Preface:
Many people say that the retirement life of those who have retired is simply not very good. After retirement, people don't need to meet people they don't like and have plenty of time to do things they like. After retirement, people do not need to worry about life. The pension will be paid on time every month, and they will wake up smiling from their dreams. But sometimes the reality is not like this. Let’s take a look at Aunt Zhang’s experience!
The 61-year-old Aunt Zhang said:
I am 61 years old this year. I used to be a worker in my workplace. Later I married a man from our workplace. After we got married, we raised a child. Our son is quite naughty and he often gets into trouble. At that time, I also tried very hard to educate my son, but he didn't listen to me at all and even always went against me. I really couldn't do anything with him.
Later, my son grew up. When he grew up, he went to work in a factory. After my son started working, his personality gradually changed. He was not as willful as before, and he also knew how to be considerate of me. He knew that I had sacrificed for him over the years. I have learned a lot, so he takes good care of me and often buys me gifts. Seeing the changes in my son, I feel very warm and feel that all my efforts over the years have been worth it. After
, my wife and I both retired. After my husband and I retired, we drove around for fun. Then there was a car accident. My wife tried to protect me and died on the spot. This incident had a great impact on me. I have never been able to get over the hurdle in my heart. I feel ashamed of my husband. If he didn't protect me like that, he wouldn't have died. I feel that I am the one who should die.
After my wife passed away, others also advised me to find another partner, but I was unwilling because I felt that I owed my wife too much. I only have him as my wife in this life, and I don’t want to find anyone else.
Later, my grandson was born. After my grandson was born, my son asked me to help him take care of his children. As a mother, it is normal to help your son take care of his children, so I went to my son’s house to take care of his grandson. I was very attentive. She took care of her grandson, but her daughter-in-law always felt dissatisfied. Later, she even called her parents.
Several old people live under one roof. It feels really awkward. I want to go home later, but my daughter-in-law is unwilling to let me go back. My daughter-in-law has also arranged that I will do the housework and her parents will take care of the children. Grandson will do. I feel very uncomfortable and feel like a nanny. Every day I have to clean and cook for them. My parents-in-law are not easy to get along with. They treat me like a nanny. If I do If I'm not good, they will scold me, which makes me feel aggrieved. I also want to complain to my son, but I'm afraid it will affect my son's marriage. After all, it's not easy to get a wife now.
After living in my son's house for five years, I really couldn't live in it anymore. During those five years, I got a lot older and I didn't dare to look in the mirror anymore. I thought I looked ugly in the mirror, so I decided to go back to my hometown. At least I still have a group of friends in my hometown, and I don’t have to worry so much. I can just live for myself. When I told my daughter-in-law that I wanted to go back to my hometown, my daughter-in-law got angry. She felt that I shouldn’t go back to my hometown and felt that I should continue. Being their nanny, I didn’t care about that much in the future. I had already given a lot, and I didn’t want to torment myself like this anymore, so I went back directly.
My daughter-in-law always hated me and rarely came back to see me. I felt it was too difficult. I am a single woman. I know why my daughter-in-law treated me like this. It was because I had no wife and no one could help me, so she He just kept bullying me.
Author's point of view:
People only see the side of women who do not need to work after retirement, but they do not see the other side of women who still make selfless sacrifices for the elderly and children after retirement.
Especially single retired women, they devote more to the elderly and their children. Therefore, as family members of retired women, we must give them more care, because their life is really not easy.
