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Logically speaking, with a high pension in your later years, you should be able to live a high-quality life, but the life of the 63-year-old Aunt Liu is really like a year. What happened?
Aunt Liu, 63 years old
My current life is really miserable, and my days are like years. I am tortured both physically and mentally. The reason why I am in this situation today is because I did these three things.
1, after I retired, I didn’t understand the difficulties of my children at all. I asked them for money every month. When they asked me to take care of their second child for a while, I refused directly, and I almost never spent a penny.
At that time, I was really too selfish. I had a high pension and wanted to let my children use the money to honor me. As a result, it was obvious that the relationship between my children and me became more and more alienated.
It turns out that no matter what the relationship is, if the other party keeps suffering, the relationship will eventually change.
Because of my behavior, my children have become strangers to me. They usually don’t even call me. The mental pain that no one cares about is really irreparable with material things. But when I realize this, It's a little late.
Second, after retirement, I didn’t care about my wife’s opinion at all. I was obsessed with ballroom dancing , and because my pension was much higher than his, I hardly cared about his feelings, which directly led to the end of my marriage. .
Ballroom dancing cannot avoid physical contact. For the dancers, it is enjoyment, but for most viewers, it is immoral and immoral.
The relationship between my wife and I was very tense due to various rumors. At first he argued with me, and later he became cold and violent towards me. When I realized I was wrong, I wanted to apologize to him, but even though I tried my best to explain, It is also difficult to gain the trust of my wife.
Because of ballroom dancing, my husband took out all the grievances he had endured for many years on me. At that time, I really felt that he had completely changed into a completely different person, which scared me. I really couldn’t imagine a person who is usually so gentle. Why do people suddenly change their personalities?
Because of ballroom dancing, my husband and I's relationship has collapsed. Although we live in the same room and sleep on the same bed, he now guards me like a thief.
Not only is my wife suspicious of me, but there are also gossips in the community where I live. It pains me to hear those harsh words. Even now that I have given up ballroom dancing, I still can’t fill the gap between my wife and me and block the neighbors. The neighbor's mouth.
3. When I was in a bad mood, there was no one to share or talk to. I chose to eat and drink and drink a lot, hoping to alleviate the pain in my heart in this way, but I ended up with a whole body of diseases because of my unhealthy lifestyle.
is different from when I was young. The pain I have now really makes me feel hopeless. The intermittent and continuous pain makes me age a lot. I have to run to the hospital every three to five. My body is always uncomfortable. I was confused and confused, and the high cost of medicine also made me feel unprecedented pressure.
Although now I have a pension of 8,000 yuan, my life is really like a year. I don’t dare to eat, I dare not speak out, and I still have to endure the torture of illness and the mental torture of the people around me.
Many times I think about it, but I really don’t have the courage. I often blame myself. The initiator of all this is no one else but myself.
If I had known the importance of family earlier, knew that children's family ties also need to be taken care of, and known how important it is to stay healthy, I would not be living such a life now. I sincerely advise everyone not to ignore many things just because of the high pension. Details, when you lose them, will really torture you to death.
