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"Let yourself go, don't let your life be so humble." This is the most shocking words I have ever heard during this period.
A very outstanding friend around me, who wants to settle in a Nordic country and would rather be a blue-collar worker than go, which makes me feel a bit incredible. Where isn't you living? Why do you have to travel thousands of miles to a foreign country to make a living?
It was not until she said to me, "I surrendered and want to let myself go. Don't let my life be so humble!" I suddenly realized that our life was so humble!
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6 when he was finally in elementary school. He respected his teachers, united with his classmates, and sang happily with his red scarf every day. How happy our lives are. When he was 12, he only let himself know what a school district house for rich people is and what inequality is. Students who usually have poorer studies than themselves have been selected as the best school through high-priced school district housing, but they can only go to an ordinary middle school.
html When he was 018, he finally got into college through hard work in his own 007 town, but he didn't know that this was just the beginning of his humble life.22, after graduating from university, unless one of them passes the public examination and enters the system, he can only follow the crowd and enter the "996 Blessing Company" promoted by countless "Ma Da Haoren" and engage in the blessing days of waking up and going to work and going to work after get off work every day.
25, after working for a few years, he finally lowered his head, admitted his "I am ordinary" traits, and found a bad girl to start a family through blind dates and family introductions. I spent 4 or even 6 wallets to get enough of the down payment for a wedding house.
28, the child was born, carrying the layers of burdens of mortgage loans and children's education, and finally entered the most helpless and humble stage of life, from a teenager who thought he was a psychological age to enter the ranks of middle-aged social animals. At this time, we were almost willing to do any work to keep our jobs, to keep our houses with a 20-year repayment period, to keep our children’s school choice fee, , tutoring fees and tutoring fees, and we are willing to do all kinds of work, and we work hard.
35, as the body and energy decline, unless you have climbed to the management position of a large, medium-sized stable enterprise at the end of the pyramid, you will inevitably fall into the circle of dislikes of the 35-year-old workplace. The salary cost of young people is lower than that of you, but their enthusiasm and energy for overtime are much higher than that of you. If you can avoid being disliked? What followed was a series of job transfers, persuading them to retire and choosing a career again.
40, I finally paid off my mortgage and car loan. But my parents are old and in poor health, and they are trapped in endlessly taking their parents to the hospital, asking about retirement and accompanying them in front of the bed.
48, when the child was about to graduate from college, he had to start emptying all his savings to buy his child's house and spend on marriage. Sometimes, I still don’t have enough savings for half my life, and I have to borrow money everywhere.
55 years old, you may have to send off your parents and your wife's parents one after another, and face the birth of the third generation. Whether to let your wife retire early to help take care of the children has become a troublesome thing in the family.
60, after nearly 40 years of hard work, he finally retired. But what followed was that the income was reduced by nearly half. How to use the retirement salary to take care of yourself and your wife's elderly and sick body, health and medical care troubles have become the topic of trouble.
70 years old, his body was getting older and lacked care, but his child was working hard outside and his family had to take care of him. Whether to choose a nursing home has become one of the last few worries in life. But if you have visited affordable nursing homes several times, you still decide to die at home even if you die, because you think those are hell!
80, most people were consciously or unconsciously about to or had already completed this humble and miserable life.
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Looking back on this painful life, we can’t help but ask, Why do we have to live so hard in our lives? Why do we have to accept such a difficult life? Can we change it?
Looking at the sufferings of life, it can be easily found that marriage (real estate) and children (fertility) are the biggest origins of suffering, followed by health and elderly care issues. Therefore, there is a common name in the current society: real estate traps and fertility traps.
200 years ago, an American writer walked into the Walden Lake by the forest, lived there for several years away from the crowded hut, and wrote the popular " Walden Lake ".
He farms alone by the lake, chops wood, harvests grain, sells his own output and then exchanges for some necessary daily necessities. His life is dull, fulfilling, peaceful and happy. Whether it is " bullfrog whimpering, inviting the dark night, the music of the nightingale rides the rippling wind and spreads " or " The sun's light forms a right angle. The warm wind blows away the fog and rain ", it makes people feel a faint sense of peace and happiness when they are there. The significance of this book
is that it can make many people understand that in fact, replying to a simple life can also make people very happy!
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But can we do this too? The answer is very difficult! The inculcation of conscious or unconscious social values makes us and the people around us require everyone to use sacrifice and dedication as the main theme of society. This minimalist life of self-satisfaction and self-happiness is often not accepted by the entire society. For example: The master Sanhe who has always been a joke in China. Although
is a bit exaggerated, Sanhe God’s inner satisfaction and happiness are not less than a white-collar worker or a gold-collar worker with severe workplace anxiety. There will be even more, but they have been mocked and ridiculed by the whole society.
Imagine that 200 years ago, the American writer Lenglo gave up his social status, rich income work, family relationships, mansions and manors, and came to the shore of Walden Lake alone to live in seclusion. He relied on his own hands to harvest and farm. He even had no lamp oil for a time, and could only get up and sleep when his eyes fell. If it were Chinese society, it would have been a variety of criticisms such as "psychopathy, crazy" rather than recognition of his spiritual world satisfaction.
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So this has also become the root cause of pain for more and more young people. In 2020, the university education rate of China's appropriate population has reached 70%! More and more young people with higher education are beginning to rationally examine their life plans.
Do you need to consciously put the mouth of the social animal on the grounds of fulfilling family obligations and social obligations, and take out your life to become a reproductive machine for the family and society? Many people have expressed with actual behavior, "NO!"
As of the end of December 2021, according to statistics, the number of single people of appropriate age in China has reached 240 million.
As long as I run fast enough, this unsuspecting sadness will not catch up with me!
As long as I don’t buy a house, don’t get married, don’t have children. I can live a comfortable life!
I can punch 997 blessings, and choose 007 days after stepping on it! I worked in the factory for 2 months and lying on my level for 10 months. Whoever asks me to work overtime will let me get out! What, you said you are the boss? Then I'll get out of here! There are 4,000 yuan screws everywhere. If it really doesn't work, I can go and deliver 2 months of takeaway.
If you sell a house in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou for 1 million yuan per square meter, it has nothing to do with me. I can go to a series of places with 20,000 yuan per house, such as Hegang , to lie flat.
You praise your child's education as a flower and has nothing to do with me. I don't want the child to be as troubled as I am when I give birth. I exile myself and do not marry or childbirth. As for social responsibility? Forget it, I pay taxes on time, and I don’t break the law or violate the rules.
However, although we feel that we do not hurt others and are as worthy as possible, there are still tides of social and family pressure! If you don’t contribute to society, you are disloyal, and if you don’t work hard to have children, you are unfilial!
It seems that if we don’t do a 996-year-old blessing society animal, don’t bear the debt of mortgage loans, marriage loans, and child raising debts, it’s just like we are sorry for society and family! More and more people are reluctant to go home during the New Year, and even regard returning home as the biggest psychological burden and torture!
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Sorry, I decided to let myself go and not let my life be so humble. More and more people have decided to go abroad to help! I have nothing to do with patriotism or feelings, I just want to imitate Thoreau 200 years ago, find a quiet land of the soul, and live a difficult life with the identity of the eldest of the living beings.
Note: Thanks to Sister Miao for her inspiration, I hope Sister Miao will succeed as soon as possible.
