Text: Chu Lanqi uses the simplest words to give you warmth, companionship, guide you to grow, and help you become strong. What consumes a person is never the outside world, but oneself. Inwardly and mentally, not letting yourself go is the greatest drain on yourself. A few days a

Text: Chu Lanqi

uses the simplest words to give you warmth, accompany you, lead you to grow, and help you be strong.

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What exhausts a person is never the outside, but himself.

Inwardly and mentally, if you don’t let yourself go, it is the greatest drain on yourself.

A few days ago, a friend complained to me. She said: "I had a fight with my colleagues recently, and I felt so aggrieved that I couldn't sleep for several days."

I asked her, "Why were we quarreling?"

She was so angry. She answered me coaxingly: "Hey, just because the trivial things are not worth mentioning."

I comforted her and said: "There will inevitably be friction and contradictions between colleagues, so don't be so serious and careless."

Many Sometimes, we have to choose to turn a blind eye, which is the best way to let ourselves go, and it is also the key to stopping internal friction.

Only by not arguing or caressing can you avoid getting angry.

When you forgive others, you are actually being kind to yourself.

Only when you have a big heart and can tolerate people and things can you focus your energy and mind on big things, and only then can you plan for big things and achieve great things.

If you don’t care, you won’t feel wronged, let alone painful, and you can live your life calmly and calmly.

Only when a person stops internal friction can he achieve himself to the greatest extent, and can he live happily and realize his own value at the same time.

When a person stops internal friction, in fact, he starts by letting go of three things.

01

Let go of the worries

Nietzsche once said: "Fight with the dragon for too long, and you will become a dragon; stare into the abyss for too long, and the abyss stares back."

In and In the process of entanglement with others, you will also lose yourself. A peaceful state of mind, even mired in unworthy disputes.

A smart person will not care about bad people or get entangled with bad things.

I know a couple. They always argue, often quarrel, and sometimes even fight. There is no peaceful life at home.

Let me tell you, it is understandable to argue over big things and big conflicts.

However, their quarrels were all about trivial matters.

The reason is that both people care too much, and even the smallest thing can become the trigger for a quarrel.

I heard that once, because the woman fried the vegetables and the food was salty, the man overturned the table without saying a word, and then the two had a big quarrel, but the neighbors finally persuaded them to make peace.

Between people, if you care less, there will be less disputes. Especially between husband and wife, there should be more understanding and tolerance.

When you care about others, you are actually consuming yourself, losing your inner peace, affecting your mood, and dampening the passion for life, making a person more negative and pessimistic, and never feeling happy again.

When faced with unpleasant things, don’t care about them, just smile and pass them by. You will find that you will gain more happiness.

02

Let go of desire

Desire is greed that can never be filled. Human nature is to never be satisfied.

A desire that is simply impossible to realize will only make you disappointed and despairing, and may even create an imbalance in your heart, and ultimately a mentality full of resentment.

I know a girl who comes from a rural area. Her family is not rich, but she has many desires.

Once, she said to me very depressedly: "How come other people are so rich, live in villas, and drive luxury cars."

I answered her: "That's how people are born, and they are born into wealthy families. , the starting line is the end point that others will never be able to catch up with."

She said angrily: "It's really unfair. It's hard to make me want anything."

Later, she became cynical. She complained all day long, feeling that her fate was unfair to her, and was unwilling to work hard. She only fantasized about getting rich overnight.

Excessive desires will only drag people into the abyss of cynicism, causing them to live in constant panic.

Only when a person adjusts his mentality, has no unrealistic illusions, and learns to work hard on the ground, can he find happiness in ordinary life and live out his own value.

03

Let go of the past

This life of a person is a process of constantly moving forward.

No matter what we have experienced, it will become the past, and the future is worth looking forward to.

However, some people are always immersed in the past and cannot get out of the past.

A best friend was dumped by her first love. She cried bitterly for a long time and could not let go. She locked herself in the house all day long and was unwilling to leave for anything. She did not like to eat. After a few months, it was enough. Lost more than 10 pounds.

The girl who loved to laugh, loved life, and was full of passion is no longer seen.

If a person cannot get out of the past, it will delay or even destroy himself.

In this world, no one can live without anyone. The earth can turn around no matter who you leave it; no matter who you leave it, you can still live.

Only by stepping out of the past can we live well in the present and embrace a better future.

Things in the past, no matter how beautiful they are; people in the past, no matter how sad they are, should be left alone in the past and let themselves embark on a new journey.

Only by letting go of the past can we stop consuming ourselves, stop sighing and being unhappy all day long, stop being negative and decadent, and can we start a new life with passion.

04

Message

Mr. Yang Jiang said: "We once looked forward to the recognition of the outside world, but in the end we realized that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others."

The most important thing for a person is not his life. Exceed what others expect look the way you want, but live the way you want.

Pursue what you want in your heart, don’t be disturbed by the outside world, don’t care about others, don’t blindly envy others, don’t immerse yourself in the past, and work hard for your dreams unswervingly, you will eventually be the best.

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Author: A woman who loves reading, writing, thinking, and dares to love and hate. Freelance writer, emotional mentor who has helped countless people get out of psychological difficulties.