Introduction
Marriage is a major event in life.
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In my country, there are many etiquettes for getting married.
A historian pointed out that the form of wedding originated at about the end of primitive society. According to historical records, at the end of primitive society, the custom of engagement occurred. The engagement ceremony at that time was very simple. As long as the man gave a pair of deer skin to the woman, the engagement ceremony was completed.
With the development of society and the progress of the times, when weekly , the " Six Lessons " needs to be completed from engagement to marriage. The so-called "six rituals" can generally be divided into three stages: pre-marriage ceremony, regular wedding ceremony, and post-marriage ceremony. Only after the man "completes" these three stages can he marry the bride home.
A etiquette expert said that after entering the door, the bride needs to complete three etiquettes, namely worshiping heaven and earth, worshiping Emperor Gaozu and worshiping the man’s parents and elders, etc.
So, why should there be such a etiquette?
First, worship the world
The ancients believed that everything is created by heaven and earth. If there is no heaven and earth, then there would be no such world. Based on this, people should have a sense of awe of heaven and earth. Since people should have a sense of awe for heaven and earth, then a ceremony for worshiping heaven and earth should be held when the newlyweds get married.
Second, worship the great master
The ancients believed that ancestors were the "roots" of descendants. If there were no ancestors, there would be no us today. "Book of Rites·Crown Meaning" says: "Therefore, those who were ancient people valued the crown, so those who were in the temple were carried out in the temple, so those who were in the temple respected things. Those who were in the temple respected things but did not dare to be good at the matter; and those who did not dare to be good at the matter, so they were inferior and respected their ancestors." From this we can see that ancestors were very important in the eyes of the ancients.
Since ancestors are very important, a ceremony to worship ancestors must be held when the newlyweds get married.
Third, worship the man’s parents and elders
Whether it is the man’s parents or the man’s elders, they all have the kindness of raising or caring for the man. Since the parents and elders of the man on have nurturing or caring for the man, then the newlyweds must hold a ceremony to worship the parents and elders of the man on when the newlyweds get married.
, the etiquette expert, went on to say that the man's "respecting elders" is a broad term. The man's "eparate elder" can include the man's grandparents, uncles and aunts, uncles and aunts, aunts, and anyone and elders who have been kind to the man.
According to this etiquette expert, when a newlywed gets married, anyone who has done kindness to the man needs to thank him.
However, on October 5, something unexpected happened somewhere in Anhui.
Event
October 5th was the happy day of the man Gong. Gong's parents held a luxurious wedding for him in a hotel. At the wedding, an aunt in her 60s rushed to the stage. After the aunt rushed to the stage, she first asked Gong to kowtow and kneel down. After being rejected by Gong and his bride, the aunt snatched the microphone from the host and immediately scolded Gong regardless of the sighs of the guests below.
So, what's going on? Mr. Su, an insider at
, said: "The aunt who rushed to the stage is named Song Mouhua, and she is a neighbor to Gong's family. Aunt Song Mouhua is a famous warm-hearted person in the village and has helped many people, but she also has a flaw, that is, she is impatient and has a bad temper." Mr. Su, an insider at
, continued: "It turns out that the conditions in Gong's family were very poor. In order to improve the conditions at home, Gong's parents thought of going to work in the south. , However, there is a problem facing Gong's parents, that is, Gong, who was 5 years old at the time, was not taken care of by anyone. "Mr. Su, an insider in
, continued: "Mr. Gong's parents were orphans, and they lost their parents when they were underage. Based on this, Gong's parents rarely had relatives. In this case, if both of them went out to work, Gong would be in a state of no care. Therefore, although Gong's parents wanted to go out to work, they also found it difficult to travel."
insider Mr. Su finally said: "My auntie Gong's parents' difficulties were known by Mr. Song Hua. Mr. Song Hua said: As long as Mr. Gong's parents can trust her, she is willing to take Mr. Gong to her home and take care of her. Gong's parents were very grateful to Mr. Song's parents for his expression, so Mr. Gong's parents threw Mr. Gong to Mr. Song's aunt and went out to work. "
According to another insider, Mr. Feng, Gong's parents have been working for more than ten years. During this ten years, Gong has been taken care of by Aunt Song Hua. Although Gong's parents will also give some child support to Aunt Song Hua, the child support provided is limited, and Aunt Song Hua did not take any advantage. During the time when Aunt Song Hua took care of Gong, he was doing his best. In the eyes of the villagers, Aunt Song Hua treated Gong like his own son. Once, Gong was beaten by a classmate while in elementary school in the town. Aunt Song Hua heard about it and broke into the school directly, grabbed the classmate who beat Gong and refused to let go, and insisted that classmate apologize to Gong. Later, the incident was calmed down under the mediation of the teacher.
Another insider, Mr. Feng, continued to introduce that Gong was very naughty when he was a child. It was common for him to go up the mountain to pick fruits and go down the river to catch fish. Because Aunt Song Hua was worried about Gong's safety, Aunt Song Hua would also attack Gong when he was naughty. However, Aunt Song Hua did not beat Gong too hard. The villagers can testify to this point.
Another insider, Mr. Feng, continued to introduce that when Gong was 17 years old, Gong's parents ended their working career and returned home, and Gong naturally returned to his parents. In the past few years, Gong's parents often talked about Aunt Song Hua's grace for raising Gong, but as time went by, Gong's parents seemed to have forgotten Aunt Song Hua's raising Gong Well, anyway, it is rare to mention Aunt Song Hua in front of the villagers.
Another insider, Mr. Feng, finally introduced that on October 5, Gong got married. When Gong and his bride held a ceremony to thank their parents, someone quietly said to Aunt Song Hua: "In theory, you should also be invited to the stage and accept Gong's thanks." Because Aunt Song Hua is straightforward, she rushed to the stage and asked Gong to thank her. But for some reason, Gong refused to thank her, so Aunt Song Hua scolded Gong in front of everyone.
According to a video circulating on the Internet, after Aunt Song Hua scolded Gong, Gong not only lowered his head, but also thanked Aunt Song Hua. Gong was standing on the stage Someone's parents always stood expressionlessly without any expression.
Of course, after Gong thanked Aunt Song Hua, Aunt Song Hua walked off the stage.
The above mentioned is a general process of this incident.
When many netizens learned about this incident, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizen voice
Netizens that year, that month: Can I say that both Gong and his parents are ungrateful people? As the saying goes: To receive a bucket of rice, you must repay ten years of kindness. Aunt Song Hua raised Gong for more than ten years. Is it too much to accept thanks? Why didn't Gong thank Aunt Song Hua? Why didn’t Gong’s parents arrange this link? It can be seen from this that Gong and his parents have very low quality.
The story of a netizen Spring: Gong is a little ungrateful wolf, and Gong's parents are a big ungrateful wolf. I'm afraid no one is willing to date such a family.
In short, netizens have a lot of discussions.
Lao Hu’s point of view
As the saying goes, a drop of water should be repaid with a spring of water. I believe that Mr. Gong and his parents should understand this truth. However, it is really puzzling that Gong and his parents forgot the dripping grace of Aunt Song Hua.
In our China, repaying kindness is a traditional ethics and moral . The ancients said that being grateful for one's kindness is an excellent quality of being a human being. "Book of Han: Biography of Gai Kuan Rao" says: "When obeying the law and promoting transformation, worrying about the world, even if it is beneficial every day, and if it is rewarded every month, it is not enough to repay the kindness of the duties."It can be seen from this that the ancients admired "repaying kindness".
As we today, we should be said to have more knowledge than the ancients, and we should know how to "repaying kindness" more. But Gong and his parents have repaid the kindness of Song Hua Auntie, no wonder they were scolded by netizens.
What do you think?
