Interpretation of emotional topics will take you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional reliever, but you must know how to let yourself go!
article | Feng Ding Ye Mo
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When facing feelings, most men and women cannot think on the same frequency!
Men care more about practical value. At the same time, under the condition that the real value is satisfied, men are more inclined to satisfy their desire for conquest and possessiveness.
It’s just that men’s bad nature reflects the reality of human initial desires through “liking the new and hating the old” and “changing their minds when seeing new things”. Men always express this more strongly than women.
Yes, a man will be driven by desire and cannot stop lusting after a woman who brings him a sense of freshness.
Men, after all, are completely unable to resist the attraction of a new love. This point exactly explains the fundamental reason why among many betrayers in marriage relationships, men are more likely to be betrayed than women.
What men pursue in relationships are all "visible". As for whether it can last forever, it depends on who can bring him higher practical value under the visible premise.
In the relationship between men and women, men almost never stop weighing the pros and cons along the way.
Being extremely concerned about practical values and caring about inner feelings are extremely contradictory expressions of men and women when it comes to relationships.
The main reason why it is difficult for men to resist a new love, in addition to the practical value and initial desire, there are the following reasons:
: In a relationship where the woman is too strong, the man will lack recognition. Therefore, he will move the missing parts of himself outside the relationship to seek satisfaction.
: In a relationship where a woman is too cowardly, a man will be imprisoned because of his desire to conquer, so he needs to find a woman who can "speak the opposite" to him outside of the marriage relationship to make up for the satisfaction of his desire to conquer.
: Women are virtuous in their marriage and love relationships, completely empathizing with men and considering men's feelings, making men become overconfident "children". That's why I think that I am also very attractive to other people of the opposite sex.
: External stimulation in ordinary years will give men the passion and confidence to return to their second spring. Once passion is ignited, it is like a flood that has opened a dam and cannot be contained again.
Based on the role of rationality, men generally do not pay too much attention to the details of emotional relationships. In their hearts, they are afraid of "trouble". Unless the trouble you bring them arouses their desire or hurts their heart.
Otherwise, your "trouble" is a man's choice between alienation and closeness when weighing the pros and cons.
Some people will say that women also have betrayal behavior. Why do we only say that men like the new and hate the old?
In fact, men’s betrayal and women’s betrayal have completely different psychology.
When a man betrays you, it is small to seek comfort outside of marriage and love, but the stimulation of pursuing desire is the real thing. As for whether he can return, it all depends on the practical value.
However, generally speaking, a man's most ideal state is if he can exist at home and outside the home.
When a woman betrays, it is often because the feeling mechanism is damaged in the marriage relationship. She thinks that men don't care about her anymore and don't love her anymore, so they are attracted to people who make her feel better.
However, although she has chosen someone who is "good" to her, whether she can truly let go of her ex depends on how "excellent" her ex is.
Do you know? Women can’t resist an “excellent” old love! This is really realistic!
No matter betrayal or breakup, as long as the ex is good enough and can keep in touch with the woman, then the woman will find it difficult to resist. This kind of excellence is not due to how much material reality it brings to women that makes women irresistible, but because women admire and are attracted to it from the bottom of their hearts.
As for men, no matter whether they betrayed or broke up, after they have a new love, most of them will not forget the woman from the past. Unless, the former woman can give the man a higher actual value than the new love.
A man’s rationality lies in putting the direction of real life first and feelings second when facing feelings. Therefore, in relationships:
If a man who once left you because of a new love comes back, his purpose must be impure!
The sentiment of a woman is that even if she is not in the old love, but the old love is good enough, she can always leave a place and opportunity in her heart for the old love.
Therefore, when facing relationships, we often hear:
If a woman separates from you because of her old love, it must be because you are not as good as her old love!
When faced with relationships, women constantly improve themselves, increase their existence value, and create freshness with men... For the sake of their own lives, and to prevent men from comparing themselves to others when they meet a new love.
In the face of feelings, men constantly work hard, correct themselves, and transform themselves. While creating more security for women, they also hope that they can be the only "hero" in women's hearts:
For the sake of their own lives, they also want to prevent themselves from being betrayed. A woman's old love is gone.
If you want your man to refuse external temptations, you must learn to set a reasonable bottom line, be affectionate without losing your individuality, always satisfy the man's emotions, and get along with him in a balanced way.
At the same time, we must cultivate both internal and external aspects to become an authentic and indispensable value entity. As long as you meet a man's visible and tangible real value needs, he will have to be with you.
If you want your woman to have no shadow of your ex in her heart, you must first conquer her heart with your true strength, high-end character, and big picture, and then use your meticulous tenderness to make her feel that you care about her. Care and deep love...
Then, your woman will not compare you with her ex in her heart, nor will she cherish any opportunity to reconcile with her ex!
In fact, the relationship between men and women, whether it is practical value or inner feelings, is a game of wisdom.
When you love someone deeply enough, you will reasonably use effective methods to become an inseparable person for the other person.
However, you have to understand:
Relationships always go in both directions. There is no way you can keep a person who has changed his heart! If a person who has changed his mind comes back again, he will leave again because of the same "dissatisfaction".
If you have other people of the opposite sex in your heart, it will be difficult for you to guarantee that you will stay with them for a long time.
Relationships are not child's play. Once you hold hands, don't let go casually. When men and women interact, the only thing they can do is make their eyes meet each other. If 's peripheral vision distracts 's attention, it is doomed that the relationship will not last long!
So, does the person you love regard you as indispensable in life?
Love is the purgatory of man in this world. Be it love or friendship, only when you meet the right person at the right time can you achieve success!
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Topic discussion: Will you change your heart about the person in front of you because of your ex or the new person? If you feel uncomfortable saying it to others, leave it in the comment area below!
