Have you heard these sounds?
"Girls, you don't need to learn to do that, just let boys take the initiative"
"I dare not find girls who are too powerful in bed, it's hard to control"...
This is like a girl, on x, you should lie on the chopping board like "fish" and let others take action.
In this article today, let’s talk about this prejudice inherent in people’s minds.
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Long-distance relationship ended, I couldn't wait to date my boyfriend as soon as possible, and carefully follow the "What should I do before" published by a Xiaohongshu blogger On the sharing post, prepare one by one:
perfume, hair removal cream , skin care milk and atmosphere aromatherapy. In addition, there are some pillow supplies, such as vibrator, lubricant, and a complete set of sexy underwear...
But I never expected that I wanted to surprise my boyfriend, but as soon as I met, I was poured a basin of cold water -
"I have prepared so much, it turns out that I have done a lot of things. Is this happening? "
"I can't tell, I thought you were quite innocent and didn't understand these things."
"Wait, you can come first, it seems that the experience is more than me..."
I never expected that the ritual that I carefully arranged became a tool for the other party to humiliate me. The other party's mind's concept of "girls should know nothing on x" made me turn my head.
I sneered at him and replied: "Sorry, you guessed it wrong, my first time."
After saying that, I no longer listen to any refusal of the other party.
I booked the air ticket for the night on my mobile phone, and after a meal, I politely went back.
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In fact, in reality, there are many people who hold such prejudice, and not only boys, but also most girls often have such concerns -
"I always want to hide it in front of him and know how to 'how to speak'"
"I like the position of a woman, but I'm so afraid that he will say I'm experienced."
"I want to wear sexy underwear, will he think I am too lazy..."
Have you noticed that behind these "knowing", it actually reflects that girls have the most real tendencies and hobbies in terms of sexuality.
However, many people always associate girls with the words "experienced" and "debauchery", but they never noticed that these are just one of the needs of girls -
"I learned to speak, just like I learned to swim, I just explored a new skill"
"I'm passionate about girls, just like I like to rotate on the skating rink, this action can give me pleasure"
"I love wearing sexy underwear, just like I'm passionate about listening to music when writing, creating a simple sense of ritual"...
When we see a girl very "Yes", the context about her should be "Wow, so she likes this, how can I cooperate with her to do better?"
instead of "She is so sexy, she must have had many boyfriends..."
The latter's thought expression directly transforms a girl into a "object" of sexuality, as well as a service tool for male orgasm and male gaze, rather than a real, emotional, and emotional person.
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I remember that I had the honor of peeping into such a female character in the movie -
She usually wears formal clothes and has strict plans for her study and work.
boldly talks about your needs in bed, is very open-minded, and boldly follows your partner who does not agree with sexual opinions and says "bye". He also likes to lean on the head of the bed and light a cigarette afterwards to read famous works.
Whether it is her desire for money, knowledge, or sexual desire, she is extremely clear about her needs.
Many people pointed at her and scolded her "ruthless and serious slut". She used these expressionlessly as wind in her ears, continued to do what she had, and stayed with people who could understand herself.
So, while awakening everyone to avoid "prejudice", we should also call on girls to be people who "ignore prejudice".
The current one cannot achieve, the latter is our greatest confidence.
Moreover, girls are skilled in bed, one is not illegal, two is not insulting discipline, and three is not hurting people.
This is something that is worthy of pride rather than shameful.
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I once saw a girl complaining about her disagreement with her boyfriend. Girls prefer to do in an atmosphere hotel i, and the general meaning of boys is -
"I can do everything at home, why not at home? Don't waste it so much, okay?"
is visible. There are still many people who have never really understood what girls want on x.
even ignored the girls' voices and defined only male orgasm as the "full meaning" of this activity.
In addition to "theme action", girls also need a sense of ritual, atmosphere, and gentle understanding and embrace to cooperate with this project.
So I got the beginning of my approach. I am using actions to express my position and definition of sex.
When this expression was not understood, I turned around and said "goodbye" without any apology.
In my later life, I had the opportunity to meet someone who truly understands and respects women's feelings, and add a touch of tenderness to the rest of my life.
So, I sincerely hope that all girls have two abilities - the courage to "fearlessly express skillfully" and the "discriminatory power" of not being afraid of turning around and starting over.
I wish you to find a stable understanding in the already prejudiced world, be a "fair girl", and take your own steps with your true feelings and the girl.
Article source: Zuo Jiujiu
