After sending the children to kindergarten in the morning, my husband asked me to show him the store. He said that since my child was in kindergarten, I would be free and go to his store to look after him, so that he wouldn't have to spend money to take care of the store clerk. I

After sending the children to kindergarten in the morning, my husband asked me to look at the store for him. He said that since my child was in kindergarten, I would be free and go to his store to look after him, so that he wouldn't have to spend money to take care of the store clerk. I didn't agree because I felt that investing in a man is not as good as investing in yourself.

I don’t know when we started to quarrel frequently. We couldn’t synchronize and couldn’t communicate together. You talked about one thing and another talked about other things. We argued every day. In the end, we were exhausted from the quarrel and we started to treat each other coldly. Although there is no more noise and quiet, the relationship is becoming more and more distant...

I have been engaged in the breastfeeding guidance industry for 8 years. Maybe I was lucky. In those years, I caught up with the bonus period of the breastfeeding guidance industry. The income is not bad. During those years, my family had a lot of things and expenses, and my income at that time was not bad. I fulfilled my wish within my ability. Now that I think about the past, I have no regrets.

Later I had a child, and my husband thought I was neglecting my family and quarreling frequently. He said he hoped that I could put down my work and take care of the child. Making money is a man's business, so he asked me to provide support at home and let him take care of his career. Let's do it. I definitely didn't agree at that time, because my daily income at that time was 2,000-3,000 yuan. Opportunities and good luck can come only a few times in a person's life. If you miss it, you will never have it again. In this way, I would go out at 6 o'clock during the day and provide services to my mother at 12 o'clock at night. When I got home at night, we would argue. I was extremely exhausted both physically and mentally. He said that I was too strong, and even his friends around him said that I was too strong in the end. To me, it’s not good for women to be strong. I don’t know how his friends knew about our relationship. They made it sound like they were a family, living and sleeping together. Finally, I became depressed and filed for divorce. After the store expired, I did not renew it and asked a housekeeping company to move the items in the store. Finally, considering the children, we decided to give each other another chance after being separated for half a year. We were in charge and he was in charge.

I have been taking care of my baby full-time for a year and a half. He gives 1,000 yuan a month for household expenses, and occasionally 2,000. I haven’t bought myself a decent piece of clothing since I took care of my baby... He never shares the burden at home. Housework, he said, is what women do, while men are out there doing the world work, and none of his friends around him do housework. Because my children are older and I don’t want to argue in front of them, I choose to ignore it and do it myself.

To tell the truth, men's mouths are deceiving. If a man says that you are inside and I am outside, don't believe it if I give you money. Just like in our family, when we have an argument, he will say, is it hard for me to give you no money every month? But he forgot that what he gave was RMB and not US dollars. He always thought that he would not be able to spend all the 1,000 yuan every month and there would be some leftover.

I have been learning to make videos and write headlines for 41 days now, and my total income from is 4.44. He always feels that I am not doing my job properly, and if I have the time, I might as well do housework. This morning he thought I didn't go to his store, so he said angrily, "Please clean up your house and don't carry a mobile phone all day long. That's money, so you have the nerve to tell people." I was very angry at the time and told him directly: I am not a nanny. You often say that there is nothing to do with taking care of the baby. Why should I? Just because I have no income now doesn’t mean I won’t have any income a year or two from now. After hearing this, he went to work angrily.

I have always felt that it is better to invest in yourself than to sacrifice yourself to invest in a man. The world is changing too fast. As long as you work hard, you can give yourself what you want. All sense of security is not given to us by the outside world, but by taking care of ourselves, having a good body, and not losing the ability to make money, then you will be safe.

Do you think my point of view is reasonable? After 30 years old, will you still desperately invest in a man? If you invest all your money, will you win or lose? ? ?