Although many people say that when doing something, the most important thing is the process. If you enjoy it and enjoy it, the ending is really not important, but in real life, few people do not care about the end of things. trend, everyone is also afraid that after a lot of hard work, sincerity and hard work will be in vain. This rule also applies to life in old age. As we age, one of the things we care about most is our personal happiness in our later years. In fact, happiness varies from person to person. Some old people who scavenge do not have enough to eat or keep warm all day long, but they are happy because they are fulfilled; and many elderly people who are well-dressed and well-fed, although they have no worries about food and clothing, they also have a higher level of happiness. social status, but his personal soul is extremely empty and lonely.
But unhappiness does have something in common. As far as the current situation is concerned, most people who live a bad life in their later years have the following three characteristics. Let’s see if you have them:
First, don’t put yourself first. Some of the elderly people are accustomed to silently contributing to others for so many years; some lack self-confidence and security and always want to gain a sense of belonging by gaining recognition from others; and some are just too heartbroken. Soft, always looking down on the suffering of the world, and just helping if you can... No matter which of the above categories you belong to, as long as you always sacrifice your own interests for others, it is best to start from now on as soon as possible Get rid of this habit of yours. For a family, it is sometimes a good thing for us as elders to make selfless and silent contributions, but think about it conversely, I have spent the first half of my life living for others, and have not really done anything in the decades since I came to this world. It’s a pity to be true; to strangers, our “Mother’s Heart” may become poison that kills us, because there are too many scams targeting the elderly in today’s society, and our little anti-fraud awareness is basically Not enough to cope. So sometimes being a little selfish is never a bad thing, and putting ourselves first is the attitude we should have when doing most things.
Secondly, there are always lively people at home
The older a person is, the stronger the yearning for a harmonious atmosphere in the family, because we don’t have much work to be busy with, and we don’t have enough skills. I often spend time with family and friends, and the only place I usually stay is my own home. If the family is full of chaos all day long, and the little hope we have is gradually shattered, we will inevitably be depressed all day long. On the contrary, if the family is harmonious, the children are filial, and the other half is considerate, we will naturally feel as if we are the whole family. There is not one of the happiest people in the world.
Of course, everything has a cause and effect relationship. If we want the people closest to us to get what we want, we should also be more considerate and tolerant towards them. On the one hand, we should not always think about meddling in our children's affairs; on the other hand, we should be more considerate and tolerant towards them. To know how to manage the relationship between two people, an old couple who has been together for decades, what they lack most is freshness, you might as well try this aspect.
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