has many possibilities, such as:
1, to balance yourself.
If your marriage is unfortunate, then it would be too painful to bear this misfortune by yourself. So in order not to face this pain alone, I may persuade others to enter marriage and feel this misfortune with myself, so that while making myself misfortune, at least not so lonely.
is similar to eating a sour grape, then holding it back and not spitting it out, and even cheating others that it tastes delicious and letting others eat a sour grape. Finally, I feel very happy when I see others crying sour.
An even more exaggerated example is: an emperor in ancient times died a son, and then the minister advised the emperor to mourn. The emperor was very unhappy and sentenced the minister's son to death. In the end, the emperor felt a little more happy.
2, a lucky mentality.
Although your marriage is unfortunate, not all marriages are unfortunate. So when you feel that the misfortune of your marriage is just an exception and most marriages are still happy, then you may persuade others to get married.
3, the constraints of traditional concepts.
If I got married because of others' persuasion, if my traditional concept is very serious and I think that people need to get married, then even if my marriage is unfortunate, I will still feel that getting married is the right thing, or in other words, something that must be done.
4, the eyes and pressure of people around you.
For example, your parents may have an indifferent attitude towards whether you want to get married, but your parents are very concerned about others' perspectives and think that if you don't get married, you will make you feel embarrassed and embarrassed. Therefore, even if your parents' marriage is not happy, they will choose to persuade you to get married, or even force you to get married in order to avoid gossiping others.
5, unfortunately is just a part of the marriage.
A marriage is accompanied by many colors, including misfortune and happiness, including joy, anger, sorrow, joy, joy, separation, birth, old age, sickness and death.
So you see the misfortune of the other party's marriage, but you can't see the whole of the other party's marriage. Therefore, there is an unfortunate part of the other party’s marriage, but there are other colors of the marriage, and the other colors may be something the other party also hopes that you can have and experience.
6, idle.
Although others are trying to get married, they may not have much thought on you if they are trying to persuade you. Similar to the fact that during festivals, a family member always has to say something when they get together, and the matter of not getting married can become a topic of conversation, that's all.
As for whether you can be happy when you get married, they don’t care, so they advise you to get married or something, but they can actually ignore it.
In general, those who have their own unhappy marriage will also persuade others for many reasons, but no matter what the reason they will persuade others to get married, they are just persuading them.
When we face their advice, we can just listen to it. After all, our own life needs to be decided by ourselves, and every choice we make requires us to bear the responsibility and consequences of the choice.
Happy~
