In the world of love, breaking up with someone you love deeply is not terrible.
The scary thing is that it is clear that the other person no longer loves you, but you still want to be a "lonely warrior" and insist on it by mistake.
You must know that in some relationships, although you are deeply affectionate, the other person only gives you indifference and disgust. Then you should understand one sentence: Some people are just here to accompany you for a while.
If two people are still in love, they must be sweet and affectionate when they are together. But if you love the wrong person, it will only be bitter, spicy, sour and sweet, just like that.
You thought you had found someone to rely on in this life, but unexpectedly, the more you were with him, the more lonely you felt like "people are like lint in the wind, we can't help but gather and disperse".
Therefore, any relationship is not necessarily destined for life.
Even if you have been together for a hundred years, even if he has told you the most beautiful vow in the world, even if you still love him to death... But if the other person keeps giving you these three feelings, Then you have to know that you love the wrong person.
Loneliness
In this life, no one can escape the word "loneliness".
However, although the person you love has no obligation to save you from loneliness, he must be someone who can bring you happiness in your loneliness.
If after you get together with him, you still feel that you need to think carefully before you say something; if you feel that you have something to do, you can’t communicate with him at all; if you feel that you are in trouble, you can’t discuss it with him... then, Most likely, there is no love between you.
Once, a female reader sent a private message saying that every time she was wronged and wanted to complain to her boyfriend, the man would reply to her as if nothing was wrong, "What should I do? It doesn't matter if you tell me." Use it." Then, do whatever you have to do.
As a result, when a woman gets emotional and feels that the man is neglecting her, she starts to look for trouble and want to quarrel.
Perhaps, in the eyes of a man, he really cannot help, but what a woman wants is not actually for a man to stand up for her, but just to get an attitude from a man. What she wants is just a word of comfort to make her The mood can be relieved, even if you give her a warm hug, she will be very happy in her heart.
The process of two people falling in love is actually the process of understanding each other and the process of running into each other.
People who truly love each other will work hard to adapt to each other's emotions, understand each other's pain, use their tenderest hearts, and bring light to the dark places in each other's hearts.
So, if you are with a person, every time you need him, he will always give you a one-man show, making you feel endless darkness and loneliness. Then, you have to understand that he It’s not someone who is particularly suitable for you.
In the road of life, everyone cannot escape the situation of being in trouble and being in a difficult situation. At this moment, a person who can give you comfort and warmth is a fellow traveler who can truly accompany you through the ups and downs of life.
Feeling of grievance
In love, dignity is needed.
As a saying goes: good love means getting along without getting tired.
If you are in this relationship, you will always feel that: if you don’t bow your head, he will not give up; if you don’t give in, he will not give you a good look; if you do not admit your mistake, he will always treat you Verbal blows... then, most likely, the relationship between you is not just facing a "fight" at any time, but is already in danger.
Once upon a time, a girl said that with the help of my parents, I bought a house and then met my current boyfriend. When we first got together, he loved me very much. Even when we quarreled, he always loved me. Let me. But when we talked about getting married, he insisted on letting me sell my current house and use the money, plus his savings, to buy a bigger one.I definitely won't agree because I know he hasn't saved much money at all. After this incident, he seemed to be a completely different person. He squeezed me everywhere. When I wore a skirt, he said I had thick legs, and I got a rash on my face. Acne, he said it was disgusting. I was having dinner with my friend, and he complained a lot about me to my friend...
I just want to say to you, although love has various forms, the person who truly loves you will definitely stand by. Consider these issues related to interests from your perspective.
A person who truly loves you will not force you to obey in an absolutely overwhelming way, verbally offend you, and make you feel as unbearable as he says.
In the field of love, if love is linked to interests, you will most likely be able to see the truest side of this person's heart right away.
Therefore, it is also lucky to be able to discover this side of a man before marriage.
Some people always say that their lover has changed, but they don't know that it is just that his requirements for the other person have changed. In a relationship, he always requires the other person to love him according to his standards.
So, for this kind of love, it’s good to meet each other and then live well.
Feeling of anxiety
In " Dream of Red Mansions ", Lin Daiyu always silently sad and shed tears because she was not sure about Jia Baoyu's feelings. Then Baochai also came to Rongguo Mansion . She was even more cute The "work".
However, it can also be seen that Baoyu knows her thoughts well, so he always secretly gives her reassurances time and time again to make her "feel at ease".
Therefore, even if Baoyu is a bit "scumbag" and is a bit involved with many girls, in the context of that era, his heart for Daiyu is the purest.
However, in modern times, if there is someone with a similar personality to Baoyu around you, then most likely, you will live in anxiety like Daiyu.
Because he can’t help but flirt with everyone, making you feel a sense of crisis and anxiety at any time.
You will become more and more sentimental, more and more sensitive and suspicious, always trying your best to check his mobile phone, always trying to make him express that he is in love with you, so that you can feel at ease... But in fact, at this time, What you should understand is: you love the wrong person.
A person who truly loves you will not do anything to feel sorry for you, nor will he have ambiguous words or deeds with other people to cause you to misunderstand. If he loves you, he will do his best to give you peace of mind. .
If he makes you feel that he doesn't care, doesn't pay attention, doesn't care, and makes you anxious, then this man is really not worthy of your deep love.
In this life, three thousand prosperity are just a blink of an eye.
Traveling thousands of miles, love, hate, and resentment are just a visit to the world, a gift to oneself, so it doesn't matter if leaving is bitterness and hatred, and being together is joy.
If you feel that you don’t love it, you might as well let it go.
Conclusion:
There is always some love, and as it goes, it falls apart.
Just because there is so much pain in this world, and the joy of love is supposed to heal our inner panic, warm our lonely souls, and bring us relaxed and happy things.
Therefore, if this person brings you endless hypocrisy, uneasiness, and embarrassment, then you might as well just let this chicken-feathered love go.
One day, you will find that for such people, even memories will be a load.
There are always women who will say "I can't let go", "I can't let go", "I can't forget"...
Although it is not easy to meet, in life, more or less, you need to find someone with whom you can spend your whole life together. Don’t suffer, live happily.
Everyone is going through the joys and sorrows of the world, and everyone is rolling in the sea of love. You need to let yourself live with backbone, courage, and courage.
So, use the time when you are anxious for him, lonely for him, and "thinking of all kinds of excuses" for him to do something meaningful to you and wait seriously for the truly right person to come.
Life is short and time is precious. You should cherish your youth and don't waste your time on people who are not worthy of it.
You have to believe: there is always someone who will cross the sea of people and come to you, just to be your "unparalleled hero", give you warmth, give you stability, and give you peace of mind.
author, calm fox
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I hope you can find the deep affection in the ordinary years in my words! Thanks for attention!
