Qin Guan wrote in "Magpie Bridge Immortal·Xianyun Nongqiao": "If the love between two people lasts for a long time, how can it last day and night." If the relationship between these two people is really long-lasting, why should we be greedy for the short-term? What about me and m

Qin Guan wrote in "Magpie Bridge Immortal·Xianyun Nongqiao": "If the love lasts for a long time, how can it last day and night."

If the relationship between these two people is really long-lasting, we Why should we covet the short-lived friendship? Only short-term feelings are full of excitement and sweetness.

Feelings should not be sugar water, but a cup of tea. Too sweet is not a good thing. And like tea, it leaves a lingering fragrance in the mouth, full of fragrance, slightly bitter and a little sweet. This is the real emotion.

Modern people’s feelings are actually worse than “sugar water”. It should be said that it is like water mixed with saccharin. It has no nutrients and is only disgustingly sweet.

Someone has said this: "It comes in a hurry and goes in a hurry. This is the fate of contemporary people's feelings."

Could it be said that there is no real love in this world? In fact, it's not that there are no real feelings, but that the real feelings are being "influenced" silently.

In the capital market, there is a phenomenon that "bad money drives out good money". You are so nice, but you are actually a bit out of line with the trend. Because things stained with dirt are the normal state of life.

Whether you are a couple or a lover, if these signs appear around you, it means that your fate has ended.

01

Men and women are suspicious of each other, indicating that their fate has been exhausted.

We might as well think about a question, why do marital conflicts and emotional crises occur in endlessly? Two reasons.

First of all, there is gradually no love between men and women, and there is more inner disgust and rejection. Secondly, there is mutual suspicion between men and women, and there is no trace of trust between them.

In the past, marriage was about being long and lasting, and even if there were any problems along the way, you could make do with it. But today's marriage is different. There are more "flash marriages and flash divorces", which are just child's play.

A marriage that has not experienced the running-in period is just a child's play house, so what does it count? Since it is a children's house, it is very common for men and women to have doubts.

I have seen many couples who started quarreling and even wanted to divorce just because someone else was sowing discord and saying that the other person had an outsider. What does this mean?

only shows one thing, there is no trust between these two people. So, why should we continue to live? If you continue to live, you will only become more flustered and anxious.

02

If there is a conflict of interest between men and women, then the fate is over.

What is the most direct way to destroy a relationship? That is to create unnecessary conflicts of interest for both men and women. Just the word "profit" can make a marriage decline.

has such a case.

My wife thinks that if my brother is getting married, then I have to pay for him to buy a house. The husband believes that we should not care about other people's affairs and just live our own lives.

Later, the wife was unwilling to do anything and felt that her husband had violated her ideas. As a result, she started to quarrel with her husband, and even said that he was cold-blooded and heartless and did not care about family ties.

The husband couldn't bear it anymore, so he chose to divorce his wife. In the end, they broke up and separated, and they became strangers from then on.

Why can interests easily affect a relationship? The most important reason is that everyone has a "profit-seeking" mentality. When this profit-seeking mentality is stimulated, irreconcilable contradictions appear.

Don't think that so-called feelings can last forever. You know, in the face of interests, there is no place for emotion.

03

If one party has an affair, then the fate is over.

Some psychologists have said that everyone is a creature that "likes the new and hates the old". For example, if you wear a piece of clothing for a long time, you will naturally want to change it. This is understandable human nature.

This kind of problem will also occur when people get along with each other - one party feels tired of it and meets a new person of the opposite sex outside. As a result, he fell in love with someone else and gradually began to hate his original wife.

If there is an affair for the first time, there will definitely be countless times, so who can endure it? The only way is to stay away in time and divorce in time.

Many people will say that they cannot get divorced if they have children. Others will say that they can't let go of this relationship or this marriage, and hope that they can stick to it and hope that the other person can change.

You must know that sheep cannot change the reality of eating grass. In this case, there is no need to forgive the person having the affair. Our fate has ended, it’s time to meet again in time. Otherwise, if the interruption continues, you will suffer from chaos.

04

As soon as we met, I was filled with panic and my fate was over.

Many people will say that relationships are always caused by "quarrels". If you have not experienced the process of quarrels, how can a relationship last long?

In fact, when the "quarrel" reaches a certain level, the two parties will "look at each other". I don’t like you, and you don’t like me either. Neither of us can bear it anymore, and the relationship disappears.

A famous person said that all true love comes from the mutual appreciation of men and women.

You understand my kindness, and I also miss your sincerity. In this way, the relationship between these two people can continue to flow like a stream. Otherwise, it can only be "cut off".

All broken feelings are like broken mirrors, there will never be a day of reunion. This is the so-called "a broken mirror is difficult to make a perfect thing".

There is no need to dwell on irreparable feelings. If fate is over, let each other go. That's all.

text/Shushan Youlu