《friends》
I am going to use Classmate K to get traffic again - after he deleted me because of his girlfriend.
To put it simply, K is the (male) Shen Jiayi of those years, but as long as Ke Jingteng likes it, I will be the (female) Ke Jingteng.
When K was in college, he added a girl to his friend list on QQ and chatted with her for more than a thousand days. Later, K went to the girl’s city to find her after graduation, and the two established a relationship. I realized something was wrong when I saw his profile picture as a couple. Yes, the iron tree is in bloom?
Although he was shy, he admitted it generously and told me their sweet love story.
A boy who I really liked is now single, and this feeling is still a bit subtle. So I told another friend, C, about K’s divorce, just to sort it out.
Who knew that C’s mood was more subtle than mine? He said: Ah, even K is single? Then I am not the only mother and solo, ah! ! ! !
I laughed to death.
However, C got divorced within half a year. Similar to K, the two women were very serious when they fell in love solo. They were model boyfriends who pledged themselves to each other for life.
I also have a brain problem, so I followed the clues and found K’s girlfriend’s Weibo, scrolling through them one by one to see the traces of their love - it really makes me sad, I love it at the same time.
My feeling after reading it is that there really is no iceberg man. Iceberg men are all sweet ice cream men when they fall in love. They are just icebergs to people they don’t like (me back then).
However, this does not prevent me from making special complaints about K to all my friends -
"I am still a classmate in high school. He deletes me when he says to delete him! I am the first one to follow his Weibo besides Weibo Assistant. His girlfriend is the latest fan, bastard, no friendship at all!
Trash! "
I don't know how angry I was when I said this (we have known each other since high school, at least for seven years now) ), a bit of disappointment, a bit of chilling, a bit of subtle jealousy (delete me for my girlfriend) and secret pride (I can still disturb your lives).
But one feeling is certain: The high school years he represented and people like him who have no chance to keep in touch are officially gone in my life.
Even if he didn’t delete me because of his girlfriend’s troubles, it is almost inevitable that we would drift apart, like most ordinary friends; it’s just that deleting me gave this slow growing distance a kind of Just a more intense ending.
What completely woke me up was Hong's words: "Who are you? His girlfriend is the one he will live with in the future."
I said stiffly: "Oh, we don't necessarily want to get married."
But I know in my heart that Hong is right.
Whether they will get married or not has nothing to do with me. What hurts me is another reality -
Except for a few truly intimate people, most people are not that important.
The further you go, the truly intimate people will gradually shrink from friends to "best friends", and then to the "wife/husband" in the legal sense.
The range of people we are close to is constantly shrinking. Those who were once close will become distant due to encounters, and those who are close now will also accept the shuffling of positions in the chess game of life as time goes by.
Actually, K and I have not become distant. Now that I think about it, to be precise, he and I have never been close.
Have I really understood K? No, I always looked at him with a phantom mirror, and he never gave me a chance to understand him. When I had the opportunity, I had no interest in understanding him.
KDo you understand me? have no idea. We can chat sincerely, but we don't really know each other very well. Whether it’s his female classmate in high school with whom it was more natural for us to fight and fight, or my male best friend who can do whatever I want without any scruples, we each have someone we are truly familiar with and close to.
I am a fanatical girl who liked him, and he is a boy who I liked who filled my fantasies. This is the most accurate definition of each other.
If you carefully go through the hundreds of people in the list, you can easily find out who is important and who is not important; you know the important ones very well.
We all know what has never been important before, what we have only briefly understood, and what we can have fun having a good time.
One of the mistakes we often make is to waste the energy, time and mood that should go to important people on unimportant people.
I am a typical person towards K -
Obviously he was only important during that period of time, and has long been unimportant in real life, but I am still worried about "I can say nothing to him" angry.
This is not his problem, it is my failure to figure out who is really important in my life.
He is closer to her, as they should be.
You have to think about who you are closer to, but he is definitely not on this list, and he has not been on this list for a long time.
People who are important in both directions are the ones who deserve your sadness; but people who are important in both directions often don't make you sad.
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About the author:
Awan, born in 1998, is a subway ecological observer and a rookie translator.
is losing weight for the Nth time and has a mildly hard-working personality.
Focus on the one most important thing.
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