Me, Vietnamese people, I have been dating online for 4 years and actively proposed marriage. I am so happy to be married to a Chinese husband. Show me the world
Narration: Lotus
Organized by: Mr. Xiao Han
Pictures: From the Internet, intruded and deleted
My name is Hehua, from Vietnam, 29 years old this year. Eight years ago, I met a Chinese man online. He was still a graduate student at the time. They told each other about the culture of their country and discussed their expectations for the future. Unknowingly, the two hearts became connected. However, This online relationship lasted four years before we met, mainly because I had no money to go to China, but he was worried about a girl he was dating online, so there were unspoken secrets between us.
I have been waiting for online dating for four years. I have reached the age of 25. In Vietnam, at this age, a leftover girl is considered an older woman, so I took the initiative to propose marriage and wrote a paragraph on the Internet. At this time, he also worked to earn money and gave it to me. Travel expenses, and then, I went out of the country for the first time and came to a strange country, just to be with my dear ones.
came to China and chatted happily with each other. He is much more handsome than the photos on the Internet. He is very gentleman and well-educated. And I was not polite and moved directly into his house. I have always recognized this Chinese man for the rest of my life. My mother-in-law urged us to get married, but at that time I only had a passport and needed to return to China to apply for a single certificate. This time, he accompanied me back to Vietnam. It took nearly three months to get the marriage certificate. The moment I got the certificate, I felt very happy. I became a Chinese daughter-in-law and lived a happy life.
I was born in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam in 1993. My father is a manager of the seafood market and my mother is a housewife. She takes care of the food and daily life of our four children. The family lives a very happy life. When I was a child, I was smart and lively, good-looking, and very sensible. I started helping my mother with housework when I was a few years old. I was also very good at studying and even went to college.
Vietnam is different from China. Both boys and girls have to learn to do farm work at a very young age. Although I was born in a big city, my family is not particularly wealthy. There is still some farmland at home, which requires my mother and a few There are two brothers and sisters to take care of it. After all, this farmland is to ensure the food rations of the whole family. Dad's salary is not very high, but in order to live a better life, the whole family works hard.
When I reached school age, the school was more than two miles away from my home. I walked to school every day. There was no school bus, and my parents didn’t know how to pick me up. After all, in Vietnam, being able to study is a very lucky thing. But the children are all playful, and they have to walk for an hour even though they are more than two miles away. Every time they get to school, they either miss the time for class or are late.
The conditions of the school are not good. The desk is an old table that has been used for decades, and some benches are missing a leg. Although it is simple, I will still study seriously when I get to school.
From elementary school to high school, I was the best child in the village. Later I went to college. For the first time in my life, I had my own mobile phone. Even though it was a second-hand mobile phone, I still felt very happy.
Compared with Chinese children, our life is too hard. I only came into contact with computers after I went to college, learned to type, and studied English very hard. I also registered a social account. Unexpectedly, just over half a year after registering, I was in I met my current husband Tang Wenlong (hereinafter referred to as Wenlong) online.
He is from Sichuan. At that time, he introduced that Sichuan is a "paradise of gourmet food". I still didn't believe it. After all, I have never been to Sichuan. As we get to know each other more and more, I will wait for him online as long as I have time. 's appearance.
From September 2013 to January 2018, during the Spring Festival, we dated online for more than four years. Even though he wanted to see me, he felt that Vietnamese women would be deceitful, so he was always worried. And I was I don’t understand why Chinese men are prejudiced against Vietnamese girls? And this answer will only be revealed after arriving in China.
In the past four years, we have actually given each other gifts. He has mailed me giant panda dolls, Sichuan bacon, and other specialties, and I have also sent me Vietnamese spring rolls, fried elephant fish, etc. Special products are given to Wenlong. At this time, I was also learning Chinese on my own, and the information books were mailed to me by Wenlong from China.
As I graduated from college and got older, my parents urged me to get married. After all, in Vietnam, it is normal to get married at the age of seventeen or eighteen, and I am already in my twenties. It can be described as I was in a "very anxious" mood at that time, but Wenlong didn't want to get married so early. As a girl with very fashionable ideas, I took the initiative to propose to Wenlong online and asked to visit him in China.
Even though he was reluctant, he was moved by my persistence and finally gave me the air ticket and some pocket money. In this way, I came to Sichuan, China.
When I first arrived at Chengdu Shuangliu Airport, I was fascinated by the magnificent buildings in front of me. I didn't expect that China's cities were so developed, and I unconsciously believed what Wenlong said. The moment I walked out of the airport and saw Wen Long, I really couldn't believe it. The boy in front of me, who was nearly 1.8 meters tall, was the man I had loved for four years, because he was more mature and handsome than he looked in the photo.
Wenlong was also very happy to see me, but he only shook hands politely and said things like how hard the journey was, which was completely inconsistent with the romantic situation I imagined for the first meeting.
On the way to the hotel, the scene I saw in Chengdu was full of high-rise buildings, wide roads, and very beautiful urban construction. Like a girl who had never seen the world, I looked left and right, completely different from Ho Chi Minh City . Chengdu is much prettier than Ho Chi Minh City. There are a dazzling array of shops and restaurants on the street. It really opened my eyes. I didn’t expect a city in China to be so developed.
In fact, when I came here, Wenlong was quite busy at work. He went to work during the day and could only accompany me after get off work at night. And I was in a strange country and a strange city. I was afraid of getting lost and even more afraid of meeting bad people, so most of the day was Spend time in hotel. When Wenlong was on annual leave, I offered to stay at his house because I was alone in the hotel every night and was still very scared.
I had no idea that Chinese men were so shy and reserved. In the days that followed, I lived in Wenlong’s house. My future mother-in-law was very kind and kind to me. She cooked me all kinds of delicious food and I was instantly satisfied. Taste buds. Moreover, my mother-in-law is urging us to get married. She wants to have a grandson as soon as possible.
On the 19th day after arriving in China, after understanding some of the conditions for marriage between China and foreign countries, Wenlong and I decided to go to Vietnam together to meet my parents and propose marriage.
In Vietnam, betrothal gifts are also required, but not as many as in China. Wenlong was very generous and gave my parents 69 million Vietnamese dong at one time, which is equivalent to 20,000 yuan. My parents were also very satisfied with Wenlong. , but since Wenlong asked for leave to go to Vietnam, he quickly processed the single certificate and other documents and rushed back to China without stopping.
After returning to China, my mother-in-law looked at my certificate of singlehood, pondered for a long time, and said, "Hehua, you will be the daughter-in-law of our Tang family from now on. If you have any requests for my mother-in-law, feel free to ask. As long as my mother-in-law can fulfill it, I will definitely do it." I will satisfy you."
I was moved to tears at that time. In fact, my mother-in-law's family is not rich. She lives in a rural area and relies on her father-in-law to work outside to make ends meet. My biggest wish is to not be betrayed by my husband in China. , not to be bullied by outsiders. The mother-in-law said: "Don't worry, China is very safe. Wenlong is also a sensible child. You just need to work hard to live a good life. If you have children in the future, you don't need to take care of them. I can help you take care of them."
May 2018 On the 1st, Wenlong and I got married. The wedding was very simple. Only close friends and relatives were present. My sister also came from Vietnam to witness my happiness.
After marriage, Wenlong, as my mother-in-law said, loved me very much, helped me with housework, and even cooked Sichuan hot pot for me. In 2019, we had a child, and my mother-in-law forcefully asked me to do confinement, saying that this is not good for a woman. Good health. After that, Wenlong resigned and started his own business. No matter where he went, Wenlong would take me with him. I would play beside him while he was working, and he would take me out for shopping when he was free.
In the past few years since I got married, I feel very happy no matter what I eat or what I wear. My husband also took me to many cities to really see the world and feel the differences in cultural customs between each city in China. Many cities in China are developing well.
It is a very happy thing for me to marry in China. Even my sister envies me: "Sister, I also want to marry in China. I am really envious to see you so happy."
But my sister is still reading University, and majoring in Chinese. I hope she can find a good home in the future.
