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We live forever, and we will inevitably reach the stage of old age. At this stage, as an old man, you have already lost the energy to contribute to your children's family.

When you are in your dying years, you may even need the care of your children. At this time, you can tell at a glance whether your children are filial.

Those elderly people who can receive proper care from their children in their later years will become the most blessed people in the eyes of everyone.

In their later years, there are many people who have too much time to take care of their own small families. They often have no time to devote their energy to taking care of their elderly and frail parents, and can only let their parents face the pain that aging brings them alone.

This is undoubtedly an unfilial act, and it is only done due to the pressure of life.

There is another type of person who takes care of their parents based entirely on their own interests. When their own interests are involved, their parents will naturally become the ones who should be sacrificed the most in their choices.

In this regard, the neighbor’s 70-year-old Grandma Huang has a very good opinion. She often cries to her relatives and friends: It is not until the end of her life that she realizes that family love is very realistic.

1: I can’t help take care of my grandson, and my son doesn’t want to take care of himself in old age.

Grandma Huang has two sons. She can’t split one person in half to take care of the grandsons of both families. For this reason, Grandma Huang clearly told them from the beginning that she would not interfere in everything they raised their children.

What's more, she is now 70 years old and her body is no longer what it used to be. Even if she wants to break what she once said, she can no longer do anything.

She thought her son would understand her decision, but who would have thought that her son and daughter-in-law would refuse to support her in her old age because she could not help raise her grandson.

Because she did not help take care of her grandson, Grandma Huang lived alone in a small house in the countryside, silently feeling the changes of time. During this period, her two sons took the initiative to make very few calls to her, even to the point of being cold-blooded and indifferent.

Of course, Grandma Huang knew very well what her son Xiaojia was thinking. She only felt very cold and sad about this. In the view of the older generation, raising children is to prevent old age. But reality gave her two hard slaps, forcing her to wake up.

They calculated how much Grandma Huang had paid for the family to measure how much they should pay for Grandma Huang. Grandma Huang could not take care of her grandchildren, so they were not even willing to pay.

But they never thought that Grandma Huang worked hard to raise them as adults. How much hardship she suffered and how much love she gave, how should these accounts be calculated?

Children are destined to owe their parents something in their lives. They cannot repay just the kindness of raising them in childhood, so how can they dare to expect more from their parents.

2: He was unwilling to hand over all the pension money, but his son blamed himself for being selfish.

Later, something happened, which made Grandma Huang completely feel cold towards her two sons. On the pretext of buying a house, they tried to persuade Grandma Huang to hand over all her pension to help them buy a house.

Grandma Huang thought about her two sons' indifference towards her and knew what would happen to her in her later years if she gave her pension to them, so she refused directly.

Unexpectedly, her two sons blamed her for being selfish. They thought that other parents tried their best to support their children, but only Grandma Huang would be so fussy about it, even if she was guarding her pension, she would not spend it to help them reduce their financial burden.

The unfilial piety of her sons was the greatest harm suffered by Grandma Huang in her later years. They kept blaming themselves for being selfish, but never reflected on whether their behavior was more selfish.

We have all heard that parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans. It seems that if parents cannot give their children everything they want, they have not done their job.

But parents don’t owe their children anything. If they are able, they can help them more, and if they are not able, they can take care of themselves. This in itself is also a help to their children’s family.

If the children become adults and the family becomes independent, they still regard the contributions of their aging parents as the standard to measure their own contributions. This kind of relationship makes people feel a bit sad.

When the family relationship between parents and children reaches the point where the pros and cons need to be weighed and the effort required, such realistic family love cannot bring comfort to the elderly in their later years.

Hurt has become the only thing in this relationship. The son thinks that his parents are selfish, and the parents also think that their son is selfish. All kinds of calculations in reality only make people feel sad and ridiculous.

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