Why are the people around me sometimes unreliable? Because there are no eternal friends, only eternal interests. From strangers to acquaintances, from cooperation to friends, from friends to close confidants or besties, two people are inseparable from interests from beginning to end. Because the closer the relationship between two people is, it means that more interests intersect. The more intersecting interests, the easier it is for the interests to be unclear. Once the interests are entangled, disagreements will arise, leading to conflicts due to interests. The longer time goes by, the easier it will be for confrontation and confrontation. The accumulation of long-term conflicts will inevitably cause your once best friends to become your worst enemies. In serious cases, they will frame you behind your back. Therefore, if the person you trust most wants to betray you, it will be the most fatal blow to you.
Because he understands you, he will start from your most fatal weakness and make you unable to guard against it. Why don't ordinary people hurt you the most? Because you know that he is your enemy and has already set up many obstacles. They can't get close to you, let alone get to know you deeply. But the people around you are completely different. They know you well and can retaliate and attack you effectively quickly, accurately and harshly, and they also pretend to be good people. If everyone knows that he is your enemy, no one will believe him when he says you are not good. But if people around you say you are not good, everyone will believe it. In addition, people around you usually hurt you in secret, making you unable to guard against them. You think you are good enough to him, but you have no way of knowing what he is thinking in his heart, whether he is already resentful of you. Often the person who kills you may be the person next to you. You are in the light and he is in the dark. You have no way to prevent him from hurting you.
In this case, what should we do in work and life? Especially if you are a moderate leader in the company, how should you handle the relationship between you and your boss and between you and your subordinates? As a middle-level manager, you can neither be condescending nor humble. Because there are leaders and bosses in higher positions above you, you have to do everything personally, and your subordinates think that you are just doing chores for them. After all, management work is to unite the subordinates in your department around you. The more united you are, the more effective your work will be, and the more you will be appreciated by your leader. Otherwise, you will become passive. Here are some tips for you, I hope it will be helpful to you.
First, don’t let the people around you know too much about your secrets.
No matter who he is, even if it is your brother, sister, or a couple, the secrets you cannot let them know must be kept well, and don’t expect it. Others will keep your secrets for you. Everyone knows that if one word is passed down to ten people, it will be passed on to hundreds of people. In the end, the more the word is spread, the more it changes its tone, distorting the facts and creating contradictions. In particular, some colleagues like to spread false news through hearsay. And because everyone understands things differently, what they say changes completely, and people in the workplace who talk everywhere are immature. As you can see, there are too many couples who get divorced because of a third party interfering in the marriage, confusing right and wrong, and causing distrust in each other. Therefore, no relationship can be unbreakable. The core secret should not be told to anyone. Silence is golden.
Second, keep an appropriate distance from your closest people
If a person stays with you for a long time, even if you are good at taking care of the other person's interests and emotions, there will inevitably be times when you handle it improperly, which will invisibly increase the distance between you. interests and emotional entanglements between them. It is normal for people to have joys and sorrows, partings and reunions, distance creates beauty, and long separation is better than newlyweds. I believe everyone understands these truths. This is why many company bosses change their secretaries or transfer positions every few years.
Third, if you find someone who has dissatisfaction with you, get rid of him as soon as possible.
If you are suspicious, don't use it. If you employ someone, don't doubt it. If one day you feel that the person next to you is no longer suitable to stay by your side, no longer suitable to continue to cooperate or be friends, and when the rift in your relationship cannot be repaired, then you must act first and let him leave as soon as possible. your vision. Even if you don't deal with him, he will leave you with trouble in the future, which is tantamount to self-destruction.
How to treat the people closest to you? Whether friends, relatives, couples, colleagues, or besties, you must keep an eye on things and learn to see the subtleties. Because the people in the world who you love the most and hurt the most are often "your own people." If you have a weak sense of prevention, you may fall into their hands sooner or later. Do you think this is right?
