Today's article is dedicated to seeing off an old man. It's not pretentious, I just want to record some things about this old man for myself to look at later. I can't forget everything. This can be regarded as a commemoration. I have known the old man for more than ten years, and

Today’s article is dedicated to seeing off an old man.

This is not hypocritical, I just want to record some things about this old man for myself to look at later. I can’t forget everything. This can be regarded as a commemoration.

I have known the old man for more than ten years, and I remember three times most clearly.

The first time I met an old man was more than ten years ago.

That was the first time I visited an old man at his door and asked him to marry his daughter to me.

I prepared a lot of gifts. The one I remember most clearly was a box of three bamboos, which seemed to cost two to three hundred yuan.

I remember that my "sister-in-law" who was traveling with me at the time said something that left a deep impression on me.

"To buy fruit, it is better to buy twenty pounds of meat."

The old man lives in Guangxi. Although he is almost sixty, the old couple is still working in Guangdong and rents an old house in a village to live in. There is obviously not much that the old couple, who are dizzy and physically weak, can do, and their income is not generous.

When I first saw the old man, he was not tall and had a slight hunchback. He was smiling and amiable.

The old man personally prepared a table of food and diligently advised me to eat more. When we met for the first time, I didn't dare to be presumptuous. After chatting and laughing with each other for a meal, I was half hungry and half full.

After dinner, the old man called me to the yard. With a look of shame on his face, he took out a wad of money from his pocket.

"I don't know how to make money, so I don't have much to give you. Just keep these two thousand yuan, don't think it's too little."

I was shocked.

Before coming to see the old man, his parents told him to bring a lot of money and prepare more, at least 20,000 to 30,000 yuan. Don't be careless about the nature of the betrothal gift.

Now, it is the old man who gives me money!

hurriedly shied away, not daring to accept it.

"Dad, if you agree to let your daughter marry me, you have already given me the most precious gift! I have also prepared a gift of 20,000 yuan for you. How can I accept your money? I will kill you for this money." I don’t dare to ask for it!”

"This is the custom of our Zhuang ! You must accept it! The money is indeed small, but it is our heart. If you don't accept it, you just don't want to be my son-in-law"!

The old man's words are unequivocal and cannot be doubted or shied away from.

After accepting the two thousand yuan, I felt like I was sweating profusely and almost collapsed.

These are all true!

However, the Zhuang ethnic group is widely distributed in Guangxi, and customs may not be the same in every place. Don’t expect your father-in-law to give you money!

During the Spring Festival, I met the old man for the second time.

The brother-in-law's son and daughter were playing recklessly in the room and actually took a fancy to their aunt's wedding rings, necklaces and earrings.

The old man looked at his grandchildren with a smile on his face, regardless of how much those toys were worth. If

is lost, what will you do?

I had the intention not to let him play, but I couldn’t say it in front of my father-in-law, so I could only take my phone and go to the balcony to enjoy the cool air.

Fortunately, nothing was lost.

The child who has been playing for several hours still seems to be very interested.

Perhaps, realizing that I looked bad, the old man put away the jewelry, silently put it back in place, and told the child not to move any more.

The two children cried so loudly that one stomped their feet and the other rolled around, as if they would not give up until they were given.

Finally the old man did not compromise, and the brother-in-law took the child to buy toys.

When the brother-in-law came back with the children, everyone had toys in their hands and was very happy. As soon as I came back, I couldn't wait to take it apart in the living room and start playing with it.

My young man came over and wanted to play, but was rejected.

The young man suddenly pouted his mouth.

An inexplicable anger suddenly emerged.

went over to pick up the young man, turned around and wanted to go outside.

Perhaps the old man saw my displeasure and went out silently.

In less than half an hour, the old man came back with a balloon in his hand. He avoided the hands of his grandchildren and handed it to the young man.

The young man laughed, so did I, and so did the old man.

When we met the old man again, he was already sick.

Alzheimer's disease , memory continues to decline irreversibly.

As soon as the young man saw the old man, he ran over and called his grandfather.

I also went over and called Dad.

The corners of the old man's mouth trembled with effort, as if he wanted to say something. He opened his mouth a little, and his tongue kept trembling, but he couldn't say a word.

The old man's hand was also trembling, as if he wanted to touch the young man. Although he was very close, he still did not put it on the young man's head.

The young man ran away to play.

I held the old man's hand and felt his trembling.

's eyes were obviously full of tears, but they were just spinning.

"He can't remember you," the mother-in-law added beside her.

looked at the trembling old man, patted his hand gently, and left quickly, for fear of crying.

The last thing the old man remembers is two people, a mother-in-law and a grandma (the old man’s mother).

It is said that the old man was timid all his life. He never won when he quarreled with his mother-in-law at home, and even got beaten by her.

However, after the old man fell ill, he went out of his way and cursed at his mother-in-law, and even dared to throw things at her. Once, my mother-in-law was beaten and slightly injured. It is said that the old man hit her with a wooden stool.

I don’t know who I can remember or miss in the end.

After the old man became ill, his mobility became inconvenient. He even walked less and less, and it became more and more difficult.

That year, my grandma fell ill and was hospitalized. The old man came to see her tremblingly.

As soon as he entered the ward and looked at his grandma lying on the bed, the old man burst into tears. Just like a child, his nose and tears came down together. The people next to him were also in tears, and even alarmed the nurses and doctors in the corridor.

The old man left at noon yesterday.

will take the young man to see off his grandpa today.

Before leaving, recall the past contact with the elderly and consider it as a farewell.

good to go!

(Creation is not easy, attention is the greatest encouragement, thank you!)