Although it is said that the elder brother can help his younger brother. After all, it's normal for brothers to help each other. But did you act appropriately when helping your brother? If you are careless when helping your brother, you will definitely be the one who regrets it later. Just like the man in the article. You were helping your brother, but you ruined your own marriage.
You go too far in helping your brother. Even if it is me, let alone your wife, I will divorce you. I hope this case can make all men pay attention. Don't let such a tragedy happen again. The son-in-law drove his parents-in-law away mercilessly. The husband said: My brother needs a wedding room when he gets married. I said: divorce.
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37-year-old Ms. Wu:
Many people say I am wrong. Including my relatives and friends. They told me that a married daughter is like water thrown out. You don't need to divorce your husband over your parents. First, you are not an only child. If you are an only child, you must be responsible for your parents in the future. Now that your husband has driven your parents away, that is indeed your husband's problem.
The problem is that you are not an only child. You obviously have two sisters. Then why don't your parents go live with your sister? Your parents have lived with your husband for several years, right? So even if your husband drives your parents away. You cannot impulsively divorce your husband because of this matter.
The second question is, if you divorce your husband, what will happen to your children? Are you a cruel mother? If you divorce your husband, your children will be helpless in the future. There is a saying that a child with a mother is a treasure. A child without a mother is like a blade of grass.
Do you want your child to be as cheap as a piece of grass? Forget it, you have to endure certain things for the sake of your children, not to mention that your married daughter is just water thrown away. In the past few years, you have paid enough for your parents. The third question is that you are already in your 30s now and will be 40 soon. This is a very embarrassing age.
What will you do if you divorce your husband? Should I remarry? If you are a mother, you can easily find another man. The question is, you are no longer young. Can you still have children in your 30s? If you can have children, you should be able to force someone to have them. The problem is that these things may not be possible.
What will you do if you don’t have children? Moreover, giving birth to children now belongs to advanced maternal age . Do you want to risk your life? If you don't handle it well, you may be gone for the rest of your life, so no matter what, it's for yourself. Either for the sake of your children, or for the sake of this family, you cannot choose to divorce impulsively. Although I know those people have a point.
I think I am not wrong, I must choose divorce. All they said was to think about things from my husband's perspective. Then you haven't thought about me at all. So today I tell you this matter, please help me comment on it. If it were you, what would you do?
If it were you, would you choose to divorce? Anyway, I think I have to choose divorce, not just divorce. I still want to take back everything that belongs to me. It’s not that I don’t want to live with my husband, it’s that he doesn’t want to live with me. He forced me to do this.
I have been married to my husband for 12 years. During these 12 years, my husband often helped his younger brother. My husband always tells me that he is my younger brother. As an older brother, shouldn’t I help? If my older brother doesn’t help, then who else in the world will help my younger brother.
My brother is in good condition, so I must take care of my brother. So I had to help my brother. I have no choice but to help. If my brother doesn't need help, I definitely won't help, but my brother needs help. Every time I hear my husband say these words. I will be very angry for no reason.
My husband said, just don’t be angry, okay? Who are you showing this face to? What's the use of being angry? He is my brother and I have to help. It is natural for an elder brother to help his younger brother. If you really don't want me to help my brother, this might be the last time.
I'm so happy. After the last time, I will never let you take care of my brother's affairs. Every time is said to be the last time, but after every time there will be a next time. I don’t even know what my husband said. Is it true or false? Gradually, I no longer wanted to care about this matter, because there was no point in arguing with my husband about such matters. As long as it's not too much, I don't want to worry about it.
But now my husband has done something very outrageous. That is actually giving my house to others. Even if I give my house to others, I will also drive my parents away. That day I came back from shopping for groceries. I now find that my parents are not at home, and I have only left home for less than two hours. Why are my parents not here anymore?
My parents have been here for three years. The demolition compensation there was more than 2 million yuan, and a house was added. A house is worth more than 2 million. My parents feel that the conditions in my family are not as good as those of my two sisters. So I was given a house. Then he distributed more than 2 million to his sister. At that time, my parents let us children choose on our own. Then our two sisters also agreed to this plan.
After all, my sister already has a house to live in. It is good to be able to get more than 1 million. Although it is not as good as the house of more than 2 million, they are satisfied. My brothers-in-law didn't have any objections either. Then my parents came to live at home because of this incident. I think that’s right, my parents have given me so much.
Take this house as an example. It’s more than 2 million. Where can we take care of ourselves with more than 2 million? With more than 2 million, you can go anywhere for retirement, right? Even if you go to a nursing home, or even hire a nanny to take care of you, it's fine. Two nannies are enough.
After my parents came in, I was very good to them. But now my parents are not at home. Even if the person is not at home, even my parents’ luggage is no longer here. My hometown is no longer there. It was expropriated during demolition.
If my parents weren't here, it would be okay to go somewhere without people being here. Maybe they went out to play, but now they don't even have their luggage. What is going on? I also wanted to ask my wife what was going on. Before I asked my husband what was going on, my husband took the initiative to tell me about this matter. My husband said to me, why are your parents so ignorant?
They have been living here for several years. Why don't you want to leave? I have made it clear to them that I want this house to be useful. My brother is getting married soon, and I want to lend the house to my brother for the wedding. But your parents won't listen, so don't force me to do it.
I had to drive your parents away, but I have arranged a place for your parents to go. Although your parents are ruthless and unjust, as a son-in-law, I cannot treat your parents like this. I have asked your parents to go to your two sisters. Just don't come here in the future. Anyway, I don't want to see your parents again. I've already told your parents about this.
heard her husband say this. I couldn't help it. I was very angry and said to my husband, have you mistakenly thought that they are my parents? Do you really treat them like this? What do your parents owe you? Why did you drive my parents away? My husband was not happy hearing me talking like this. Then my husband said to me impatiently, didn’t I just make it very clear?
First, my brother is getting married. He doesn’t have a house. As a brother, I must help. But what I can promise you is that this will definitely be the last time. I will never help my brother again. It's very inconvenient for your parents to be here. I told them, but they refused to leave. They insist on occupying this house and say that the house belongs to you.
Then how could it be yours? It belongs to our family anyway, and I am the head of the family. Don’t I, the head of the family, have the right to deal with this house? I told you a lot of truths, but your parents didn't listen. In the end, I couldn't bear it and drove your father away.
Although I did this excessive thing, I didn't do it in front of you. Because I don't want to make it difficult for you. So I advise you to trick your parents when you go out to buy groceries. You have to remember that everything I do is for this family. If my brother can't get married, I won't be able to live with my brother's feelings.
That’s why I did this. I know you feel uncomfortable, but you don’t need to worry. I have already told your two sisters about this. They will definitely pick up your parents at the station. It would be nice for your parents to go to your sister's place. Your two sisters both received more than 1 million back then, so it's time for them to provide for themselves in retirement.
And your parents also said at the beginning that you are not necessarily required to support them in old age. So now you have to go to your parents. Is there any problem with your two sisters? I think it's okay. With a snap, I slapped my husband. I slapped my husband in the face, and I said to my husband, are you going too far?
Does this house belong to you? Although you are the head of the family, this house is not yours. How can you make such a decision? It is everything to our family anyway. You usually help your brother, and I don’t even want to talk about you. Now you want to give my house to your brother?
If I hadn't been with you, what would my relationship have with your brother? Not even a dime. Also, you have helped your brother so much. It will always be the last time, but the last time will always be the next time. Now I have to give the house to your brother. Do we still have to live with this? Where else are we staying? The more he spoke, the angrier he became.
After I slapped my husband. My husband was also angry and slapped me on the face. This slap knocked out my teeth. You can imagine how hard my husband used it. My husband told me, don't push yourself too far. I've already spoken to you nicely. I am the head of the family. Even if the house belongs to you, I have the right to drive your parents away.
Because I am your husband, as far as your parents are concerned, I have nothing to do with your parents. What happened to driving them away? I don't want to see them in my family. Also, I have already given the house to my brother, so what if it is your house? we are Family. Do you care about the house?
I don’t care, I sent the message to my brother, don’t think about it again. What else can I say? Then I helplessly told my husband, since you have already decided, what else can you say? Let me help you and let's get divorced. After the divorce, you can share the house with your brother, and I will definitely get it back.
I was kicked out by my husband because of this. This is how things are. Shouldn't we choose divorce when faced with this matter? It’s not that I want a divorce, it’s that my husband went too far and actually drove my parents away. This house belongs to my parents. I've never seen such an outrageous man. Am I wrong?
Conclusion: You are not wrong about
. Although you are not an only child, you still have to do this. Let's just say, if you don't treat your husband this way, you will definitely lose the house in the future. This house belongs to you, and it is all the guarantee given to you by your parents.
What if you don’t have a house and your husband kicks you away? Not to mention that your husband knocked out all your teeth because of this. What does it mean? It shows that your husband doesn't love you at all. If this is the case, then divorce and let your husband live with your husband's brother. I have never seen such an outrageous man.
I can even say that you don’t have your family in my heart at all. If there is this family in your husband’s heart, how can I force you to do things like this? The house is yours.You have nothing to do with your husband, but your husband forces you to give your house to your brother-in-law for marriage.
This is too much. If it were me, I would choose divorce. Don’t care what others say. Just say whatever others like. If you don’t choose divorce, you will regret it in the future. You must be divorced to ensure that own rights and interests, and at the same time prevent yourself from being bullied again. So there is nothing wrong with your choice of divorce. If it were me, I would do the same.
