Women's way of thinking is mainly emotional, so when they are in love, it will be easier for them to get involved and stick to each other more easily.
As a result, in addition to eating, drinking and having sex, the rest of their daily life consists of chatting with their boyfriends on their mobile phones.
"Have you eaten, have you slept, what are you doing" and "Good morning, good afternoon, good night" every day;
share with each other in detail what fun things happened today, and then look forward to the other person's blessings. Response;
Every day when I have nothing to do, I start talking on the phone. I talk on the phone while eating, while walking on the road, when I return to the dormitory, and at night before going to bed.
However, this approach is never conducive to the development of love in a good direction.
Because the words will always be finished one day, we may feel that we have nothing to do, but the other party may not necessarily. What if he still needs time to reply to our trivial matters in his busy schedule?
Also, voice and video can be played once or twice. If you play it every day, it will be annoying, you will feel speechless, and you will feel that this is a routine and a task that must be completed.
As time goes by, dissatisfaction accumulates, and the relationship will become devastated.
Therefore, what women need to understand is that to "fix" a man, you don't have to contact him every day. This will make it easier to conquer him.
The more you love a man, the more you have to learn to let go
We often say that distance creates beauty, so where does this beauty come from? In response to this, there is a line like this in the TV series " Husband " as an answer -
"Beauty is through the imagination of one's own mind, beautifying everything about the other person through one's own imagination, and creating a beautiful dream. . ”
In other words, it is precisely because there is a distance between one thing and this distance that makes us not very familiar with it, so we will automatically add beauty filters to it because of the unknown.
But there is a distance between ideal and reality. Once the distance becomes closer, then this beauty will begin to disappear due to full understanding.
For men, the desire to conquer and the desire for knowledge are the keys to maintaining a high level of interest in a relationship. As the distance becomes closer, all the characteristics are familiar, and there is no need to dig out or conquer.
then there won't be any interest at all.
Therefore, when we get along with men, we need to maintain a suitable distance so that the beauty created by distance can be maintained.
In this way, men’s desire to conquer is still there, their thirst for knowledge is still there, and their interest is still there, so our initiative in love is still there.
It is easier to conquer men when you use rational thinking to fall in love.
Because of the difference in thinking styles, it determines that there are differences in the way men and women deal with relationships:
For example, women can fall in love all day long. , but men can only be passionate for a while;
For example, women will regard love as all of their lives, while men will only regard love as a part of their lives.
Therefore, this determines that if a woman always focuses on emotional thinking in a relationship, she will face huge sacrifices, which we are unwilling to see and endure.
So, what should we do?
As the saying goes, know yourself and the enemy and win every battle. If we want to take the initiative in love, we might as well try to use reverse thinking, that is, use rational thinking to fall in love with a man.
We can see that when men are in love, they will not regard love as everything in their lives. They will also play games, or they will be in a daze, and they will not even reply to each other's messages instantly.
And we can also do this. When we are busy, we have no time to take care of it, and when we are free, we can say a few words.
Love is a game, whoever is "absent-minded" is the winner.
The best way to love someone is to give him a high-quality lover
We hope that what we have is a long-lasting and long-lasting love, rather than the short-lived and fleeting love.
So, what does a long-lasting love look like?
In this regard, Fudan University Professor Chen Guo once said: "Long-term love is falling in love with the same person again and again."
No matter who she is with, a woman is in a relationship or marriage. The self-enhancement in love is the key to them being able to truly retain love and gain everlasting love.
Moreover, the best way to love someone is to improve yourself, manage yourself well, constantly enrich yourself, and then give the other person a high-quality lover.
Therefore, we should not focus all our time and energy on men, but should focus more on ourselves.
Such as reading, such as sports, such as pursuing a career, such as improving oneself, etc.
The most important thing in the relationship between the sexes is to have irreplaceable value. This is the key to whether we can have the right to speak in relationships, and it is also the key to consolidating the status of the relationship between the sexes.
So, love yourself well, please yourself well, and improve yourself well. Investing in yourself is the thing with the highest return rate in a woman's life.
