When looking for a partner, we all hope to find a good person who is willing to live a good life. From then on, we can have a harmonious family and support each other for the rest of our lives. If this good guy happens to be a talented person, so much the better.
However, not all people with talent and potential are good people. If a man is talented but has other more serious problems, then the woman cannot marry him either.
In " knows ", Sun Zhigao is such a person with "talent" and "potential". He was awarded the title of Scholar at a young age, earlier than many others, and thus gained fame.
Sheng Wei and Li took a fancy to this, thinking that there would be a scholar in their family, so they married their daughter Shulan to Sun Zhigao. No one thought that Sun Zhigao was not a person worth marrying at all.
Not seeking to make progress
One of Sun Zhigao’s biggest problems is that he does not seek to make progress and is unwilling to study hard or find a job.
After becoming a scholar, everyone originally thought that Sun Zhigao would continue to pass one round of exams like Changbai , and then get an official position and do things well.
However, Sun Zhigao has always maintained his reputation as a "scholar". He always thought that he was a child prodigy and a genius who could pass the exam, get fame and be respected without studying.
Precisely because Sun Zhigao didn't seek advancement, he never passed the exam for several years and never thought about finding a job.
Sun Zhigao spent the whole day visiting restaurants, eating and drinking with various people; after eating, he recorded the accounts in the name of the Sheng family. He doesn't care about things at home at all and just wants to live a good life all day long.
He didn’t study or find a way to make a living. He always thought about keeping concubines and being served, but the family was spending Shulan’s money...
In ancient times, if a husband spent his wife’s dowry, it would make people Look down on. Sheng Hong doted on Aunt Lin so much, and he didn't go to the eldest lady to ask for a dowry for Aunt Lin. There is also Sheng Hong's brother-in-law Kang. Kang just spent his wife's money, so he doesn't speak forcefully at home.
Sun Zhigao didn't care about this. As long as he could enjoy it, it didn't matter even if he was laughed at for eating soft rice.
Sun Zhigao never thought that his wife's dowry would be spent one day, and he never thought about increasing revenue and reducing expenditure, and had no intention of living a good life.
For people like Sun Zhigao who do not seek advancement but only care about enjoyment, even if they are talented, it is difficult for them to settle down and live a good life, let alone achieve great achievements.
No self-knowledge
Another problem with Sun Zhigao is that he thinks too highly of himself and has no self-knowledge at all.
It was clear that Shulan’s money was all spent at home, and the accounts had to be recorded with the Sheng family when they went out to eat and drink, but Sun Zhigao always thought that Shulan and the Sheng family were trying to please him and please him, the "future prime minister."
Sun Zhigao fell in love with a woman with fireworks, and after the woman became pregnant, he wanted to welcome her into the house; as far as the Sheng family was concerned, it would be a huge shame for such a daughter to call Shulan a sister, so the Sheng family did not Agree with this.
But Sun Zhigao not only did not think there was a problem, but instead accused Shulan of being stingy and jealous. After Shulan returned to her parents' home angrily, Sun Zhigao didn't even think about taking his wife back.
When discussing peace and divorce with the Sheng family, Sun Zhigao also threatened to divorce Shulan if she was unwilling to accept this woman.
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Sun Zhigao has enjoyed so many benefits from the Sheng family, but he has no sense of gratitude; in his eyes, he is both talented and suave, and he dislikes Shulan in every way.
Sun Zhigao couldn't see clearly his current downturn, and he was unwilling to admit that he was eating soft food. The Sheng family's kind-hearted help was regarded by Sun Zhigao as being attentive, and instead allowed Sun Zhigao to continue to manipulate Shulan.
Men like Sun Zhigao are not only unwilling to face reality, but also have no gratitude for others; such people only have themselves in their hearts, so how can they understand the hardships of others.
Character is more important than potential
Sun Zhigao was once a child prodigy that everyone envied, but what happened later is embarrassing. Maybe he is talented, but no matter how talented he is, he is covered up by such a bad character.
If you are really talented, you should calm down and study to earn a name; if you can't continue studying, you should think of a way to become an adult who can shoulder family responsibilities.
While enjoying the benefits brought by his wife, he demeans his wife at the same time. Such a man who is soft-bodied and hard-working will only make others look down on him.
When we are looking for a life partner, character often has a greater impact. A person with good character, even if the current situation is unsatisfactory, will not let things continue to develop like this. Instead, he will face the reality and think of ways to solve the problem.
On the contrary, a person with bad character may be very proud for a short time, but over time, he will always fall. By that time, this person may not be able to start from scratch again.
This also tells us that when a woman chooses a husband, she must pay attention to the other person's character and character, and must not be fooled by other people's appearances.
