4, the order of interpersonal relationships
In a person's life, we have to face many relationships.
For example, an adult who has a family must face various interpersonal relationships with parents, spouse, children, relatives, friends, superiors, colleagues, etc. at the same time.
Faced with so many interpersonal relationships, people in real life often fail to balance or handle various relationships because they are not clear about the destiny order between various relationships, thus making themselves trapped in trouble and distress.
So how can we handle or balance the various interpersonal relationships we face, so as to avoid being overwhelmed by caring about one thing and not the other?
Things have a beginning and an end, and things have an end and a beginning. If you know the order of things, you can take the shortcut. In fact, the various interpersonal relationships we face are also prioritized.
In different stages of life, the priorities of interpersonal relationships are also different.
Before adulthood, the relationship between a person and his parents is of course the most important, because we need to get many physical and mental needs met from our parents.
However, in order to prepare for adult life, children often instinctively put their relationships with friends before their parents.
For children who have not yet realized the order of interpersonal relationships, this is understandable, and parents should understand and be tolerant.
Under normal circumstances, friendship becomes the primary interpersonal relationship before adulthood.
Because at this stage you have to fight to gain territory, and forming alliances will make it easier to succeed.
Therefore, young people at this stage often leave their backs to their parents.
Although this is a bit sad, it is destiny, and this is the embodiment of children's independence.
Next, if after getting married, there is a very important other half - the relationship between husband and wife, the interpersonal relationship a person has to face is a relatively complicated situation.
If you have children and add another layer of parent-child relationship, the situation will become even more complicated.
Regarding the order of interpersonal relationships after getting married and having children, we will discuss it separately next.
