There is a saying in "The Moralist":
"The beginning of all things is simplicity, and evolution is complexity."
The simplicity is the key to a person's success. A person does not depend on what he has obtained, but on what he has put down. What's going on.
A person's life is actually a process of constantly picking up and putting down again.
Really smart people have learned to organize themselves and spend their time and energy on truly valuable things.
01
Organize emotions
I have watched a documentary about twins:
The elder brother and younger brother grew up in the same family environment, but in the end they took completely opposite paths.
Where will the problem lie? The answer is given at the end of the
documentary - lies in the control of emotions.
My brother has a bad temper. He blows his beard and glares when something happens. He cannot calm down and achieves nothing in the end.
The younger brother has a gentle personality and is calm and self-possessed in dealing with others. He finally went to college and became a lawyer after graduation.
The environment will provide you with nutrients for growth, but the specific formation of your character is inseparable from your self-control.
Different emotions create different results.
Psychology professor Daniel Goleman once said: "Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage emotions."
High emotional intelligence means that a person can manage his own emotions well, and at the same time, he can also use appropriate methods to make others feel comfortable.
In a variety show, in one episode, Lin Chiling and Shen Teng went to mail the "gorilla" he bought.
The weather was very hot at that time. The gorilla passed by handcarts and vans and had a very difficult time getting to the post office.
However, after the post office weighed it, it was found that the gorilla was overweight and was refused mailing.
At this time, the companions showed that they were not very happy, because they spent a lot of effort and ended up being rejected.
However, Lin Chiling was very calm and would take the initiative to appease Shen Teng's emotions, communicate amicably with the locals, and propose solutions.
In this situation of continuous obstacles, she can still manage her emotions well, actively solve problems, and calm the emotions of her good friends. It is not easy.
is emotionally stable and is a person's top charm.
Get rid of impulsiveness, adjust your mood, and be an emotionally stable person.
When your mood is stable, good luck will come naturally.
Good emotions make life smooth, but bad emotions make life full of thorns.
02
Organize the circle
When a person puts too much effort into social networking, it is easy to miss more meaningful things.
Cleaning up the circle and cutting off useless social interactions is the highest level of wisdom for a person.
Writer Su Cen said:
"You don't have to invite too many people into your life. If they can't get into your heart, they will only make your life overcrowded."
Liu Yifei once appeared in a magazine He said that he has not updated his circle of friends for 9 years.
The reason why she doesn’t update her circle of friends is not because she has lost the desire to share.
Rather, I don’t want others to interfere with my life too much, and I want to have a spiritual habitat where I won’t be disturbed.
Chen Daoming once said: "Don't be obsessed with fame and fortune, and calm down to do some useless but quiet and beautiful things. Isn't it a kind of practice?"
Selecting friends is sorting out life, and managing a circle is also the beginning of self-improvement.
Sometimes, we always think that the more friends the better, but in fact, a few friends are far better than thousands of casual acquaintances.
When people reach a certain age, they must learn to streamline their circle.
Cherish those who should be cherished, abandon those who should be discarded, and always leave time to those who are worthy.
Everyone’s energy is limited. Only by learning to subtract from your own circle can you eliminate burdens, give up worries, and get better.
You only have one life, don't waste your life because of those who are not worthy.
03
Organize thoughts
There is a saying:
"If the mentality changes, the attitude changes; the attitude changes, the habits change; the habits change, the personality changes; the personality changes, the life changes."
Throughout life, thoughts are important to us. It is particularly important. What kind of thoughts you have determines what kind of life path you will take.
If you have a good attitude, you must be diligent in sorting it out, cutting off useless distractions and getting rid of harmful delusions through introspection and self-enlightenment, so that you can live a wonderful self.
There was a young man whose life was always unsatisfactory, so he went to the temple to find advice from an eminent monk.
He sat under a tree and poured out his bitterness to the eminent monk. The eminent monk said nothing and just listened to his complaints quietly.
Suddenly a bird in the tree screamed, and a puddle of bird droppings fell on the young man's shoulder.
The young man was so angry that he began to curse the bird:
"You damn bird, didn't you see someone below? I will find a slingshot to kill you later."
The eminent monk then spoke and said lightly:
"It's not the fault of the birds. Trees are their habitat. It's normal for bird droppings to fall. It's just that we sat in the wrong place and shouldn't disturb the peace of the birds."
The young man looked confused, and the monk said Ask the young man to hold out his index finger.
The eminent monk said: "When you blame the bird, your index finger points to the bird, but your middle finger, ring finger and little finger point to yourself. In other words, when you blame others, you have to bear three times the responsibility of others."
The young man was thoughtful after listening. After that, the young man learned to find the reasons from himself first, and his life became much smoother.
Aristotle said: "The ultimate value of life lies in the ability to wake up and think, not just in survival."
A life that does not understand reflection is like throwing garbage into the heart. As the garbage piles up, the more and more garbage piles up. Too much, life is being overdrawn little by little.
So, what we have to do is: "calm down and organize your thoughts." Only by constantly sorting out our thoughts can we see the essence of things.
Only by constantly examining ourselves and cutting off useless distractions can we get rid of harmful delusions, live a wonderful life, and meet a better self unexpectedly.
04
Tidy up the room
An old saying goes: if there is a clear window, there will be peace of mind for sitting and lying down.
For women, home is our battlefield.
Looking at the clutter piled up in the house, it is simply impossible to know where to start. The difficulty in choosing caused by the excessive abundance of materials tortures you and me, and involves limited energy.
Home is the place where we spend the longest time, and it is also the warmest and most loving place with the whole family. We have to leave it behind so that we can have more space to accommodate the love and affection of our family.
I have read a sentence:
Cleaning the room is actually cleaning your heart. Cleaning the room is also sweeping away the dust in your heart.
The environment is bright and clean, the floor is clean and bright, and there is an indescribable clarity in my heart. It is like cleaning my heart, and I feel very relaxed and comfortable.
Family is a magnetic field that can affect a person. An environment that is clean, organized, and tidy often makes the people who live there happier.
Esthetician Jiang Xun visited a friend's house and saw that the layout of his friend's house was very simple.
The entire living room only has tables, chairs and bookshelf. The balcony connected to the living room is paved with a few white stones and a thin bamboo is planted.
The entire space is bright, clean, quiet and elegant. The wind and clouds enter the window, the bamboo shadows are on the wall, the white stone shines in the sun, and the books are fragrant.
Jiang Xun and his friends made tea and chatted here, which was very pleasant.
A Harvard University study shows that people with a strong sense of happiness tend to have a very clean home environment.
Liu Liangcheng said: Home is not only the house that belongs to us, but also the life in the house for many years.
Only with a clean home can you have a clean life, and only then can you have a clean mood and feelings.
Life is a process of cutting out complexity and simplifying. Really smart people never stick to the outside, but adjust themselves in time.
Learn to sort out your emotions, so you can give up complaining and entanglement, and avoid trouble;
Learn to sort out your circle, so you can eliminate external interference and live your life;
Learn to sort out your thoughts, so you can wake up and think, and move forward steadily;
Learn to sort out your room, so you can stay away Complicated and tedious, you gain happiness.
When you reach a certain age, you will eventually find that the fewer friends you have, the better your life will be.
Like it, I hope we can all organize ourselves from time to time so that we can live more clearly and live better.
Author: Zhenzhen Rishangwsz
