Text | Immortal Tang Jiuqing said in "Southern Zen": "So there is nothing wrong with having sex on the bed. From the moment I take off my clothes and belt, I show my love for you every step of the way. Every step is heavy and not light. All my debauchery is here you are.

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Tang Jiuqing said in "Southern Zen": "So there is nothing wrong with having sex on the bed. Starting from taking off your clothes and belt, every step is like loving you. Every step is important and not light. My Leave all the indulgences to you. "

Living a married life between husband and wife is the most basic behavior in marriage. Apart from the need to have children, it also has many benefits for the marriage relationship. Only when they are in harmony can the relationship be sublimated. , each other also becomes better each other.

However, I saw a video not long ago, in which the wife could not bear the huge demands of her husband, and even made a fuss in order to leave her husband and not let her husband touch her. However, the actual reason is not that the wife really does not like the life of a couple, but were the last words she said.

Ms. Li is 27 years old this year and has been married to 31-year-old Mr. Zhu for nearly two years. Logically speaking, this is still the season of newlyweds, but these two years have made Ms. Li extremely painful. The main reason is Mr. Zhu. Ms. Li has different requirements for the frequency of married life.

From the time he got married until now, Mr. Zhu has asked for a married life almost every day, and he has been very rude every time. At first, Ms. Li could bear it with gritted teeth, but after a few months, the frequency did not decrease but increased. This made Even Ms. Li, a first-time wife, couldn't bear it.

also communicated with Mr. Zhu many times about this, but with little success. Mr. Zhu still played with Ms. Li on his own, which made her exhausted and sore almost every day.

The long-term "inhuman" treatment made Ms. Li very painful. She had no choice but to go to her mother-in-law to communicate with her husband, hoping that her mother-in-law could persuade her husband. However, she did not expect that her mother-in-law's words were not effective, and in the end, her mother-in-law even tried to persuade her husband in turn. Ms. Li said that she knew that her son's needs were greater, so she had to endure it, as the man would not last long.

However, she endured this for more than a year, but the frequency still did not decrease. On the contrary, Ms. Li went to the hospital many times because the couple's life was too rough. But the most chilling thing is that on the first day after Ms. Li came out of the hospital, she didn't expect that Mr. Zhu would still have to live as a couple. If Ms. Li didn't give in, Mr. Zhu would forcefully take advantage of her.

"I even wanted to die. I jumped over a river once and was saved from death in the end. It was too painful for me to live like this. He is simply not a human being, he is just a beast."

Ms. Li said this Commenting on her husband made Mr. Zhu feel helpless. He kept telling his wife that he would pay attention. This time he really listened. As long as his wife was willing to forgive him, he would be willing to kowtow to her even if he took only three steps. .

's words were actually very sincere, but Ms. Li didn't believe it at all. She said bluntly: "If you can do it, then all the dogs in the world will not eat shit." It seems that it is because of too many disappointments. And it made her completely despair.

In fact, it can be seen that Ms. Li did not express all her inner thoughts. In order to get her to express everything, Ms. Li was finally called out alone. Ms. Li cried and told the reason why she married Mr. Zhu. .

It turns out that Mr. Zhu used to work at a construction site. Because his family was poor and his appearance was not good, he was unable to get married. Ms. Li was the accountant at that construction site. Although the two knew each other, their interactions were not deep.

However, one day in the company, Ms. Li had an accident. At that time, Mr. Zhu saw a heroic effort to save the beauty, and this saved Ms. Li's life. However, Mr. Zhu's legs were disabled because of this, even though he was not injured. Paralyzed, but unable to walk as flexibly as before.

Ms. Li was also a temperamental person at that time. If someone saved her with his life, she would repay him with his life, so she finally chose to marry Mr. Zhu to repay his life-saving grace.

However, in the two years from the beginning of marriage to now, although the time together has been short, Ms. Li still does not have any love for Mr. Zhu and only feels that she is repaying a favor. Therefore, this reason explains why she is having such a hard time.

Back in the room, Mr. Zhu still kept begging his wife to forgive him. After all, he was born with great needs, but his family was poor. Even when he was in good health, it was not easy to find a wife. Now he cherishes his wife even more and does not want his wife to leave him. .

But Ms. Li insisted on getting a divorce. If she didn't get a divorce, Mr. Zhu had to agree to one condition. Mr. Zhu agreed immediately, but became silent after hearing the conditions.

It turns out that the condition requested by Ms. Li is to let Mr. Zhu become a eunuch . In this way, she will live with Mr. Zhu for the rest of her life, and she is willing to not have sex with men for the rest of her life.

But these words made everyone silent. After all, a physiologically normal man cannot be turned into a eunuch just because of conflicts between husband and wife.

However, in the end, the mediator said that it would take at least a year if the two people filed for divorce. He hoped that Ms. Li could use this year as a time to examine Mr. Zhu. If he behaves well, then there will be no divorce. Otherwise, he will not divorce. Divorce, after all, marriage is not easy.

Ms. Li agreed after thinking about it, but asked Mr. Zhu not to touch her even once this year. Mr. Zhu gritted his teeth and agreed.

There is an old saying: "Food, sex, sex", which means that it is human nature to pursue food and beautiful things. In fact, this also includes married life. In my opinion, married life is also an indispensable thing in marriage. A very important part of love.

But why is Ms. Li in so much pain? In fact, it's not that she doesn't need it, there is only one reason, that is, she has no love for Mr. Zhu!

Although she is married to Mr. Zhu, this feeling is repayment and gratitude, but it is never love, and sex without love is just torture, because the mind can lie to itself, but the body cannot lie to itself, without love. My body is like a dry desert. Even if there is a large rain forest, it is just a mirage.

This also shows in disguise that the joy of sex is due to love. Similarly, sex without love is just mutual torture and it is difficult to maintain a married life.

For Mr. Zhu and Ms. Li, there is no doubt that he does not want to leave. He may really love his wife, but Ms. Li really has no love for him, so don’t stick to this kind of marriage. This kind of love is just Hurt each other.

There is no force or force in love, only willingness or not. Choose love when you can choose. This is not only kindness to yourself, but also respect for the other half. After all, if you are together without love, you will have a body but no soul. , he is also rarely happy.

Letting go of each other to find a more suitable love will make it easier for long-term happiness. Not only Ms. Li but also Mr. Zhu, who is kind and capable, will definitely have his own long-term happiness. This is the true meaning of marriage!