future.
Tie Ning said: "From childhood to adulthood, I spent the most unforgettable and happiest times in this small room. It carries almost all my joys, sorrows and sorrows and those thoughts that no one knows." So she set her ideal since she was a child - she became a writer when she grew up.
The year she graduated from high school, she wrote her first novel "The Flying Scythe" and published it in children's literature. The publisher's recognition and letters from some readers gave her great encouragement, and also made her more determined to choose to take the path of writing.
So after graduation, my family finally found a way to help her find a job as an art soldier in the art troupe. She sternly rejected her parents and made the decision that surprised her parents the most - going to the countryside .
years of passionate creation
This decision was almost unreasonable in the eyes of her parents, because all the young people had to go to the countryside for transformation at that time. Not only did they know when they would return to the city, but they also meant that they would live a hard and full meal and hungry life.
But once Tie Ning makes up his mind, even ten cows can't pull them back. Her parents also knew her daughter's stubbornness and persistence deeply, so after telling her what she was about to face, they did not persuade her, but just asked her to pack her luggage and be mentally prepared.
The young and energetic Tie Ning felt that if she did not go deep into the vast masses, she would rather go to the vast fields to feel the unique atmosphere of China, and she would never be able to become a person who wrote an article that touches people's hearts and resonates with people.
In this way, she lived a life of sweating profusely in the scorching sun during the day and writing hard at her desk at night.Although her life is poor, it is very fulfilling because she likes the simple and innocent people around her, and also likes the feeling of stepping on the loess and having true feelings.
A young age, she has created many excellent short stories such as "Rose Girl", "Bath Flower" and other excellent short stories with her infinite sincerity for writing and her deep love for the Yellow Earth.
Then she successfully joined the editorial department of Federation of Literary and Art Circles "Flower Mountain", which also started her passionate creation years.
More than a year of going to the countryside has added her life experience and enriched her life accumulation, providing inexhaustible motivation for her novel creation. As soon as "Oh, Xiangxue" was published in 1982, it won numerous awards, and it also made her enter the public's attention for the first time. Since then, she has published many popular works such as " Red Shirt Without Buttons ", "Woman's White Night", etc.
She said that when she was in her twenties and thirties, she seemed to have countless sources of inspiration, and as long as she wanted to write, she would definitely be able to write articles of a considerable length. She is destined to be different from mortals, she is a natural writer!
The view of love that is better than nothing than nothing
As her reputation expanded, she was elected as the vice chairman of Hebei Federation of Literary and Art Circles. Due to her dedicated work, was elected as the chairman of Chinese Writers Association in 2007. This is not only an affirmation of her writing ability but also an recognition of her management ability.
However, she has been doing well in her career and seems to be not satisfied on the road of love. When she was nearly thirty years old, a reporter began to ask her if she had a partner and when she wanted to get married, and such questions. She said calmly: " I am not a celibate. I have always had a beautiful vision for love and marriage, but fate cannot be rushed, so I will wait. I think there is the right to enjoy love at any age."
She also stubbornly and proudly upholds this view--it is better to be insignificant than to be indiscriminate. Her friend asked her, "Will you envy me when you see all the friends around you get married and have children?" She said, "Envy is naturally envy, but I think life is colorful, I enjoy the sense of celibacy and unrestrainedness of being single. I never worry about not getting married. I think even if I can't wait for that person in the second half of my life, I can take good care of myself."
Finally, when she was 54 years old, she met her own Romeo. It was a long-lasting love, and it was also a combination of two souls that deeply resonated with art and the world.
Summary:
So, we who have always been disciplined by social regulations and dominated by external perspectives should learn from Tie Ning and learn to break free from the shackles and constraints of the outside world.
Because everyone is qualified to choose what kind of life to live, after all, life is short, as long as you don’t hurt others, whether it’s late or not, it’s enough to have fun.
