A wedding took half my life. This is the biggest emotion a friend of mine had after finishing his son’s wedding. Due to the epidemic, his son's wedding ended last week after repeated delays, and his hanging heart finally settled. My son and daughter-in-law were introduced to each other last year. His son is a middle school teacher and his daughter-in-law is a hospital nurse. Both parties are quite satisfied with each other when they meet. From falling in love to talking about marriage, every step of the process has been followed. Basically, Follow local customs. We children in Northern Jiangsu all have fixed routines and standards for getting married, and there are basically no big differences. Yesterday we had a small gathering and talked about the expenses for children's marriage. He gave us a detailed explanation. We were all surprised after hearing this. The cost of children's marriage is quite serious and has become a heavy burden on the family.
The basic items and cost standards for marriage are roughly as follows:
1. Engagement
1. Meeting gift 11,000 (pick one from a million),
2. Engagement 88,000 (fafa),
3. Wedding ring 30,000-40,000 (three gold, and some are hardware) , gold rings, gold bracelets, gold necklaces, gold earrings, etc.),
2. Engagement
4. Betrothal gift, the annual allowance (birth date) is 128,000 (engagement period),
5. House (must be a three-bedroom in the county), including Decoration, home appliances, etc. 1.5 million,
6. Car 150,000,
3. Marriage
7. Bed 0.6-10,000,
8. Ordinary bedding costs 20,000, including quilts, four-piece sets, etc.
9. A set of wedding photos 1.5 10,000 yuan (including wedding makeup, etc.),
10. Change of mouth fee 11,000 yuan,
11. Drop-off fee, pinch lock (pinch box) 5,000 yuan,
12. Wedding celebration 20,000 yuan,
13. 20 tables of banquets 30,000 yuan, meals per table 1,000 yuan, 500 yuan for wine, tobacco and drinks (two bottles of wine, 3 boxes of cigarettes),
14. The guest returns a gift of 10,000 yuan, 50 yuan each (1 box of cigarettes is 40-43 yuan, 9 pieces of candy, packaging box),
15. Others are about 5 Ten thousand yuan.
When someone is happy, someone will pay for it. I don’t know unless I mention it, but I’m really shocked when I mention it. Not only is the process complicated, but the fee is not low for ordinary people. In total, it costs about more than 2 million, and of course the majority of it is the house. Although we are a county town, But the house price has exceeded RMB 10,000, and a house in a good school district costs RMB 13,000, and the minimum is more than RMB 8,000. Although the woman has given gifts in return, they are all for the young couple. What the parents give out are real money and cannot be taken back. They only receive gifts from the guests. Some parents can get part of it back, while others can get some after the wedding drinks. After expenses, I will also choose to give it to my son and daughter-in-law.
No wonder some young people now choose to be single, unmarried, DINK, and cannot afford to buy a house or get married. Parents cannot afford to be poor or sick. Marriage is the most serious problem in China, and investment costs are too high. High, so you should be careful when choosing your marriage partner. Divorce is equivalent to bankruptcy. The national level must also face up to this reality, guide and advocate changes in customs, reduce family burdens, make marriage easy and enjoyable, and not become the "last straw" that breaks the parents' back.
