01 Young people must keep their eyes open when falling in love. If you are not careful, you may be cheated. Nowadays, some people have very strange ideas and very thick skin. They always try every means to spend other people's money, and they are very confident and have no shame

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Young people must keep their eyes open when falling in love. If you are not careful, you may be cheated.

Nowadays, some people have very strange ideas and are very thick-skinned. They always try every means to spend other people's money, and they are very confident and have no shame at all.

When you encounter such "quasi-relatives", although they do not affect the relationship between lovers, it is best to break up as soon as possible.

Xiaoxiao (pseudonym) was sober in the world. When he met such a prospective sister-in-law, he was so scared that he broke up with her overnight.

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Xiaoxiao is an only child. Her parents have opened a small company in the clothing business. The couple's total annual income is about 500,000.

Because of the good family conditions, Xiaoxiao has received a good education since she was a child, and she is also very particular about food and use. Xiaoxiao likes reading and has a quiet personality, so she is relatively simple. Her parents will protect her no matter what happens.

grew up under such conditions. Xiaoxiao is kind-hearted and has a simple personality, but he will not be bullied at will.

Xiaoxiao doesn’t care much about money. When making friends, she won’t look down on others because of their family background. She is more generous to her friends, but she won’t foolishly pay for others by being the “big brother”. People who are not familiar with

think that Xiaoxiao is easy to deceive, but friends who are familiar with her know that Xiaoxiao belongs to the type of pretending to be a pig and eating the tiger .

However, Xiaoxiao’s cleverness in making friends was not used in love.

After graduating from college, Xiaoxiao learned to work at his parents' job, preparing to take over the company's business in the future. Once, while discussing business with another company, Xiaoxiao met a handsome guy from the partner.

Because the handsome guy wanted to follow up on his work progress, the two became familiar with each other. After half a year, the two fell in love.

Xiaoxiao didn’t mind that ’s boyfriend’s family background and income were not as good as hers. Because her boyfriend had a good personality, was funny, and was very gentle to her, Xiaoxiao gradually fell in love with her boyfriend. She missed him very much after not seeing him for a day.

After all, this is Xiaoxiao’s first boyfriend. No matter how rational Xiaoxiao is, he still loses himself in the beauty of love.

Xiaoxiao started spending money on her boyfriend.

She took the initiative at first. She bought her boyfriend brand-name clothes, brand-name sneakers, and formal suits. Later, she bought her boyfriend a game console and a high-end computer.

My boyfriend accepted all these gifts. At the beginning, he would happily thank Xiaoxiao. Later, when Xiaoxiao spent more and more money on him, he got used to it and told Xiaoxiao if he needed anything. laugh.

Xiaoxiao had met a friend like this before. He regarded her as a "big mistake" and after being friends for a while, he "borrowed" money from her to buy things. When I was a student, Xiaoxiao was quite dismissive of such people.

But now Xiaoxiao, is completely immersed in the charm of her boyfriend, is willing to spend money on her boyfriend.

And she doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with her boyfriend’s attitude of asking for things confidently. On the contrary, she is very willing to see her boyfriend make demands.

However, Xiaoxiao still has some sense left. The things she buys for her boyfriend are more practical, and she doesn't approve of her boyfriend spending money on virtual things in games. So Xiaoxiao felt that she had done the right thing, and she also planned to buy a car for her boyfriend.

We have been together for three years, and Xiaoxiao spent a total of hundreds of thousands on her boyfriend.

's parents felt that it would not be a problem if things continued like this, so they urged Xiaoxiao to marry her boyfriend.

Xiaoxiao asked her boyfriend's opinion, and her boyfriend decisively agreed to get married and offered to take Xiaoxiao home to meet her parents and sister.

So Xiaoxiao was very happy, prepared a few gifts, and followed her boyfriend to his house. When she saw her prospective father-in-law and mother-in-law, Xiaoxiao greeted her very politely and chatted with the elderly.

Although the conditions of my boyfriend’s family are average, his parents still understand etiquette and are not embarrassed.

is just the quasi-sister-in-law, has been asking about Xiaoxiao’s annual income.

She said: "Sister-in-law, you are quite young, can you really make that much money? Does your company make all the money for you, or do you share it with your parents?"

Xiaoxiao thought this question was right. It’s too embarrassing, and it’s all private.

But then she thought again. This time she came to meet the parents. The question asked by the prospective sister-in-law was to ask about her own conditions on behalf of the man's parents. Moreover, the prospective father-in-law and mother-in-law did not mean to criticize her daughter. They seemed to want to know. this problem.

So Xiaoxiao answered these questions in detail.

The soon-to-be sister-in-law said: "Oh, then you can really make a lot of money! No wonder I see that my brother is living a very prosperous life recently. He has whatever he wants and wears all famous brands!"

smiled and listened. These words are still very useful, I am very proud.

But the soon-to-be sister-in-law changed the topic and said: "Sister-in-law, I am almost jealous to death. Look at the screen of my mobile phone is cracked. Why don't you buy me a new one? I think a certain brand has a new model. It’s not expensive. is only over 5,000. Why don’t you buy it for me?”

smiled and the smile on his face completely froze. This familiar feeling... of being taken advantage of again?

If Xiaoxiao spends money on her boyfriend like crazy because of her love brain, then her love brain only works on her boyfriend.

At this moment, the soon-to-be sister-in-law, whom she had met for the first time, asked her for a mobile phone. The price was 5,000 yuan, which directly awakened Xiaoxiao's bad memories.

smiled and looked at her boyfriend. He had no expression and seemed to think this was normal.

Xiaoxiao looked at her prospective father-in-law and mother-in-law again. They didn't say anything, but looked at Xiaoxiao very openly.

She suddenly woke up. The whole family treated her as a mentally retarded person and a cash machine!

Xiaoxiao made an excuse and said that she had something to do and had to leave first. While her boyfriend was still at his parents' house, Xiaoxiao took the key and went straight to the house rented by her boyfriend, taking pictures and recording all the things she bought for her boyfriend.

Afterwards, Xiaoxiao hired a lawyer to check with those photos one by one according to his payment records.

Some large-amount monetary gifts can be recovered. With the help of lawyers, Xiaoxiao successfully recovered most of the high-amount gifts.

Of course, the marriage was not negotiated.

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When a couple is in a good relationship, it is understandable to give each other some expensive gifts. This is a way to express love.

But things like cannot be done as "business". After all, the laws are very strict now. If the marriage is not negotiated, the large gifts will be withdrawn. Some people don't believe in

and insist on trying it themselves.

These people usually don't have any good results. They waste several years on a fruitless relationship, and the benefits they get are eventually taken back. If it spreads, it will not be good for their reputation.

1: Don’t give too many expensive gifts when you are in love

When you are in love, it is normal for couples to give gifts to each other, but in order to increase their charm, some people spend a lot of money when pursuing others, and they have just established a relationship. Sometimes I spend money on each other like crazy.

Indeed, this is a way to show strength, just like when a bird is courting, it needs to show its strength.

But people are still human after all, and there will be people who have bad intentions, deliberately tricking others into spending more money on themselves, and then dumping them.

In reality, there are many such economic disputes. Some people think that the money can’t be recovered, so they don’t want to lose face and report the crime. However, some people know how to protect their own interests and decisively choose to report the crime to recover the money.

Therefore, in the early stages of pursuing others and falling in love, it is best not to give high-value gifts to each other casually.

When falling in love, we still need to pay attention to the character, education and outlook of both parties. As for the issue of money, sometimes it is just a small issue.

Furthermore, it is more cost-effective to spend money after marriage.

2: Keep your eyes open when it comes to love, and don’t be taken advantage of.

Some people have a very "macho" concept when it comes to love, and these people do not distinguish between men and women.

They usually have better family conditions and are richer than the people around them. They don't care much about money, they are always generous with their money, and they are not stingy with their friends.

When facing lovers, the advantage of money makes them fall into a misunderstanding. They feel that they have great abilities and great responsibilities, so they must provide the other party with a better life, and it is their obligation to spend money on the other party.

In fact, human nature always has a dark side. Some people don’t think there is a problem at first and will express gratitude when accepting gifts. However, after a long time, they are spoiled and become greedy and dissatisfied. Instead, they will resent the other person for buying gifts for them. Not good enough, not expensive enough.

Therefore, when you are in love, you must not be taken advantage of. Character is the first evaluation factor.

Otherwise, even a person with a relatively healthy outlook on life will be spoiled by sugar-coated bullets and distort his values.

text/风华