After a person reaches the age of 60, the best state of life is to meditate and not fight against the world. How can we achieve this state? The best thing to do is mind your own business.
If you mind other people's business, you are likely to get into trouble; if you mind your own business, you are likely to cause conflicts. Therefore, it is better to take less control.
When people reach a certain age, they just need to live a good life. There is no need to worry about other people's affairs. Not only is it not good for you, it will also add to your psychological burden. Therefore, after you are over 60 years old, you must learn to be confused.
1 Do not use your words as commands to command your children.
In the traditional thinking of the elderly, your words are commands, and children must obey them without any complaints.
Actually this is a very wrong thing. In the original, this is how arranged marriages came about. Parents’ orders and the matchmaker’s advice were the most important. Even if you are a couple who are in love, as long as your parents don’t agree, they will eventually break up.
I have a friend like this. She is a woman. She originally dated a very satisfactory partner, but in the end she only needed to register for marriage. However, her parents used the reason that the man’s family was not good and he was not a good match for their daughter. A man ten years older. Although this family is very rich, the two people have no relationship at all and they became a couple forcibly.
In the end, the man often messed around outside, and the two of them quarreled every day, ruining their children's lifelong happiness.
Because of this incident, the daughter completely broke up with her parents, and the elderly had no one to care for them.
It may be a bit exaggerated to say that it is his own fault, but I really can't find a more suitable word to describe such an old man.
In fact, on many things, you cannot force your children to accept your own opinions. After all, everyone is an independent individual, and the concepts of the two generations are also very different. We can only do our own thing well, and don't care about other people's affairs. After all, forceful melons are not sweet. It is wise to establish a free, equal and respectful relationship between the elderly and their children.
2Don’t make unreasonable demands
The so-called unreasonable demands are to impose some of your selfishness or prejudices on your loved ones.
Some old people rely on their age to impose some unequal terms on their children. For example, when it comes to old-age care, some old people will give the burden of old-age care to one of their children, while the other children will live in peace. Then this The elderly people feel that they should contribute money and effort to their children who are responsible for providing care for the elderly, which can easily lead to family conflicts.
Therefore, as an elderly person, you should keep a balanced attitude and not impose your unreasonable demands on your children. Children and parents understand each other. Only in this way can the family be harmonious and life happy.
3 Try to be less evil
In fact, we will see similar things in some media or news. Some unscrupulous old people use moral kidnapping to force others to give up their seats, or make some extraordinary behaviors that have an impact on society.
And their children will be implicated because of the old man's actions, being pointed at, and unable to hold their heads up.
Such behavior will also bring great trouble to the elderly group, so in our daily lives, we must pay attention to our words and deeds, so as not to leave a bad impression in the eyes of young people.
Conclusion
The elderly are a symbol of high morality and respect. When we enjoy our old age, we should not bring some conflicts and conflicts to our lives and families because of our actions and thoughts.
