Author | Wenchong
Source | Feng Meng
ID | fengmeng2019
Recognize "ordinary" and "extraordinary"
Recently, a male colleague in the office who was about to expire his probation period resigned. The reason is that this job is too ordinary and inconsistent with my expectations, and I don't want to let myself go to waste like this.
later heard that this was his seventh job in two years.
He always thinks that his job is ordinary, but he doesn't know what extraordinary abilities he has to match the corresponding job. A few years later, it's still floating around. The classmates who graduated together have either stable jobs or promotions and salary increases. Some of them have even founded their own companies. Although the scale is small, they have also achieved some extraordinary achievements.
envy? Do you regret it? Saying "no" is false.
The root of a person's misfortune is not because he does not understand others, but because he cannot recognize himself.
Each person is like a fraction, his actual talent is like the numerator, and his valuation of himself is like the denominator. The larger the denominator, the smaller the value of the fraction. Recognize your own mediocrity, but estimate yourself too highly. You will be much higher than you estimate.
Chen Hanming, the first Chinese street vendor to be awarded one Michelin star.
His job is simply to make Hong Kong fried chicken noodles, and he has been doing it for more than 30 years. Every morning, before the stall opens, there is already a long queue in front of the stall.
Chen Hanming's parents made a living by farming. He came from a poor family and started learning to be a chef at the age of 15.
"Every food can never be finished learning and cooking. I believe that there is no first-class food in the world, only first-class chefs. "
What is not simple? Doing all simple things well is not simple. ; What is extraordinary? Doing all ordinary things well is extraordinary.
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Writer Zhou Guoping said:
"Everything extraordinary in the world will eventually return to ordinary, and its value will be measured by ordinary life. Greatness, wonderfulness, and success are nothing, only the Life is complete when you truly live an ordinary life. ”
Perhaps, when we were young, we all thought that we should do something big in life instead of being an ordinary person all our lives.
When I grew up and had my own family, I discovered that being an ordinary person with a happy family and letting the whole family live healthy and happy is actually extraordinary.
So, why be extraordinary and why be afraid of being ordinary.
Life will give you the answer if you live calmly, just embrace it hard.
Reconciling with My Ordinary Life
I went on a business trip to Shanghai a while ago and took the opportunity to visit an old classmate. After three rounds of drinking, he told me that he was suffering from depression , which was moderate.
"I want to do a lot of things well, but I just can't do them well. A mediocre job, a dull marriage, a life without waves. Why? We were all very good in college! Now we are like this Birdlike? I don’t understand.”
My old classmate is an idealist, has high standards for himself, and has a tendency to be perfectionist in his work.
Wang Xiaobo said: "All human pain is essentially anger at one's own incompetence."
I hope that old classmates can face the imperfections in life, tolerate the difficulties in life, let gains and losses take their own course, and no longer blame themselves.
Someone once asked on Zhihu: "What is it like to be a bad student at Tsinghua University ?"
had a heart-warming answer: "I tried my best. Thank you all. I really tried my best, really tried my best.But nothing has changed, nothing has changed, nothing has changed. "
Across the screen, you can feel the frustration and powerlessness when he typed these words.
The truth of life is sometimes to find a balance between the pursuit of excellence and being willing to be ordinary.
As long as you try your best in everything, even in the end I have no regrets for not getting the results I wanted.
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My niece Jingyue felt that the current ordinary life was too ordinary, so she rushed to the noisy and bustling city with passion and grand dreams.
A year later during the Spring Festival, she cried to me: “I worked hard to realize my dream. I get up at 5 o'clock in the morning to catch the subway, and sometimes because I am in a hurry, I get spilled soy milk all over myself before I can drink it; I work overtime in the company, but still only get a monthly salary of four to five thousand yuan; after paying the rent every month, I have to calculate this How much money is left at your disposal every month..."
Working hard outside, who has it easier than others?
The cruelty of life is that no matter how hard you try, you can still only hover on the line of survival.
In this world, fear is It's not that you don't work hard enough, but that you realize after working hard that you can't.
Han Han once said that the biggest change for us and him on the road to ordinary
is not to be obsessed with "lost" and "not yet". "Get" is to admit that your abilities are limited and accept the fact that you are just an ordinary person. This is not a compromise, but a true understanding that in this life, people will eventually reconcile with their own ordinaryness.
Be a better self
Knowing Hushang once saw this question: What is the use of studying for so many years and reading so many books? In the end, you have to go back to an ordinary city, work an ordinary job, get married, wash and cook. If you already know the outcome, why bother with it?
There is a high praise reply:
"The reason for persisting in studying is that even if you end up falling into the tedious life, you may spend your life in an ordinary way. We will have a positive way of dealing with the setbacks of life; when facing the trivial life, we can discover the beauty in it; when facing the same things, we will have different attitudes and different moods. "
Do you still remember Wang Nianwen, Wang Xinghuo, Lin Wei, and Sun Yang, the "fashionable grandmas" who once hit the circle of friends and whose average age is over 68 years old?
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Beautiful music sounded, and the four faces were smiling The old man with a smile and exquisite make-up, wearing a beautiful silk scarf, a classical cheongsam, and high heels, tall and graceful, walked towards us on the catwalk in an "international" style.
Traditional and fashionable attire. The confident and elegant steps made countless people exclaim, "Is this really a grandma in her sixties or seventies?" At the same time, some people also questioned, don't "fashionable grandmas" take care of their grandchildren and take care of their families all day long?
But in fact, like many old ladies on the catwalk, they are just ordinary retired workers. Before retirement, their jobs had nothing to do with fashion.
When they stepped off the catwalk, they lived like other grandmothers. An ordinary life for a retired elderly person.
“The four of us come from families with an older family and a younger family. We must fulfill our responsibilities and help no one. We just have plans and arrangements for everything we do. "
" People think that we wear high-end and big-name clothes specially prepared for shooting. In fact, 80% of them are what we wear on daily basis, and many of the clothes are bought on Taobao."
"Many people ask us about the secret of skin care. In fact, it is nothing more than developing a good attitude, doing everything delicately, making a pot of good tea, reading a good book, being satisfied internally, and showing natural appearance externally. Best look. ”
They are not idol stars, nor are they celebrity elites, but they are admired and loved by countless people for their natural spontaneity, positive optimism, and intellectual beauty.
Always maintain the best attitude and do everything without any confusion. The heart is not trapped in emotions, does not dwell on the past, and is not afraid of the future.
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Strive to be a better version of yourself, then, even if our lives are just ordinary daily necessities, we can always live the way we like. .
If you are not great enough, don’t refuse ordinary work; if you are not happy enough, don’t look down on ordinary happiness.
Accept yourself as you are, accept your ordinaryness, and learn to love yourself.
Thoreau said:
" Life has no value unless you choose and give it value. There is no happiness anywhere unless you bring happiness to yourself. "
As long as you live with your own hands and work hard and have endless ambitions, ordinary life can still be poetic and picturesque, and bloom flowers of happiness.
I hope that ordinary us can finally have our own happy life.
