Obviously there are too many people asking for divorce after the college entrance examination.
Ms. Ms. Lu called me, Lawyer Lu, I’m going to get divorced. You helped me draft the divorce agreement and asked me to send it to you on WeChat. Please take a look. I said, OK. Then the other party hung up.
didn’t say a single unnecessary word. He calmly asked Lawyer Lu if he had eaten? I said I ate. Ms.
B consulted me in June last year. A year later, she was liberated...
has been married for 25 years, almost 50 years old, and has two children. The youngest son just took the college entrance examination this year. The reason for the divorce was that my husband had been violent for more than ten years. Once, several ribs were broken due to domestic violence. I lay in bed for a month. After calling the police, my husband squatted there for five days. After he came out, he still didn’t feel better. I felt cold when facing my husband. Su, on the other hand, dared not sleep at night, was timid and cautious during the day, and fought to death every time when he was drunk.
After listening to her story, I tried my best to persuade her to get a divorce with a responsible attitude towards her life safety first, but Ms. B said that she wanted to wait for another year and the reason why she did not divorce was for the sake of her youngest son. , the college entrance examination is one year away, and my son’s grades are very good. If the divorce affects my son’s college entrance examination, I will regret it for the rest of my life. I have endured it for so many years and my life has been in vain.
What else can I say? I can only understand and feel helpless...
I told her that if divorce is not possible for the time being, then you must also physically isolate yourself from him. That is, during this year, you must do everything you can to stay away from your husband to save your life. important.
Finally, I suggested to her that if she could rent a house near her son’s school and accompany her to study for a year, then you can file for divorce after the college entrance examination!
was afraid that her husband would cause trouble, so I told her to warn her husband before she left. If she still expected her son to get into a good university and honor our family, she should not harass her if nothing happened. It was precisely because her husband valued his son’s future. This year, Ms. B Safe and sound. Ms.
B is unfortunate and lucky at the same time.
The requirements in the divorce agreement she sent me were: I don’t want anything, I just want a divorce...
It means that there is no greater sorrow than death!
Compared with Ms. O here, Ms. O is much better.
Ms. O said that we made an appointment 6 years ago to get divorced after our children finish the college entrance examination. I was in line a month ago.
I have been married for 18 years, and one of my daughters will take the college entrance examination this year. Her husband cheated on her 6 years ago, and we had quarrels and preparations for divorce. However, 6 years ago, our daughter happened to be promoted to junior high school, which caused great impact and harm. Therefore, the two of them agreed to wait until their daughter takes the college entrance examination. Let's get divorced when it's over.
has been like this for 6 years, and the marriage has been riddled with holes and scars. They even agreed that they can play their own lives, but they have to act in front of their daughter. The two are still a loving couple, and they are acting until the college entrance examination.
When Ms. Z came to consult for divorce, she was surprisingly calm and said, "There don't seem to be any big problems, nor are there any issues of principle. Isn't it that the college entrance examination is over?" The child's results have also come out, and everyone is very happy, so let's take the opportunity to get a divorce!
It’s true that there is no problem. We basically can’t talk together. We used to have quarrels, but then we didn’t even quarrel anymore. I used to look at his phone, but now that his phone is in front of me, I don’t. After reading it, I am no longer interested in whether there is anyone there.
The most important thing is that what I can feel is his unprecedented care. Even when I was sick and lying in bed, he did not say a greeting. Instead, he asked me when I could get up to cook.
It is not the last straw that breaks the camel's back, but every straw. Marriage is broken down by the details of life little by little.
There is something more realistic. Last year, there was a consultation from a 48-year-old full-time housewife, as shown in the picture
Including a private legal consultant client of Lawyer Lu. The fixed property of 20 million in the family is all his personal property and not the husband and wife. Shared property also had evidence that her husband had cheated on her. I asked her what she would do next. Want a divorce?
She said, wait until my younger son finishes the college entrance examination before choosing divorce!
But her youngest son is only 8 years old...
There are many families like this. When a family has a car and a house, two people can no longer sit together peacefully, because couples of this age have basically spent their time together. After the running-in period of marriage, life gradually becomes dull. Day after day, the same people, the same things, the fresh passion no longer exists.
Coupled with the trivial chores of life, too much energy is consumed, so that the couple no longer has the leisure to create romance.
When the passion is gone, when the outside world is tempting you, when you encounter domestic violence, when your child has passed the college entrance examination, retaliatory divorce will come. How long will it take to stay together? Therefore, I will choose to end this marriage without any worries.
People who are surrounded by the city want to escape, and people outside the city want to rush in. Whether it is marriage, career, or games, most of their wishes in life are like this.
Parents think that for the sake of their children, they can barely wait until their children pass the college entrance examination before divorcing. In fact, children are far more sensitive and sensible than adults think. Whether the parents' relationship is good or not, and whether there are problems in the family, children actually see it.
The children pretended not to know, and the whole family was acting out, carefully maintaining the lie of a seemingly intact family. On the one hand, children face the pressure of the college entrance examination, and on the other hand, they face a marriage where their parents seem to be inseparable and may fall apart at any time, which puts them under even greater mental pressure.
Parents pretend to be tired, but in fact their children are even more tired.
Regarding whether we should wait for our children to take the college entrance examination before divorcing, Lawyer Lu has the following opinions:
First, Lawyer Lu never recommends that you have to endure severe domestic violence and risk your life while waiting for your child to take the college entrance examination. There is no point in giving your child a home that is noisy, fighting, and killing, with no warmth or love and only a superficial shell. Remember, your life is bigger than anything else.
Second, marriage is a social contract , where responsibility is greater than love. If your marriage has not reached the point of incompatibility, and both parents can reach a consensus for the sake of a healthy mentality for the children, then it is not wrong to choose to divorce after the college entrance examination.
Of course, happy families are all the same, but unhappy families are each unhappy in their own way. There is no standard answer to whether to divorce or not. It is not recommended to divorce hastily or to be impregnable. You have your own judgment whether to divorce or not to divorce based on your own marital situation.
Finally, I hope that no matter when you divorce, you should give priority to the healthy physical and mental growth of your children, and how to divorce to minimize the harm to your children.
Both parents should keep this in mind. Divorce or not will not have any impact on their children's lives. Therefore, there is no need to wait until after the college entrance examination before divorcing.
Parents can limit the divorce matter to the relationship between the couple and deal with it without fighting, seizing property or fighting over custody rights.
After divorce, one party should not say bad things about the other party in front of the children, and should not pass on negative energy to the children. Try to give the children a normal life, so that the children can still believe in love and the ability of marriage to love and be loved.
Although in reality, in the eyes of marriage lawyers, when every marriage falls apart, it is difficult for both parties to maintain such a dignified ending, but they are still willing to have hope for good things, that's all.
