attachment degree determines the level of intimacy
The attachment patterns of love are generally divided into three types: secure attachment, avoidance attachment and ambivalent attachment.
People are always at a sad place and feel sad. At the same time, they also like to think of people who are close to you. When you are happy, they often think of people you like, and when you are sad, they often think of people you love.
The more frequent the attachment to a person, the deeper the intimacy, and vice versa.
One of the obvious characteristics is that although some people are married, they always have an unforgettable feeling for their first love.
The more altruistic behaviors, the deeper the feelings
When you like someone, you often care about your own feelings; when you love someone, you often care about the other person's feelings, and you can't bear to let the other person be wronged.
Altruistic behaviors include: taking care of the other person, tolerating the other person, helping the other person, supporting the other person, etc. This kind of love and being loved will bring into the concentration of each other's relationship and intimate relationship.
The more you care about the other person, the more altruistic behaviors you do, the more you give and the feelings you give can make the other person feel that you love him/her. Whether the relationship is deep or not can be judged by the other party's altruistic behavior.
Soul intimacy and physical intimacy are indispensable
Both parties in love not only have a high emotional dependence on each other, but also have a need for physical contact.
Intimacy includes both passion, understanding, honesty, support and sharing, as well as passion and sex.
Most of our love today are fast food-based and fast-food-style. People's feelings change very quickly. This high-frequency and rapidly indifferent feeling may just be like for a moment, not love.
Love is the synthesis of soul intimacy and physical intimacy, and neither is missing.
