Text | Yue Zhi
Editor | Yue Zhi
Domestic violence has only zero and countless times. Endless patience will only make it worse.
html On July 6, the poet Yu Xiuhua accused her husband of domestic violence against her on Weibo. As a woman, she did not choose to be patient, but broke up gracefully. The two of them parted ways and were happy.
The news grabbed headlines on major websites as soon as it was released. In addition to the poet Yu Xiuhua, the public also paid attention to the deep hatred of domestic violence. Whether it is words or actions, it deeply tramples on the dignity of women.
But this seems not to be the first time for cerebral palsy poet Yu Xiuhua, because suffering has always been by her side.
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As a poet, her words are full of gentle power and can discover beauty in the cruel reality, making you unable to tell that she has experienced such a painful past.
When she was born, she suffered from cerebral palsy due to brain hypoxia caused by her mother's dystocia. Since then, her face has been crooked and her mouth has been crooked, and she cannot communicate with others normally and has difficulty moving. Therefore, she has received a lot of strange looks.
As an adolescent girl, she inevitably feels inferior due to her not-so-distinguished appearance. In addition, living in a remote rural area, her fate seems to have been doomed.
That is to get married early, have children, and live a life where you can see the end at a glance.
So, her parents found a man they thought was good for her, named Yin Shiping , and wanted him to take care of their daughter so that Yu Xiuhua would not be left helpless in the end.
Even though she was reluctant in every possible way, she was still unable to resist and eventually married this man who was more than ten years older than him.
Yu Xiuhua, who had never been in love, initially had beautiful imaginations about this marriage. She thought that if he was a gentle, considerate, considerate and good person, then she would be willing to live like this for the rest of her life. But the reality was the opposite. This marriage became the beginning of her nightmare.
After marriage, Yin Shiping lost the smile of the past and disliked Yu Xiuhua in every possible way. He felt that it was a great loss for him to marry a person with cerebral palsy. Not only did he often verbally humiliate her, but he also always came home drunk.
After drinking, he lost his mind and used his wife as a tool to vent his anger, punching and kicking her.
Yu Xiuhua was helpless against Yin Shiping's violence. She could only cry every day and live in pain.
I don’t know how long these days passed, and Yu Xiuhua gradually became numb, until one day, she finally broke out.
Yin Shiping worked outside and was owed ,800 yuan in wages by his boss. When he returned home, he asked Yu Xiuhua to go with him to collect the account, and she agreed. Standing on the side of the road, he told Yu Xiuhua that he would rush up to the boss's car when it arrived and wait for it to stop.
Yu Xiuhua was stunned. She said: " What if I really get hit?" Yin Shiping said indifferently: "You are a disabled person, it's okay."
Yu Xiuhua was completely stimulated by this incident, Unexpectedly, in her husband's mind, she is worth 800 yuan, not even as much as a pig! What's the point of such a marriage?
She must leave this man!
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At this time, Yu Xiuhua had begun to write non-stop in her spare time. She insisted on submitting articles to various magazines. Although her husband's sneers often came to her ears, she ignored them because writing was the only thing that could support her life. Motivation to go down.
She writes about love, family affection, her disability and the closed village that she can never escape from, and her feelings about life.
God may still be partial to her. He did not give Yu Xiuhua a sound body, but gave her a soul full of color.
Under her delicate and emotional portrayal, every word seems to be full of power and has extraordinary meaning.
Slowly, Yu Xiuhua began to enter the public eye. With the label of "cerebral palsy poet" , she was recognized by more and more people.
In 2015, Yu Xiuhua's first poetry collection " Moonlight Falls on the Left Hand " was published, with sales exceeding 100,000 copies. In February of the same year, the poetry collection " The Shaking World " was also launched.
Among them, the poem "Crossing Half of China to Sleep with You" is the one that made her popular all over the Internet. She confessed directly, letting readers feel that she has a hot heart.
The first thing Yu Xiuhua did after becoming famous was to divorce, but how could Yin Shiping agree to it so easily? He asked for a fee of 1 million. Yu Xiuhua was very angry. Facing this scoundrel, she hated herself for why she married so easily in the first place.
After repeated negotiations and constant mediation, Yu Xiuhua finally chose to leave the house, and their child was awarded to Yin Shiping by the court.
Even if she had nothing, even if she started all over again, Yu Xiuhua would still want a divorce.
From the moment she got the divorce certificate , a long-lost smile appeared on her face. She was happy from the bottom of her heart. She finally got rid of the " devil" .
And her new life has just begun.
After the divorce, Yu Xiuhua did not give up her longing and pursuit of love. Her love was as direct as her words.
She confessed Li Jian and expressed her appreciation for talents and her willingness to give everything. Li Jian was also very polite and replied: "Yu Xiuhua writes poetry in the clouds and lives in the soil. .”
Although her boldness has attracted online violence from Li Jian’s fans, she is still being herself.
Since ancient times, talented people have admired each other. Yu Xiuhua met a talented man who admired her. The man was a staff member of the Writers Association. However, this undisclosed relationship did not last long and broke up.
Until 2022, Yu Xiuhua disclosed her relationship with Yang Chuce. Under the romantic swing, the two of them laughed and laughed, just like a young couple in love.
However, their relationship did not receive the blessing of the public, because Yang Chuce is handsome, tall, and the key is that he is born in the 90s. Being together with the 46-year-old Yu Xiuhua feels somewhat like a mother and son.
In response to this, former Chinese Writers Association member Liu Xinda also accused Yu Xiuhua of being an old, ugly and improper woman, and even called the China Women's Federation to come forward to condemn her, accusing her of divorcing her first husband if she had money.
For a time, all kinds of abuses came towards Yu Xiuhua. In addition, her original behavior of leaving Yin Shiping after becoming famous was controversial, and now it is even more out of control.
However, Yu Xiuhua is not a soft persimmon. She also fights back with the most unpleasant words without mercy.
She still showed off her affection on Weibo. In the rose garden, she and Yang Chuce took wedding photos. In the photo, she was held in the arms of her lover, with a smile on her face.
5.20 On this day, Yu Xiuhua received a handful of oversized roses. She wrote on Weibo: "It would be great to replace these flowers with fried noodles." But is she really happy after receiving roses? Has Yu Xiuhua really found true love after so many years?
It turns out that this is not the case. Yu Xiuhua has been enduring violence.
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html On July 6, Yu Xiuhua claimed that she had been slapped hundreds of times by Yang Chuce, and that she had been subjected to violence that was serious enough to threaten her life.Both of them had a failed marriage and each had a child. They met in the winter of 2021. In May of the following year, Yu Xiuhua followed Yang Chuce to Shennongjia .
On the surface, they are affectionate, but in fact, Yang Chuce will hit people when they quarrel. What's more important is that he will verbally insult and hurt his innocent family members.
On the day Yu Xiuhua received the rose, the two had a big fight over a dispute. Yang Chuce was so angry that he strangled her neck and almost died.
If these are just acts of violence, Yang Chuce is still a typical PUA man.
Yang Chuce was an ordinary honey salesman in Shennongjia. After falling in love with Yu Xiuhua, he began to sell goods live on the Internet, thus making a lot of profits.
In a live broadcast on July 6, Yang Chuce exposed his ugly side. During the period, he was full of swear words and kept swearing. In his words, he revealed his dislike for Yu Xiuhua’s son. He also spoke in front of the live broadcast room Many fans revealed the secret of Yu Xiuhua peeing her pants after drinking.
Yu Xiuhua was no exception. She cursed and insulted Yang Chuce's daughter with unpleasant words, and asked him: "Why didn't you live broadcast when you were beating me or pinching me?" It didn't take long for the live broadcast room to be blocked by the platform.
From this point of view, Yu Xiuhua not only failed to find happiness, but fell into another abyss.
After Yu Xiuhua’s accusation, a reporter contacted her worried about her life safety. She said: "I have to go out and hide, otherwise I will be beaten to death." said that she had surveillance videos as evidence, but they were all taken away by Yang Chuce Taken away.
Her situation has also attracted the attention of the local Women's Federation. Everyone is trying their best to help her and hope that she will escape violence.
Yang Chuce seems to have different opinions on Yu Xiuhua's accusation.
He said that although he took action, it was not as serious as she said. He slapped her more than a dozen times and did not choke her neck. He said that he hit people in a measured way. If he lost control, she would not be able to post on Weibo.
Regarding the behavior of beating people, Yang Chuce did not have the slightest remorse, and insisted that he was measured, which is really ridiculous. If you are measured, you should not attack a weak woman, not to mention she is still a capable woman. Disabled people who are sick.
Until the end, he was still saying that he was in love with Yu Xiuhua, but his love did not bring happiness to people and was suffocating.
The fact that things have reached this point of losing face is the worst outcome for both people. No matter how much they loved each other at the beginning, they both used the most unpleasant words to attack each other.
Regarding domestic violence, we must uphold a zero-tolerance attitude and cannot consistently condone it. You must know that a relationship without self and without respect will not last long. Every woman should keep this in mind.
Yu Xiuhua has been controversial since she was well-known, and now she is making a fuss about domestic violence. Her reputation will definitely be affected, but no matter how complicated her private life is, it does not prevent her works from being used by those who A piece of pure land has been provided to frustrated people.
