01 If a man prefers his mother, a woman will suffer. In modern society, everyone has the ability to take care of themselves independently, and men are no longer the only ones women can rely on. But in a small family, the relationship between the couple will inevitably affect the

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If a man prefers his mother, the woman will suffer.

In modern society, everyone has the ability to take care of themselves independently, and men are no longer the only ones women can rely on. But in a small family, the relationship between the couple will inevitably affect the quality of life.

If the mother-in-law is very tricky, she will definitely become a troublemaker.

If a man chooses to protect his mother, the woman will most likely be "internally injured" by being angry in this marriage.

Xiao Wang (pseudonym) did not choose to defend his mother, and he is still a smart man.

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Xiao Wang has felt since he was a child that his mother was selfish and stingy.

Xiao Wang is a post-90s generation who lives with his parents and relatives in an old part of a first-tier city. At that time, the city was not very developed and the neighbors were relatively enthusiastic.

Because no one is rich, it is common for neighbors to borrow green onions, ginger and garlic, and to visit each other for candy.

Xiao Wang likes this atmosphere very much, and especially likes to play at his neighbor's house.

But my mother seems to be out of tune with everyone. She is most afraid of others coming to the house to borrow things or ask for help. She likes to speak ill of her neighbors and ridicule others behind her back. His mother often said: "They are all poor people, just trying to take advantage of me!"

Xiao Wang felt that his mother was doing this very badly, because he had also asked others for help. Sometimes Xiao Wang forgot to bring his keys when he came home from school. They stayed at the neighbor's aunt's house, and the aunt prepared delicious food for him.

Xiao Wang and his mother "took advantage of others", but his mother didn't say anything.

Later, the city gradually developed, everyone's income became higher, the population in the city became more and more dense, and every house installed security doors. From that time on, the connection between people was not so close.

Mother no longer complains about others taking advantage of her, but this is not a good thing for Xiao Wang.

Because mothers regard their sons, relatives and friends as targets of calculation, becomes even more carefree.

Xiao Wang knew that his mother's bad habits could not be changed, so he lived a makeshift life. He only felt that he and his mother were becoming more and more distant, and his mother also began to use money to measure his value. Let He was very sad.

Xiao Wang graduated from university. He wanted to choose a job that he liked, so he interviewed several companies but was not satisfied.

His mother called him and scolded him: "Do you want to be an old man? If you don't want to do this or that, I won't support you for the rest of your life!"

Xiao Wang is working. It is a career he likes, but the company is small and the salary is low. Not high enough and still developing.

His mother called him again and scolded him: "Hurry up and quit your job. Someone has recommended you to work as a lobby manager in a hotel. Come back quickly!"

In this way, Xiao Wang lived under the pressure of his mother and often felt depressed. anxiety.

Until Xiao Wang met Zixuan (pseudonym), the days of dating her were very happy. Even if Xiao Wang was scolded by his mother, he quickly put those bad things behind him. It can be said that love saved Xiao Wang.

So Xiao Wang loves Zixuan very much and wants to marry her.

After her mother found out, she asked Xiao Wang about the conditions of Zixuan's family and learned that the economic conditions of the woman's family were similar to her own. The mother was very unhappy. She hoped that her son would marry a rich woman.

Perhaps love made Xiao Wang grow up, and his future marriage gave him courage. He ignored his mother and decided to marry Zixuan.

Of course, this marriage did not go smoothly. Xiao Wang's mother kept picking on the girl's family, which made the girl's parents very unhappy and couldn't get off the stage several times. Zixuan knew that her mother-in-law did not like her, but she was brave and did not back down.

Half a year after their marriage, Zixuan became pregnant. Xiao Wang was very happy and worked even more overtime to make money to take care of his wife.

During Zixuan's pregnancy, Xiao Wang asked his mother-in-law to take care of his wife at home. He did not ask his mother, because he no longer expected her to help him at this time, and he only asked her not to cause trouble or cause trouble for everyone.

Zixuan gave birth to a boy. Xiao Wang’s mother was very happy. She ran to the hospital and saw her grandson smiling from ear to ear.

At this time, the mother no longer said anything unpleasant, and even said that she wanted to take care of the baby herself.

Xiao Wang was a little shaken at the time. After all, this was his biological mother. If the mother changed her bad habits, he still hoped that the mother and son could get along well.

took his wife and children home for confinement. Xiao Wang thought for a while and decided to find his mother.

Xiao Wang said: "Mom, didn't you say you wanted to take care of your grandson yourself? Now that Zixuan and the baby are back home, why don't you go help take care of the confinement child, tease the grandson, and ease the relationship with Zixuan? ..."

Unexpectedly, the mother stared and said, "What are you talking about? Are you crazy about me going to serve your wife? Let me tell you, There is no such obligation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! "What a good son, helped your wife take advantage of me."

Xiao Wang was speechless. His mother was still the same mother.

He went home a little disappointed, determined never to be deceived by his mother again. She would never really change!

More than 10 years have passed. Xiao Wang is now in his 40s, and his mother is in her 60s. Some geriatric diseases are also affecting her health. My mother has been feeling tightness and pain in her chest recently, so she had to go to the hospital for a check-up. After a check-up, she was found to have a myocardial infarction and needed to be hospitalized for observation.

Xiao Wang went to visit his mother. At this time, his mother was lying on the bed sickly, sighing.

His mother said: "You are busy at work and want to make money. Let your wife take care of me. This hospitalization will take a month..."

Xiao Wang rejected his mother's request on the spot, saying: "You were not yourself back then. You said that? There is no such obligation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. My wife was going to be in confinement at that time, but you refused. Now my wife has no obligation to take care of you. "

Xiao Wang paid for his mother. A caregiver also went back to work.

He actually also knows that when old people grow old, they just want to be with their children, feel cared for, and be cared for by their children. But his mother was too selfish. She only wanted to gain and not pay. He felt that taking care of her would not end well.

Let alone asking Zixuan to take care of her. I'm afraid it would be meaningless even for Xiao Wang to go by himself. This kind of effort is not worth it.

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Every family has a difficult scripture to recite. These days, it is difficult to say whether it is the parents who harm their children or the children who harm their parents.

In some families, the parents are of poor quality and cause trouble everywhere, but the children are well-educated and well-liked. Some parents are very good people, but their children are domineering, and everyone who sees them will avoid them.

Some parents just don't understand that if they don't practice virtue, their children will be harmed, and they themselves will not be better off in their old age.

1: Smart parents should establish a good family tradition for their children.

As parents, we should consider the future of our children. Having a good family tradition can not only establish a healthy outlook on life for our children, but also serve as a guide for our children in marriage and love. an advantage.

In a family with a good family tradition, the parents themselves are good at life, which will become an invisible guarantee.

When people choose a marriage partner, if they meet a person with good character and then learn that his parents have a good family background, then the marriage will be more than half successful.

Because everyone wants to live a peaceful life after marriage, No one likes to fight with evil people and add trouble to themselves.

In addition, establishing a good family tradition for children can also improve their standards when choosing a partner. After all, it is difficult for people who grow up in a good environment to accept the kind of life that is full of chaos.

Parents with good family traditions can help their children filter out many bad family members.

2: It is very important to examine the family culture of the other party before getting married.

Before getting married, inspecting the family culture of the other party can confirm the general environment of the other party's family from the side.

For example, in real life, people often hear comments such as the family tradition of such-and-such is very upright, and the family of such-and-such is chaotic. After all, there is no airtight wall in the world. Even if you live behind closed doors, some things will still happen. Reveal it.

Moreover, in the process of interpersonal communication, people of the parents' generation will also let people appreciate each other's outlook on life, personality, temperament, and family customs.

When getting married, choosing a family with a good family tradition can save you a lot of unnecessary trouble.

Families with good family traditions will probably not have tricky or trouble-making parents-in-law. The older generation with upright personal ethics also know how to respect others and will not deliberately bully the younger generation for some inexplicable reasons.

themselves are stronger, more independent, unwilling to cause trouble to others, and have their own dignity.

This is a good thing for newly married couples. They can have enough space for each other to get used to each other, they are not prone to conflicts, and they can treat each other with kindness.

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