Text | The Deer and the Donkey
Introduction:
With the improvement of people's quality of life, many people slowly begin to pursue spiritual life while pursuing material life. The elderly have been busy all their lives and are finally able to stop and enjoy life in their later years. In order to improve the quality of life in their later years, they are unwilling to live with their children, let alone go to nursing homes and be restrained by others. Many family environments are acceptable. People will choose to hire a nanny to take care of themselves at home and provide one-to-one service.
In the past, living conditions were difficult. Unless it was absolutely necessary, I would not spend money on a nanny because it was a very huge expense.
In recent years, the nanny industry has become more and more popular. Old people who are healthy and young have come here to spend money to hire nannies. It is difficult for many people to understand. Are these people too rich, or do they only know how to enjoy life?
Aunt Huang, a female nanny who has been in the nanny market for more than ten years, is very convincing. She has experienced many such families. In her opinion, some people are healthy but are willing to spend a lot of money to hire nannies. It is really for enjoyment, but for other purposes. What is the purpose mentioned by Aunt Huang? Let's go ahead and take a look.
From the autobiography of the 53-year-old Aunt Huang:
Her surname is Huang, and her name is Huang Shuilu. She is 53 years old and lives in Bengbu, Anhui. She has worked in the nanny industry for 15 years and is considered a veteran here. She is very good at taking care of people of different ages. Had a great experience.
In fact, 15 years ago, I was not engaged in the nanny industry. I was forced to switch to the nanny industry because of the pressure of life. I used to work in a factory. Before entering the nanny industry, I looked down on this industry very much. I thought it was a A menial job, always serving others in a humble manner, without dignity.
Life is always changing rapidly. The job I looked down on before has now brought me higher income and changed my life situation.
After I got married to my husband, we both came to the city to work. He went to work in the construction industry, and I helped in the factory. Although we lived in poverty, our family was happy. When I was 37 years old, my husband suddenly walked away from the scaffolding. The fall caused me to be paralyzed. This misfortune was like a bolt from the blue. My husband, who had lost the ability to work, could only stay home sick. I was the only one responsible for the food, drink, and care of the whole family. Moreover, my parents-in-law were very old at that time, and they had to take care of themselves. People take care of her, and her husband occasionally needs to see a doctor and take medicine.
After spending all my savings, I was still unable to support this broken family. Working in a factory only earned 3,600 yuan a month, which was not enough to cover the family’s expenses. In desperation, I had to find another way out, hoping to find a high-paying job, but For someone like me who has neither academic qualifications nor work experience, it is simply as difficult as climbing to the sky.
A kind-hearted person recommended that I go to the nearby housekeeping company . They are recruiting nannies there. I heard that the wages are very good, much higher than the wages in the factory. I went to the housekeeping service center with a try mentality. I started working after a short-term training. The salary at the beginning was not as high as I imagined. As my years went by and I gained a deeper understanding of the nanny industry, my salary became better and better.
While my parents-in-law are still mobile and can help take care of the children and husband, I concentrate on working as a nanny. I can get a very high salary every month. Sometimes my employer will give me red envelopes and some daily necessities if I am in a good mood.
has been working in the nanny industry for more than ten years. During this period, she has met all kinds of people, and their needs for nannies are also different, especially single elderly people. They are not looking for nannies to take care of themselves, let alone to make early arrangements. Entering retirement life with other purposes in mind.
I came into contact with such an employer three years ago. He didn’t hire me because he wanted to start retirement care. This person’s personality was a bit weird. The old man’s surname was Hu. He was only 68 years old at the time. He was not considered an elderly person, but because of his My family background was good, so it was reasonable to hire a nanny to take care of me. After learning that his family background was good and the salary he paid me was also high, I decided to stay with Uncle Hu to take care of him.
Uncle Hu’s family has three properties and a scooter. His monthly pension is also very high. Both of his children are CEOs of listed companies. There is no financial pressure. However, the two children are busy with work all year round. , and rarely come back to visit the old man.
When I came to Uncle Hu’s house, I found that his life was very regular and healthy. He would go for a run in the park near the community every morning and evening, and arranged his life to a full extent. When I went to Uncle Hu’s house for the first time, I found that his house was well tidied. It is very clean and tidy, but I heard that Uncle Hu has not hired a nanny for a month. It seems that he has been doing the cleaning himself during this month.
After further contact, I found that Uncle Hu can not only cook for himself, but sometimes he will help me when I cook. Especially sometimes when I am too busy to cook, Uncle Hu will also help me cook. .
At first I thought Uncle Hu was polite and respectful to me. He felt that nannies were the same as family members, and there was no distinction between superiority and inferiority. He would accompany me every time I did housework, but I felt that I was A nanny should take the initiative to do things for the elderly, but Uncle Hu feels that although we are in an employment relationship, he can also help me share some things.
As I got to know more deeply, I later discovered that Uncle Hu’s temper was a little weird. No matter what I did, he would always follow me, as if he was supervising me. Even he would point fingers at some small things, always like educating children. He also educated me and asked me to follow his ideas and follow his instructions on the order of adding seasonings every time I cook.
It stands to reason that after working in the nanny industry for many years, I am very good at small things such as serving people. I will not worry my employer, let alone mess up things. However, in the eyes of Uncle Hu, I look like a newbie who has just entered the industry. , you must obey his instructions on everything.
When I was sick, Uncle Hu took great care of me and brought me tea and water. He felt that I was like his relative. He told me to take good care of my health and said that at such an old age, I would go back in a few years. Take care of your old age, enjoy the happiness with your children, don’t go out, and show your face as a nanny. When I heard what Uncle Hu said, a warmth filled my heart.
To sum up, Uncle Hu is not a bad person. Apart from some weird personalities, he is indeed a good person. He is also one of the kind-hearted people I met in the nanny industry. However, he has a loose mouth and always likes to talk, which makes It sounds a little boring to people.
served Uncle Hu at his house like this for more than half a year. Because my daughter-in-law gave birth to a baby, I had to go back to take care of my daughter-in-law during the confinement period, so I had to quit my job as a nanny. When Uncle Hu heard that I had to resign because of something at home, he was a little sad and hid. I cried silently in the room, which made me feel very sad.
Before leaving, Uncle Hu personally cooked a meal for me to give me a good farewell. He said that I have a very good and docile personality and am willing to listen to his nagging. The nannies I have hired every time over the years have always treated me well. He was very impatient and did not want to listen to an old man's nonsense. He was very lonely living alone. It was not because he was not in good health that he was willing to spend money to hire a nanny, but because he missed his wife and the days when he and his wife were together.
I have come into contact with a lot of old people like Uncle Hu. There is a 75-year-old Grandma Wang. She is in good health, has good eyesight and is not deaf. She usually walks faster than me, but she is still willing to spend money to hire her. A nanny.
Grandma Wang is a warm-hearted old man. She will take the initiative to help others when they encounter difficulties. When working at home, she often tells me to work slowly and not to get exhausted. No matter what I do, He will help.
What touches me the most is that Grandma Wang gets up earlier than me every morning and secretly prepares breakfast for the two of us. Normally at my employer's house, I would wait until my employer finished eating before eating, but Grandma Wang asked me to eat with her. Every time she put vegetables in my bowl, she asked me to eat more meat to make up for it.
I feel like Grandma Wang treats me like a daughter. When I go out to buy groceries, I find that Grandma Wang has cleaned the house and room. Not only that, Grandma Wang will also take the initiative to help me with the hygiene in my personal bedroom. When it comes to cleaning, it's hard for me to understand why Grandma Wang would spend money to hire a nanny and not ask her to take care of her. Instead, she would help with the work. Isn't this just asking for trouble?
Grandma Wang expressed my doubts very straightforwardly. She told me that it was very boring to have an old man at home, which is why she was willing to spend money to hire a nanny, but she had no one to accompany her in life.
Slowly came into contact with many such elderly people, and I finally understood that they are actually really lonely in life. They always need someone to talk to. Of course, many people are willing to find a wife to spend the rest of their days. Of course For these old people who are unwilling to find a wife, there must not be any of these reasons.
First, the nanny is relatively experienced in taking care of people. There is no need to maintain the relationship between the two people. Because the employer pays the salary, the nanny will serve them wholeheartedly. If they are looking for a partner again, they will encounter someone with inappropriate personality. Just causing trouble for yourself.
Secondly, if an elderly person living alone remarries and finds a partner, there will be many other derived problems, such as property distribution, children's obstruction, and personality adjustment, etc. But nannies are different. If you meet a nanny you are not satisfied with, You can dismiss and replace it anytime and anywhere.
Third, if you look for a wife, you will inevitably encounter someone who is not in good health. When the two of you get older, you will find yourself a drag bottle. If you find a nanny, it will be different. The nanny will definitely be older than you. Many of them keep up with the trend in terms of thinking, and it is easier to communicate, and they will not worry about taking care of their elderly partners in the future.
In fact, for the elderly, they live alone, have no support in life, and live in isolation. Any financially well-off family will find ways to have fun. For example, hiring a nanny to enjoy emotional companionship is also a good choice. .
Do you think it is better to find a partner when you get older or to spend money on a nanny? Welcome to leave a message and comment.
