Although it is said that daughters are filial to their parents. Also a good thing. But you must also act within your capabilities and be measured. Otherwise, it is very likely that everything will be ruined for you in the end. Just like the woman in the article, you will undoubte

Although it is said that daughters are filial to their parents. Also a good thing. But you must also act within your capabilities and be measured. Otherwise, it is very likely that everything will be ruined for you in the end. Just like the woman in the article, you will undoubtedly destroy this family by doing this.

Don't wait until the end to realize that the most important thing to you is your family. By then it will be too late to say anything. I hope this case can make all women pay attention. What is going on? Let's take a look at this together. My wife wants to take her parents to live in their old age. Wife: a family. I: OK, but I have five conditions.

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34-year-old Mr. Su:

Many people said that I was wrong and should not choose divorce impulsively. What does it mean to choose to divorce? What to do with children after divorce? What about families? What should you do next? Especially my mother, my mother said to me, do you think divorce can solve the problem?

Divorce not only cannot solve the problem, but will make it more and more difficult to solve. There is no need for divorce. I told my mother that it was not that I wanted a divorce, but that I had no choice. Facing such a woman, what could I do? I had already taken 10,000 steps back.

But my wife is even more aggressive. Now I am asked to agree to this matter, what can I do? Shouldn't I get a divorce? My mother said to me, what is the use of divorce? Will the problem of divorce be solved? Also, you are his son-in-law. If you are not filial to them, who will be filial to them?

Just like this, don't divorce your wife. You will definitely be the one to regret it after the divorce. You are already over 30 years old, and it will be difficult to get married in the future, let alone find a woman who can live with you. What you do for this family should be for yourself. Have you ever thought about the days after divorce? You will be miserable after divorce. A man has to take care of children and go to work. All kinds of pressures are borne by one person. If that were the case, would you still be living your life? Isn't

pretty good now? Live with your wife, you can live well with your wife. And if you divorce your wife, what will happen to your children? Who will take care of the children? A child with a mother is like a treasure; a child without a mother is like a grass. Do you want your child to live like a baby or like a blade of grass?

My mother left me speechless, but I felt that I still had to choose divorce, and I knew I was not wrong. Today I am telling this story, and everyone can help me comment on it. A few days ago, my wife was going to pick up her father-in-law and mother-in-law to come over for retirement. My wife told me that my parents are older, and I am their daughter.

Now I want to take them here for their retirement. Do you agree with this? I told my wife, no, don’t be kidding, that’s not what I said at the beginning. Then it’s agreed that I don’t need to support them in their old age, right? My wife told me, it was before, it is now, now I want to provide for my parents in old age, is this not allowed?

I am their daughter, and I must be responsible for them. You have to agree if you agree, and you have to agree if you disagree. Not wanting to quarrel with my wife, and for the sake of this family, I finally chose to compromise. I told my wife that I can agree to your parents coming to provide for you in old age. But I have 5 conditions, none of which are indispensable.

The first condition is that you give me half of your parents’ demolition money.

Your home was demolished. I know about this. As far as I know, the compensation was more than 3 million yuan. It's more than 3 million points. If I give half of it, it would be about 1.5 million. Why give me half? Because I want to support your parents in their old age.

Your parents have come to live in my house, eating my food, drinking my food, and using my food. You can't not give me a penny, right? If your parents don't have money, then I can't help it. If your parents had no money, I would definitely not ask them for money. The problem is that your parents have so much money for demolition.

You can't give all your money to your son.If all the money is given to your brother, then why do you want your parents to come here to retire here? If you let your parents come here to retire here, then you should give me half of the demolition money. If your parents left all their money to your brother, then there is no need for your parents to come here.

Whoever gives benefits should go to that person to take care of themselves, not me. I think my request is not too much. If you come to me with more than 3 million yuan to provide for your retirement, you can give me half of it. You don’t need your brother-in-law to support your parents in their retirement. Then the little rabbit can also get more than 1 million. Isn't this great? I think it’s okay. You can make me responsible, but you must also give me benefits. Benefits and responsibilities exist at the same time.

The second condition is that all the money my father-in-law and mother-in-law borrowed from me must be returned to me.

My father-in-law and mother-in-law asked me to borrow money to buy a house. I said that I bought a house for them to provide for their retirement, and they will not look to me for their retirement in the future. At that time, my father-in-law and mother-in-law told me that I don’t need you to provide for me in the future. We can provide for ourselves. But we have no place to live. You can lend us some money to buy a house. We will repay it little by little from our pension in the future. For you.

You also know that I have a relatively large pension. My monthly pension is more than 5,000 yuan. Plus my wife’s pension, it’s seven to eight thousand yuan a month. We can't spend all the seven or eight thousand. With that amount, we can return several thousand to you every month. It won't take a few years to return the money to you. Now lend me 350,000.

.35 million plus my own deposit. Then we have money to buy a house. I don’t need you to support me in my old age from now on. I will also return the money to you, how about it? Originally I didn't quite agree. My father-in-law and mother-in-law already have a house to live in, why do they still need to buy a house?

It’s not my wife who guarantees this, I won’t even borrow the money back. Later I borrowed it back, and now my parents-in-law have gone back on their word. He is still unwilling to give me his house and wants to live here for his retirement. Shouldn't he give me the money back? Don’t miss a penny, and pay me back all the money you borrowed from me.

The third condition is that I used to give my father-in-law and mother-in-law 3,000 yuan a month for food expenses, but now if I come here, I will only give 1,000 yuan a month.

I also gave 1,000 yuan to my parents. My parents didn’t come to my place at home, so I also gave 1,000 yuan. When my parents-in-law come here, they will also be given 1,000, which is fair and just. In the past, it was not me who asked for 3,000, but my wife insisted on giving it, otherwise my wife would make trouble with me.

My parents had objections at that time, but for the sake of the family, my parents chose to forgive and agreed to give 3,000 yuan to my father-in-law and mother-in-law. It’s okay for my father-in-law and mother-in-law to come to my place for retirement, but the monthly food allowance of 3,000 yuan has been changed to 1,000 yuan. Although 1,000 yuan is not much, it is enough to spend. I pay for my food, drink, and use here. Is there anything else that needs money?

Then I give them 1,000 yuan a month, which is enough for them. When my parents were back home, they had to rely on themselves for everything. Then I gave them 1,000 yuan and they thought it was enough. They thought they had enough money to spend on their own back home, so they could eat, drink, and use my money here.

Then if I give 1,000 yuan a month, it will be enough. There is no need to give so much more. It would be a waste to give so much, and our family has to live.

The fourth condition is that the father-in-law and mother-in-law must behave well after coming here.

Why do you want them to behave? My father-in-law and mother-in-law came to the house before. But my parents were also in him at that time, and later they got into trouble. It's not my parents' fault. My parents choose to tolerate everything, but my father-in-law and mother-in-law are getting more and more excessive.

Finally I couldn't bear it anymore and asked my parents-in-law to go back with my parents. They disturbed our lives every day while they were here. Then let's forget about doing this and that, and let my parents serve them. In the end, they secretly took money from the family.

If you have no money, you can tell me that I can give, but I can't take the money from the family. In this case, it feels like you don't treat me as a family member, and it makes me feel that it is difficult to guard against thieves day and night.

I don't want this or that to happen. I don't want to live like that anymore. When they come, they should obey me. Live your life well. Of course, I won’t be able to quarrel with my parents when they come here in the future. Only in this way can our family live well. I think this is not too much to ask, not only for the sake of my father-in-law and mother-in-law, but also for the sake of this family. If he comes here to cause trouble, everyone will have a bad time.

The fifth condition is to come here to retire, if something happens in the future. The brother-in-law is also responsible.

My father-in-law and mother-in-law actually came to live here, and I took care of him. You don’t just want money from me for everything. Under normal circumstances, I can give money, but if something big happens, such as getting sick, being hospitalized, or something else.

Brother-in-law also needs to be responsible. Because my father-in-law and mother-in-law are not only my father-in-law, but also my brother-in-law’s parents. I am the son-in-law and he is the son. I am willing to bear half of the responsibility. It is impossible for him not to bear the responsibility. So if something happens, my brother-in-law will also be responsible. Not only for the benefit of my father-in-law and mother-in-law, but also for the benefit of my family. It is really tiring for me to take care of four elderly people by myself.

And what does my father-in-law and mother-in-law have to do with me? If I hadn't been with my wife, I would have had nothing to do with my father-in-law and mother-in-law. Now I am willing to bear half of the responsibility, which is great. How many sons-in-law can do this? I think I'm doing pretty well.

If something happens in the future, my brother-in-law cannot evade responsibility. I am half responsible for him and half responsible. If he doesn't care, I won't care either. Don't blame me for being cruel and heartless. They are not my parents, but the parents of my brother-in-law. I am just the son-in-law. The son-in-law can only bear half of the responsibility.

I have these 5 conditions. If you agree, then I agree to your parents coming here. If you don’t agree, forget it. Without thinking, my wife slapped me on the face. My wife said to me angrily, how could you do this? They are my parents, and we are all one family. If they say that we are one family, is it necessary to distinguish them so clearly?

That house had been sold by my parents a long time ago. There is also my parents’ participation in the museum. How they distribute it is my parents’ business. My parents gave me the demolition money. Whatever happened to me, I am just a younger brother. My younger brother needs money and needs money to live. Don't worry about this money.

I was also angry when my wife said this. No one has hit me since I was a child, and now I am actually being hit by my wife. I angrily told my wife that your brother needs money to live. Don’t our family need money to live? After hearing that, I still didn’t agree, and then my wife said, do you want to divorce me?

If so, then I will help you decide whether to let my parents come over or get a divorce. My wife is so thin, what else can I say? Then I told my wife, since you have filed for divorce, let's get divorced and I will grant it to you. You go back to your parents and you go take care of your parents. I don't want to deal with this matter. This is how things are, am I wrong?

Conclusion:

I think your wife is going too far. Although it is said that children can be filial to their parents and provide for their parents in old age, they must also do what they can. I feel that in your wife's heart, there is no family like you at all. In your wife's heart, there are parents and only her younger brother.

Otherwise, your wife would not treat you like this. My dear wife, she does not have your family in her heart, so you have nothing to say to your wife. Just divorce. If it were me, I would choose divorce. I think you are right.If you don't get divorced, you won't be able to get over it in the future. Now you are recovering. What will threaten you in the future?

Leave all the benefits to your brother, and then let you take responsibility. How can you do this? Since he doesn't treat you as a giant, there is no need to treat him as one of your own. Because he doesn't love you at all, he only loves his brother, and he only loves his parents.

Since this is the case. I'll just get divorced and get it over with, otherwise I'll be very sad in the future, so even if you didn't say it, I would do the same thing if it were me. I hope that through this case, all women can pay attention, help their parents, and be filial to their parents. But it must be measured.