For women, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a hurdle after marriage, and it is impossible to avoid it. After all, two people have different values and living habits, and there will inevitably be conflicts after getting along for a long time. If the husband does not act, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become more and more intense.
In fact, most of the time, whether it is the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or the problem of husband and wife, if it only involves the matter between the two, we can always find a solution. I am afraid that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law involves the child. The problem of husband and wife is due to the influence of the original family. Then, if we want to resolve the conflict between each other well, it will become more difficult. If we handle it improperly, the estrangement will be buried deep in our hearts, so that we can no longer get along with each other calmly.
Xu Li and Wang Hui are in love freely and have always had a good relationship. After three years of dating, they entered the palace of marriage as they wish. However, as time goes by, Xu Li discovered that her husband is a mother-in-law and her good deeds are limited to two people alone. Once the mother-in-law participates, her husband will choose not to act or favor.
Perhaps the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are really natural enemies. After getting married, Xu Li always feels that her mother-in-law doesn't like her. She always ignores her when chatting, and likes to find things for herself. She will belittle herself from time to time. Fortunately, she doesn't live together, so Xu Li often chooses to be tolerant, otherwise she would have had a big fight.
until later when I became pregnant, my mother-in-law's attitude changed a lot. She rushed over to take care of her daughter-in-law and carefully arranged food and drinks. She didn't even let her daughter-in-law do housework. During those days, Xu Li really thought that her mother-in-law was very good, but after the child was born, her mother-in-law changed because she gave birth to a daughter. She preferred boys over girls. When she learned that she was a granddaughter in the hospital, she immediately turned around and left, went home to pack her things and left.
Afterwards, my husband called her and asked her to come over to help take care of Xu Li during confinement, but my mother-in-law said directly: I have given birth to a daughter, and I’m so embarrassed to ask me to take care of her. After saying that, she hung up the phone. Her mother-in-law's voice was loud and Xu Li could hear it clearly. Since then, she no longer had a good impression of her mother-in-law. In those years, she had to rely on herself to hold on to her. It was indeed hard to take care of the child by herself, but fortunately she still survived.
When the child went to school, Xu Li felt much more relaxed. She could also go out to work and support her family with her husband. But at this time, her mother-in-law's health was not as good as before. Her husband talked about her mother-in-law's situation in front of Xu Li, but Xu Li remained silent after hearing it.
It was not until that day that my husband said: Mom is old and in poor health. Can you go over and take care of her? I know you have conflicts, but they are all a family, so there is no need to keep worrying about it. After hearing this, Xu Li replied: There is a conflict between your mother and I, and that is also caused by you. If you hadn’t been doing anything and would not solve the problem, would we have made a fuss to this point? It's impossible to ask me to go back and take care of her.
The husband was speechless after hearing this and could only sigh. His wife was right, and he could not refute it. He also knew his wife's personality well, so the decision he made would not change. Later, Xu Li decided to give her mother-in-law three thousand yuan a month, but it was impossible to take care of her.
As the saying goes, ten years to look at the mother-in-law, and ten years to look at the daughter-in-law. Only with a good mother-in-law can there be a good daughter-in-law. If the mother-in-law is biased and always treats the daughter-in-law as an outsider, it will naturally not be able to get the respect and filial piety of the daughter-in-law. If the mother-in-law can get along harmoniously, as an elder, the mother-in-law must set a good example first, rather than relying on her seniority. Otherwise, once the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot be adjusted, it will only end up in a mess.
Gorky once said: Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all difficulties and difficulties in the world together. You should know that among all family relationships, only the relationship between husband and wife is the most important, so men cannot choose to escape, but should protect their wife. Otherwise, once the wife’s heart is cold, the relationship between husband and wife will not be able to go back to the past, and it will be too late to regret it at that time. #Marriage##Emotional Firm##Emotional##Emotional#
