Author/Original: Qian Yichanjuan In "Happiness Comes to Wanjia", He Xingfu's family offended Secretary Wan and had to put down everything at home and go to the city to work with her husband Wang Qinglai. After arriving in the city, Wang Qinglai's mood became worse and worse and h

Author/Original: Qian Yi Chanjuan

In " Happiness Comes to Wanjia ", He Xingfu's family offended Secretary Wan and had to put down everything at home and go to the city to work with her husband Wang Qinglai.

After arriving in the city, Wang Qinglai's mood became worse and worse and his temper became worse due to various difficulties in work and life. In the past, he did not smoke or drink in the countryside. After arriving in the city, he also learned to drink to relieve his sorrows or take out his anger on his wife, He Xingfu.

As the plot progresses, more and more people are complaining about Qing Lai, and they even shout, why doesn't He Xingfu get a divorce? Why are you guarding such a useless husband? More and more people are calling on He Xingfu to divorce him, and their voices are getting louder and louder.

But is Wang Qinglai really that bad or bad? Although Wang Qinglai was not an upright man or a good husband, after entering the city, he continued to engage in various embarrassing or villainous behaviors. But no matter how he changes his face or becomes darker, it is still not to the point where it is unbearable or unacceptable.

What's more, when you understand all his childhood experiences, you will understand that his sudden change of face and darkening is actually a protection for his inner conflict.

After Secretary Wan accidentally kicked him in his private parts, he lay on the hospital bed and screamed in pain. After

was transferred to County Hospital , his mother cried heartbrokenly and guiltily at the dinner table at home. He said that he had been bullied and wronged since he was a child, and he never dared to resist or talk back to others, let alone argue or fight. Because I was used to being bullied, I was afraid of interacting with others.
But this time, he dared to go to Secretary Wan alone for the compensation for the vegetable plot. The secretary asked him to go to the Wan Chuan family to deal with it, but the Wan Chuan family ignored it and felt that they wanted too much. Wan Chuanjia called him again and went back to find his father, Secretary Wan.

At this time, Secretary Wan had just been exploited by his nephew and became so angry that he told his nephew to get out. Not long after his nephew left, before his anger subsided, Qinglai came to him again and asked for the remaining 60,000 yuan in compensation, which made Secretary Wan even more angry.

He said, you said you wanted 80,000, so I have to give you 80,000? You are all greedy and greedy.

Qinglai: Uncle, how can you talk like this? If you don't give me an explanation today, I won't leave.

As a result, Secretary Wan, who was furious, kicked him without thinking. Unexpectedly, it hit the vital point.

Later, from this injury incident, I realized that I had been bullied and wronged too much. The more I tolerated and retreated, the more others would bully me.

After arriving in the city, life and work were not going well, so I changed into a different person. I felt irritable and depressed, and had a hot and uncontrollable temper, so I was always against others, or had a weird attitude.

From Qinglai, we can see the sadness and helplessness of honest people who are always wronged and bullied. I also saw how humble and miserable life is for children from poor families in rural areas.

Qing Lai, who is honest, introverted and closed-minded, has been bullied and wronged. What he has experienced in the past and present is so heartbreaking.

The change in his mentality or personality is not only normal and reasonable, but also in line with human nature.

Because I have been bullied and wronged too much, my heart is extremely imbalanced. If I don't express it outwardly and attack others, I will hide it inwardly, attack myself, and turn into depression, leading to depression .

Some people turn all kinds of grievances into resentment and hatred. Who knows, one day they will ruthlessly retaliate against the people who have wronged them. That is a terrible and irreversible consequence.

Therefore, if you have grievances and inner imbalances, it is good to vent them to the people around you. It shows that he needs an outlet to vent in his heart. If he can vent, his mood will not be blocked, and he will not be depressed in his heart. After accumulating into illness or hatred, he then carries out revenge, which will be unimaginable and terrible consequences.

Therefore, He Xingfu always had a patient, considerate, tolerant and understanding attitude towards him.No matter how angry he was at her, or what derogatory or unpleasant words he said to her, she would not argue with him, but would use the tenderness of a woman and the tenderness of a wife to ease and resolve his anger and injustice.

Isn’t Qinglai just like the thousands of gay men around us in reality? Who hasn’t been bullied and wronged since childhood? But if you can bear it, endure it. Many hardships are buried in your heart and you have to bear them yourself.

Only in front of people close to you, parents or wife, can you take off your guard, get angry with them, and relieve the injustice and fatigue in your heart.

No one is perfect, everyone has their own bad times, low points in life, bad temper and bad attitude towards the people around them. It is better to be able to lose your temper, be angry and vent your anger with the people around you than to bear all the sadness, grievance, pain and helplessness by yourself.

Of course, we do not advocate getting angry at the people closest to you every three days. This will hurt the family environment and hurt the relationship between family members, especially the relationship between husband and wife.

also hopes that the celebrants can adjust their mentality and emotions as soon as possible, and face life, work, and their own responsibilities with an optimistic attitude.