I was chatting with a colleague today and after hearing about her and her ex-husband, I felt a little speechless!
A colleague and her ex-husband have been divorced for five years. The colleague is single and has a daughter. Her ex-husband is married and has a daughter.
Her ex-husband would come to live with her every now and then, and used sweet words to seduce her and prevent her from having a boyfriend. It wasn't until six months ago, after some advice from a good friend, that he consciously refused his ex-husband's unreasonable demands. Her ex-husband didn't achieve his goal, so he retorted: What's the point of sleeping one more time? We've been sleeping together for several years and we have children, so it's just one more time!
I really couldnāt bear to listen, so I said: Donāt do those things you shouldnāt do after a divorce. Iāve slept with you, and Iāll call you cheap when I go out! Unexpectedly, my colleague said: He doesnāt say bad things about me, he likes me! His wife was infertile, and her daughter was treated as a test-tube baby. I was speechless again. I thought to myself, such a young and shrewd woman has so little brains!
Although we are colleagues, we have a good relationship (if the relationship is not good, I will not inquire about other people's personal affairs), so I asked her: Then why did you two divorce? She said: She doesn't care about her family, has no ambition, goes out to drink and have fun every day, and is very scumbag (playing with women). I said: Since you got divorced because of all this, why do you still let him continue to be a scumbag with you? I didn't say the following sentence, but you have become the most disgusting women in your marriage.
She said: Sister, you donāt know, in those few years, I was depressed, and I didnāt know what I was doing all day long! Now when he comes to see me again, I won't open the door for him as long as it's night, unless he drinks too much and keeps knocking on the door shamelessly. I'm afraid of disturbing the neighbors, so I open the door for him and ask him to give my daughter a bed to sleep on. I advised her: next time this happens, call his wife and see if he still dares! She said: Aren't you afraid that his wife would be angry if she found out? I said: If he stays out all night, wonāt his wife be angry? She didn't answer and changed the subject!
However, I was not led astray by her, and continued: "Except for the children's matters, normal interactions, other matters are not discussed!" Donāt live your life as the āthreeā that we are all disgusted with. She blushed and nodded.
Women, especially women after divorce, sometimes unknowingly become the person they disliked the most!
A person must have a bottom line, this is education!