Today’s Digest
A young lady who was emotionally injured wrote a summary of lessons learned in tears.
She said
"If she could go back to the past, she must have some scheming."
What women should have scheming
1. You must give a betrothal gift when you get married
2. You must be financially independent after marriage
3. Be sure not to get pregnant first
4. Don’t continue after marriage. Give birth to a child
5. Work hard and learn more knowledge
6. Don’t talk too much to your husband about his family members
7. Don’t talk too much about your own family
8. After marriage, you must learn to control your husband’s finances
9. Don’t Go back to your parents’ home to borrow money to support your husband’s business
10. Don’t forget to dress yourself up and train yourself
Be scheming, not to harm others but to better protect yourself!
I also discussed with a few ladies today about girls’ self-preservation and marriage topic of.
Let’s briefly talk about a few points!
The first young lady said
"Since I was a child, both school and family have been teaching people to do good, believing that good deeds are rewarded with good deeds.
Only when I was ruthlessly whipped by society did I realize that I had no ability to face evil deeds.
Since the law of competition between the weak and the strong has never changed, why do we only teach people to do good and not teach people to avoid evil?"
The second young lady said
"As their daughter-in-law, you must be filial to your parents-in-law and not considerate of your natal family? .
You have to go back to your husband’s family first during the Chinese New Year, and it’s the mother’s family’s turn on the second day of the Lunar New Year. The child should have the surname of the father-in-law’s family, not the father-in-law’s family.
After the elderly on both sides are too old to move, the parents-in-law will take care of them, and the parents-in-law will at best hire a nanny. , or just go back and take a look during the Chinese New Year.
I don’t know if this counts as a double standard?”
The third young lady said
“I have a cousin who married far away, without any gift, and gave birth to two children. I have to rely on myself at home. She worked and borrowed money from her relatives to build a house, but her husband's family didn't take her seriously. She didn't spend any money to marry her back, so no one valued her. Her husband's money was caught by her mother-in-law.
Her husband had no money to pay her back. They won’t let me get divorced and they will fight me at every turn. I got divorced this year and left home. I have to pay back the money I borrowed from my relatives.”
The fourth girl said
“I didn’t ask for a bride price when I got married because he was financially poor at that time. Not good.
But now he gives me all the money, and the house and car are all in my name.
Marriage is not a business deal. If you are too fussy about it, it will change. "
The fifth young lady criticized her.
"You just met. Just a good person.
You should protect yourself first before talking about anything else.
Your marriage is like gambling. You are lucky.
Those who lose really have nothing. The sixth young lady said
"It is okay to borrow money from your parents' family to help your husband, but you have to meet a good man. If you meet a heartless man, you will be heartbroken."
The seventh young lady said
"You must not have the intention to harm others. , it is necessary to be on guard against others."
A young man said
"Men should remember that they are well matched.
can accept any conditions. "
In fact, they have everything they say.
But in marriage, you must have the abilities you should have. This is true.
I am financially independent and have an independent personality. I am not afraid at any time. I have more choices and I can escape at any time. ; You always have the right and strength to pursue higher happiness.
After all, the most reliable person is yourself. It’s useless to rely on anyone. Keep your eyes open before marriage.
Girl, men are more realistic than women. Don’t. Love brain.
