Daniu Busy Marriage and Emotional Case Series Keywords: divorce, lover, three children Article length: 3300 words original article, plagiarism will be investigated If you don’t love me, please tell me early and give me a reason to leave. I'm not young anymore and I can distinguis

Daniel Busy Marriage and Emotion Case Series

Keywords: divorce, lover, third son

Article length: 3300 words

Original article, plagiarism must be investigated

If you don’t love me, please tell me early and give me a reason to leave. . I'm not young anymore and I can distinguish and see everything clearly. Don't deceive me.

If you really love me, please nod.

As long as you treat me sincerely, I am willing to be your wife's substitute. For this love, I will follow you wholeheartedly and never want a reputation...

The above is the original words of a divorced woman in a marriage case.

She fell in love with a man with a family, and the promise "for love" came from her mouth and became a long-lasting obsession in her heart.

In her narration, her ex-husband did not know how to live a good life. Not only did he idle around, he would also occasionally beat her. The couple had been married for more than 8 years. Desperate for the marriage, she chose to divorce to let herself go.

She plans to spend the rest of her life alone and does not want to fall in love again. But only one year after the divorce, another love came quietly.

After several encounters, she fell in love with a married man and willingly became his lover. She knew that the other party had a wife and children, but she still loved him hopelessly.

After the Dongchuang incident, the man had to break up for the sake of his family and hoped that they would not contact each other again.

Before the breakup, she cried heartbrokenly. She said, I just want to love you secretly and swear that I will never have a status.

When the man saw her in grief, he finally couldn't bear it and took back his decision to break up. After that, the two continued to date and quietly maintained this underground relationship until she was heartbroken by this relationship...

1. Only when you love to the end of the road do you know regret

The time of falling in love was like a fleeting moment, and three years passed quietly in the blink of an eye. .

The relationship between the two is getting better and better. Apart from not being married and having children, they spend more time with each other than many couples spend together.

The older a woman gets, the more she wants to have a family. At nearly 40 years old, she is completely intoxicated in this love.

Not only did she forget her original promise of "no status", but she also put forward more demands for each other's future.

Under her repeated insinuations, the man gradually developed a sense of crisis in his heart. For the sake of his family, he began to deliberately alienate her, and the rift between the two parties arose.

One day the two met and had a quarrel over trivial matters. The man yelled at her and told her to get out. Feeling aggrieved, she finally showed her cards and spoke her mind.

She said: I have followed you wholeheartedly for several years and have never asked you for anything, because I love you more than your wife. You swore you truly loved me, but I never felt your love. It was you who let me down. I am almost 40 years old and I finally got up the courage to get pregnant. It was God’s will. The rest of my life is left to you. You can’t push me away, but you have to give me an explanation!

The man was flustered and persuaded her to give up the child.

Because they were both very excited, the two started to quarrel, and the quarrel became more and more intense. The night after the quarrel, she got drunk and ran to the man's house without saying hello, forcing him to divorce her and marry her.

In the end, she miscalculated. She had given so much affection to him, but she was still not as important as his wife in his eyes. Because of this risky trial, not only did she fail to marry him, but her relationship ended as well.

Even if she stopped forcing each other and vowed again not to destroy his family, she still could not avoid the fate of breaking up.

Faced with the final choice, the man chose his wife without hesitation and did not want to continue dating her.

Although he admitted that he liked her, he could not let go of his family. For the sake of his wife and children at home, he could only break up cruelly, give her a certain amount of compensation, and end it completely...

It's hard to turn back when you fall in love, but fortunately you can stop in time when you face the dead end.

After the breakup, she tearfully gave up the child in her belly. Falling in love will be in vain in the end. Loneliness brought her regret, and she thought too much about this relationship from the beginning.

In the end, she realized that there is a kind of love that will not last forever. Kiss me, I am a man's emotional game, and being in love with each other is just my wishful thinking...

2. Women who have been hurt by love are more eager for love

If you ask me to analyze, is this lady's way of pursuing love wrong? What did she do wrong? Already?

Logically speaking from the " self " of life, there are many choices in life, and everyone yearns for a better life. Although there is no absolute right or wrong when it comes to relationships, there is always right and wrong in the end.

This is a very profound underlying emotional logic: whether it is right or wrong sometimes just depends on the subsequent success or failure.

Since she failed to marry her lover as she wished, then from the day she fell in love with him, every step she took was wrong, and the more wrong she became, the more outrageous she was.

Her mistake was that she was self-righteous and only cared about her own thoughts without considering the harm to others.

In the emotional world of adults, the human heart is deeper than the sea. No matter how much a person contributes to his marriage and family, he may be replaced by another person. No matter how much you pay for love, it may just be your wishful thinking...

Everyone longs to be loved. For love and the future, some people may do anything.

This "dove occupying the magpie's nest" approach is very extreme, and it is understandable when there is no other way out, but don't really think that love is omnipotent.

No matter how willing your love is, if it harms other people’s marriages and families, this love is immoral. Even if you devote yourself to love without regrets, if your efforts are fruitless in the end, you will have to bear all the consequences.

In life, women like the above are quite common. Some people dared to muster up the courage to tell about that experience, while some people gave up and kept the secret in their hearts forever.

They usually have one characteristic: their last marriage was not satisfactory, and they are determined to divorce just to let themselves go.

At the beginning of the divorce, they did not think about having a vigorous love again. But by chance, they were moved by another love.

Women who have been truly emotionally hurt have a similar mentality and do not dare to believe in love easily. They often appear to be repulsive to others, but in their hearts they long to be loved deeply.

From a psychological point of view, this is a fragile "false balance" state.

Once this balance is out of balance, all the indifference once turned into double enthusiasm. On the contrary, all enthusiasm will turn into double indifference.

Once a divorced woman falls into a sudden love, it is easy to be moved by herself and double to compensate for the loneliness and emptiness she once felt. Knowing that this "love" is unreasonable, yet willing to give foolishly.

They have hope in their hearts and are eager to wait for a miracle. I always think that I have met the entrustment for the rest of my life. When I am infatuated, I love to talk about dreams, but after waking up from the dream, I have no chance...

3. Love and hate entanglement, don’t forget the cause and effect

This lady’s emotional experience is very representative, and her ending is even more representative. .

Many times, the "love" of married people and divorced people is like a game from the beginning. You can love, but if you fall in love with a man who betrays your marriage, it will be a harm to yourself and another woman.

Once the motives of some thoughts are revealed, that so-called love will lose the foundation for its continued survival. Crazy testing on the edge of the red line, hoping to occupy the magpie's nest. Once you can't cross that line, you will never be able to cross it again.

At that time, the person who was once the most infatuated will be the saddest person.

Although this lady was heartbroken by this unrealistic love, fortunately she stopped in time and did not bring greater regret.

She said: I have loved him willingly for three and a half years. In order to marry him, I have tried all my efforts and failed in the end. I gradually thought about it. Now that he had made his choice, letting him go would be considered a defeat.

As she said, sometimes, the most powerful power of love is not to make people persevere for its beauty and romance, but to make people recognize themselves in time at the last moment.

Even though some feelings make people sad, being able to recognize yourself in time is also a kind of growth. There is nothing wrong with falling in love with someone, but it must be wrong with falling in love with someone who has a family.

4. A brief marriage case

I remember that in another marriage case, a woman once told a similar emotional experience, with a similar process but a very different ending.

There is only a little space left in the article. Let me briefly talk about this case. I will tell it in her own voice. I will only tell it truthfully and edit it slightly to improve readability.

My marriage should have been happy, but my ex-husband cheated on me and abandoned me.

After I divorced my ex-husband, I became a loner. That marriage hurt me so deeply that it almost ran out of tears.

So much so that for 2 years after the divorce, I never dared to start another relationship easily. I insisted on living alone and rejected several suitors. It's not that I don't want to be loved, it's that I have a fear of men.

Unfortunately, there are still obstacles in my life, and I didn’t escape them after all. A love that shouldn't have happened suddenly disturbed my heart and slowly changed my destiny.

I got off work too late that day, so a colleague sent me home, and we stayed together that night. Just like in a dream, he suddenly hugged me and said he loved me very much. I was so confused that I suddenly lost my sense of proportion and forgot to refuse...

From then on, we became lovers.

I know this relationship is immoral, after all he has a wife and children. But I don’t know why, I fell deeply in love with him and wanted to be with him forever, and he often said he loved me very much.

If happiness is achieved by myself, I am willing to work hard again.

If I miss him for the rest of my life, I will accept my fate. If there is any other possibility, even if I am called "San'er", I will work hard to fight to the end...

After dating for about a year, I became pregnant with my child. I cried with excitement that day, hoping that he would give me a status, fulfill his promise, divorce me and marry me. But he said, we can't have this child, let's break up.

In order to force him to compromise, I gave birth to a child in a desperate attempt. I thought he would accept his fate and eventually accept me. But in the end, he only recognized the child and did not accept me.

He gives his children 2,000 monthly expenses and doesn’t even want to talk to me.

The child grew up with me and is now 5 years old. Because there is no father, the child has low self-esteem.

He is a heartless person. He not only cheated on my feelings, but also did not give his children enough fatherly love. He knew that we orphans and widowed mothers needed him, but he and his wife had another child.

I am so stupid. If I had not been so wishful thinking, maybe now I have found a man who truly loves me...

This is the end of this marriage case. If I don’t write a long article, I won’t go into more details.

There are feelings of love and hatred in life, which come back thousands of times. There are causes and effects of love and hate in the human world, which are difficult to describe. Regarding love, everyone must have an open-minded attitude. Some people are okay to love and some are best kept at a distance.

Logically speaking, a man who fails his marriage and family is not worthy of a woman’s love. A woman who wants to destroy other people's families does not deserve sympathy.