Shanghai was under lockdown due to the epidemic, and my child’s father worked from home for more than three months. When he stayed at home, he would help me take care of the baby, do housework, and play with me, but I was still annoyed by him.
"There are mistakes in being happy"
Because he is at home, I have to make do with him all the time. He gets up at 9 o'clock in the morning, and I have to sleep with him. The child's breakfast is bread + milk. He eats on time at 12 noon and doesn’t take takeout, so I have to prepare the meal on time; he eats on time at 6 o’clock in the evening, but has meetings from time to time, so I prepare a meal and wait for him. When he gets ready over there, the meal may be cold.
He finished his work after almost 9:30 in the evening, and then he wanted to watch TV or play games. Oh my God, I don’t like watching TV, and I don’t really like playing games, but he wanted me to accompany him.
He goes to bed at 12 o'clock in the evening and falls asleep instantly. The quality of his sleep is super good, leaving me alone to work around until one or two o'clock in the morning before I can fall asleep. God, I'm getting older, and I can't stand this routine anymore. If I keep doing it anymore, I'll be useless!
There is another thing that makes me unbearable. When there are three people in the house, they are very happy every day. The food is good, there are many snacks, and they naturally eat more. I am older, my metabolism is slow, and I see my waist circumference exceeding 60 centimeters and heading straight towards 70. My back seems to be thicker and I have a double chin. I get very anxious when I gain weight.
Hey, I really can’t stand him sitting at home every day.
"Trick him to go out and live"
Shanghai has finally unsealed, and he can go to work, because he accidentally scratched off a toenail while fishing, and it is not convenient for him to go to work with his limp leg. I encouraged him to live with my sister Gone home.
My sister lives at the subway entrance, which is also close to his company. It is more convenient to work from there. And my parents are here too. Their food is better than mine, and there are more snacks than mine. My parents take good care of him, and he was quite comfortable there.
So, without him at home, I finally had time to recover.
"Regular Life"
He is not at home. The biggest advantage is that my daughter and I have returned to normal life routines.
We get up at 6:40 every morning, she gets dressed and washes up, and I make breakfast. My daughter and I eat bread or steamed buns as the main food, followed by a piece of steak or shrimp, a carton of milk, and a plate of vegetables, which are easy to cook and nutritious. After dinner, I combed my child's hair and went to kindergarten before 7:40. At noon, I usually order a weight-loss meal such as chicken salad , or just eat some cucumbers or tomatoes without eating rice or noodles at all. When I pick up my kids home at night, it’s too hot outside and I basically don’t play outside.
Her father is not here, and the TV at home does not need to be turned on. The iPad is only used to learn what she needs to learn. When she got home, she played with toys and cats. While I was cooking, she collected and tidied the clothes, and used the mite remover to vacuum the bed.
In the evening we also had vegetables, bread, eggs and milk. I only ate eggs and vegetables and went out for a walk after eating.
Do jumping jacks at eight o'clock. While dancing, I recite poems with me. There are almost 50 poems in each group. I dance 5 groups a day. I can basically recite a poem. Then review according to the Ebbinghaus forgetting curve, and I feel it is somewhat useful.
After dancing, we took a break and studied for about half an hour. We went to bed a little after nine o'clock.
I have been eating regularly for a week. The key is not to eat snacks, not much rice and noodles, and not full. I feel that I have lost weight, and my waist circumference has increased from 68 to 64. Hey, even though I’m 165, my skirts are all in size XS. I really can’t gain weight. If I gain weight, most of my clothes will have to be changed. In short, persistence is victory!
"A Different Baby"
The child's father is at home, and the child clings to him every day, watching TV and playing games with him, which makes people very irritated.If he is not around, the child will not think about watching TV or playing games. I take him with me most of the time, and she treats TV and games as dispensable as I do. If she stays with me, she will help me with housework, or she will study and exercise according to her plan.
I watch one or two episodes of documentaries with her every week. I watched "Green Planet" last week. She was very shocked and hoped to see those magical places in the future. I told her that these places are all in foreign countries, and people in foreign countries speak English. Ned must learn English first, otherwise you won’t even know how to buy a piece of bread there.
I asked her to start with the 26 English letters and ask her to recognize, read and write them. If she learned one, she would come to me and start dictating from big A. If I clicked casually, she would read it out immediately. After completing the task every day, I asked her to apply lipstick on me. She was very interested in makeup and especially loved my lipstick. I disliked her poor lip lining, so I asked her to quickly practice pen control. She is planning... Haha, the younger ones are easier to deceive!
Because the child’s father is not at home, we go to bed early and chat for a while while lying on the bed. She couldn't sleep, so I guided her to go through what she had done today in her mind, and think about what she would do tomorrow in advance.
I told her that there was a naughty child named Azi living in her head. Azi only wanted to eat delicious food, but did not want to exercise or study. She was an illiterate person who was ignorant. You have to teach her everything you have learned. Otherwise, she will still be ignorant in the future and encourage you to eat a lot of sweets, causing holes in your teeth from the cavities. She shared with me that two days ago, she was encouraged by Ah Zi and she almost ate the butterfly lollipop at home, but luckily she didn't listen to Ah Zi's words.
I taught her how to teach Azi to learn, for example, 26 letters. You should recite them silently in your mind, and then think about what they look like and how they should be written. If you can think of them, it means that Azi has learned them. Why can't you think of them? Get up the next day and go take a look. She said she taught Ah Zi, I don’t know, but she fell asleep quickly every day, and it was not easy to forget what she learned.
The Feynman learning method, [output forces input], should be effective. I also lied to her that my grandpa was illiterate because he had no money to go to school when he was a child. Therefore, she had to teach her grandfather English, Pinyin, literacy and arithmetic. When she went to school, she would also teach her grandfather what she had learned so that he could become a cultural person. Haha, the lockdown in Shanghai has been lifted, and the old tool man can be brought here soon. Grandpa is fine anyway, so from now on he can just listen to his son's lectures. I'll buy him more good wine to reward him!
I will continue to work in the future and don’t have much time to spend with her, so I have to cultivate her habits well. In the future, when I am not at home, they will directly operate according to the process I planned. Otherwise, the old man will be played around by the baby again, and I I can't work with peace of mind.
Oh, she has learned to add and subtract within 20 these days. I don’t know if it’s because I played cards with her recently, so I changed the ratio to the final ratio. Whoever’s card is bigger will be counted as the sum of the two cards. Or worse. Although it's not very fast, I know it after all, which makes me feel more at ease, because I was afraid that she wouldn't know anything when she was in elementary school.
"The only trouble"
Haha, the only bad thing about the child's father not being at home is probably that he has been missing a man for a long time, which is a bit sad. He has been telling me every day recently that he wants his wife and children to go home. I asked him to hold on and come back when his feet and legs are completely healed.
Let’s sleep separately with him when he comes back. The two of us have different schedules, which is really sad. What reason should I think of to make him think that I share a room with him out of love for him and consideration for him? Tell him, if I'm not around, you can watch beautiful girls on Douyin as much as you want? He must not shoot me to death! A bit sad!
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