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Only those who have experienced the baptism of society will truly understand how important popularity is.
It not only symbolizes friendship, but also means abundant resources and numerous opportunities.
Regarding reading, there is a famous saying that "you will regret the lack of books when you use them." In fact, the same is true for popularity. You will only feel that there are not enough books when you need them.
observed that those who have a long-term vision will always interact with various social people. No matter what they do, all walks of life have their own advantages and resources.
It is always right to make friends. The more people you know, the more resources you will have. Another aspect is that there are more escape routes.
However, popularity is not innate. To put it bluntly, managing popularity is a science. Some people just attract people to like them, but some people have done a lot, but their popularity is always not good.
Everyone has his or her own abilities and ways. Sometimes one has "all the abilities" but "no way to heaven and no way to earth".
But the same thing may be solved by others with just one sentence. This is the importance of popularity and relationships. This can save a lot of things and allow both parties to get what they need.
Everyone's value is different, and there are always people whose strengths match their own shortcomings.
When entering society, the first thing to do is to expand your network of contacts. This may seem like useless work at the beginning, but in the end it can bring you unexpected benefits.
If you want to improve your popularity, you must understand the following three methods. If you know it earlier, you will be able to benefit earlier and quickly become a popular person.
Cultivate your character and improve your self-cultivation
It has to be said that high-quality people are welcome wherever they go. The effects of taking the initiative to get to know others and others noticing and recognizing you first are different.
The so-called high quality does not mean how formally you dress or how beautifully you dress, but rather being humble and courteous and respecting everyone. This requires a strong mind. Therefore, the "cultivation of one's moral character" proposed by the ancients is completely reasonable.
The first impression is very important. It means what the other person sees first about you. A person who talks a lot about trains and is slovenly will definitely not be popular. On the contrary, a person who speaks and behaves politely will naturally be able to impress others. Not a bad first impression.
A good first impression brings many benefits. Instead of letting others discover your shining points, it is better to reveal them yourself first.
A person's self-cultivation is like a sign, and people around him will form a "pass it on to ten, and spread it to hundreds" effect, and they all think you are good and can be associated with them.
The first element of self-cultivation is to have good living habits, not staying up late, not addicted to smoking, drinking, gambling, etc.
We must first get rid of personal bad habits, then develop for the better, and solidify our basic cultivation step by step.
Think about the overall situation and think in other people's shoes
People who know how to think about others are like carrying a piece of gold. Even if they don't shine immediately, people will soon discover this person's outstanding advantages.
Teachers have been teaching everyone since elementary school to think differently and empathize with others. The words
sound quite simple, but it is not that easy to actually do it. However, one thing is worth affirming. People who can think from others' perspective will not be bad at popularity.
Take a simple dinner party as an example. Everyone's tastes are really "difficult to agree on". In this case, many people just forget about it and are too lazy to listen to people's various requests. In fact, those who take the initiative to order from the wedding menu and say hello to everyone. A person's taste will always become "dazzling".
Details determine success or failure. Some small details that care about people and think about others can win the favor and recognition of others.
Although many people have been indoctrinated by their parents and teachers since childhood with the concept of "thinking from the perspective of and ", there are only a handful of people who can actually do it.
People are self-interested and understand that giving benefits to others is a pattern of life. Let others taste the benefits first, and then they will be at ease and attentive to interact with you.
Understand the "hidden rules" of making friends
When making friends in modern society, especially those with whom you will have beneficial relationships in the future, politeness and care are no longer the most important. How to make others get along with you comfortably is an issue that individuals should work on.
Emotional intelligence is not only particularly important in love, but also in interactions with friends. Only by knowing how to change the way you get along with each other can you better make the other person feel comfortable making friends with you.
It is very important to understand the "hidden rules" in making friends. Think about what others think, know what to do and what not to do, so as to "prescribe the right medicine". Many times, making friends is no longer about what I can give, but what the other person needs. This requires Certain eyesight and social experience.
When entering society, most of the time you have to deal with people. It is not difficult to do your own thing well.
There are only so many things every day. If you want to develop upward, you must know how to open up relationships and make more energetic and capable people.
The unspoken rule of making friends is simply to understand what others want, and to be more complicated is to understand what others want.
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People who are new to society must first lay a solid foundation and expand their connections. If they can do both, they will naturally be able to easily find a position that suits them at work.
The truth is very simple, in fact, many people know it. But to really do this, you need good social skills, which in turn requires a lot of practice, and conflicts arise from this. Firstly, it takes time to get used to it, and secondly, you need to be motivated.
One life is one dream, and the complexity of society also varies from person to person. Some people think that life is that simple, just do your job well and support your family. Some people think that society is complicated and people's hearts are sinister, and they want to develop upwards. It is so difficult, life is like a play, and anyone can be the protagonist.
But no matter what, it is right to have good popularity. Mastering some tips to improve your popularity can benefit your life a lot.
