Regarding marriage, it is a complex and unsolvable issue. A thousand people have a thousand understandings of marriage. Modern society has changed the "seven-year itch" in marriage into the "three-year itch". Previously, Papi Jiang talked about the order of his important people i

Regarding marriage, it is a complex and unsolvable issue.

A thousand people have a thousand understandings of marriage.

Modern society has changed the "seven-year itch" in marriage into the "three-year itch".

Before papi Jiang talked about the order of his important people in a program, first is himself, then his husband, then his children, and finally his parents.

is very praised by people for his correct views and his thoughtful arrangement, which he also agrees with. However, in real life, he will deviate unconsciously.

Everyone knows the experiment of boiling a frog in warm water.

directly put the frog into the water of 40℃. The frog couldn't stand the sudden high temperature and immediately jumped out to escape.

First put the frog into a container with cold water, and then slowly heat it, the result will be different.

The frog was relaxed and contented with the comfortable water temperature at the beginning. When he found that he couldn't stand the high temperature, he was already exhausted.

This phenomenon is also very common in love.

If a man tells you from the beginning that he has domestic violence tendencies, you will definitely give him a wide berth.

But if he acts gentle at first and tells you about his childhood shadow and the misfortune of his original family, you will feel distressed.

Later, he quarreled with you, couldn't control his emotions, and slapped himself. You didn't realize that this was a precursor to domestic violence.

Until he reaches out to you, you want to escape, but you have already paid too much cost of silence.

There are also some common tricks used by scumbags. When you are cold, he will come over to tease you from time to time. When you warm up, he will stride away again.

You can't help but contact him, and he will ask, "Do you miss me?"

You ask him why he doesn't contact you, and he will make all kinds of excuses. There are things at home and a busy career, which makes you unable to vent your anger. The lifting punch can only hit cotton.

When you let go of your defenses and talk to him, he will reveal that he does not want to get married, but he will still wildly hint to you that your appearance has given him a new lease of life.

His various ambiguities and tenderness are just like taking time to boil you with warm water. He told you that he doesn't plan to get married, just because he wants to wait for you to take the bait so that he can retreat easily.

You are like a fish in the market. The water has almost evaporated and you can't hold on any longer. He has no intention of letting you die immediately, but sprinkles some water on you miserably at the right time.

You can only lift it and jump twice in one breath to show him a lively look.

What is more painful than leaving after being disappointed enough is that you are in the pain of an uncertain future over and over again. He will not let you die, nor will he nurture you tenderly.

In terms of household chores, the kitchen sink is filled with dishes to be washed, and the bathroom is filled with smelly socks and dirty clothes.

The room was full of randomly placed items. The two of them seemed to have no feelings, sitting on the dirty sofa, lying down and playing their own games.

If you have children at home, toys are everywhere in the house, and there is no place to even put your feet down.

When it comes to work and career, I don’t have any ambition. I just want to be able to work comfortably and earn what I think is an ideal salary. There is no need to work hard.

No matter how bad things get, there is still the retirement salary support for the elderly, so there is no problem with basic life.

When I am young, I am not willing to go out and fight.

When there is no money to spend, neither person will admit that there is a problem with their own consciousness, and start to complain and accuse the other party, thinking that the other party is lazy and does not seek to make progress.

The two people quarreled over the trivial matters in their married life, but they would not correct their "lazy" character, nor would they feel a trace of guilt for their laziness.

The living situation of two people has been like "boiling a frog in warm water" to adapt to a plain and "comfortable" life. This is the most terrifying and taboo living state in marriage.

prevented them from feeling the pressure from the outside and slowly adapted to such a parasitic life.

accused each other of not seeking to make progress, blaming each other for each other's faults, and the conflict between the two people deepened.

knew that they could not bear the accusations of the other party and broke up with each other.

Before a person enters a "boiled frog in warm water" style of love and marriage, what he fears most is getting used to a "boiled frog in warm water" style of life.

There are always some people who are unwilling to suffer the hardships of study and life, and dare not step out of their comfort zone to try new challenges.

In order to get a long-term meal ticket, their relationship did not even have a window period. The only way for them to grow up and experience life is to fall in love.

In their eyes, love is bigger than the sky. If the sky falls, they are unable to withstand it.

Such people are extremely lacking in self-awareness and rely on finding sustenance and sense of existence from another person. Without the maintenance of a love relationship, it seems that they have lost their entire life and their self-worth and meaning.

It’s just that the risk of falling in love is too great. When meeting Sha Qianmo, it is a small probability event to be favored by one person alone. Life is filled with killings by a thousand cuts, which not only lowers your quality of life, but also dulls your longing for love.

Choosing a marriage is not about living with the other person’s strengths for a lifetime, but to live with the other person’s shortcomings for a lifetime. Even if he is brilliant, as long as there is one shortcoming that you cannot accept, it will become a lifelong pain.

In the past, cars, horses, and mails were slow, and there was only enough time to love one person in a lifetime.

Before deciding to run for a relationship, we might as well be more patient and test it more, and don't surrender ourselves completely so quickly and live dependent on others.

Making do with low quality is not as good as being alone with high quality. Instead of regretting it in the future, it is better to be more cruel to yourself now. If you have suffered enough in life, you will suffer less in marriage.

Later you complain about being unkind to others, just because you didn’t work hard enough in the past.

Falling in love is not easy, and marriage is even more difficult. As Voltaire said:

"Marriage is the only adventure open to the weak."

A woman, whether before or after marriage, should have her own independent life. world, rather than regarding family as the entire meaning of one's life.

Only women who can maintain their self-reliance and learning ability before and after marriage can truly take control of their own lives.