Someone asked, what is happiness?
Happiness means loving parents, filial children, and a family full of children and grandchildren. Happiness means health, longevity, and a happy mood.
Yes, this is happiness. Knowing happiness is easy, but getting happiness is difficult. This is called knowing is easier than doing. The farthest distance in the world is the distance between knowledge and action.
Whether a person is happy or not can only be known more clearly in old age.
Yes, this is true, because whether the elderly regret their past or are worried about their children's unfilial piety, in short, you can know whether the elderly are happy or not by looking at their lives.
When people reach middle age, they are often under a lot of pressure, because most people are poor and a small number of people are rich, so many families are destined to be unhappy.
The term "gnawing old people" is not groundless.
Yes, many young people like to chew on the elderly. The reason why the elderly live in pain when they reach old age is because they have no money, because if you have money, you will be protected. You can go to a nursing home and hire a nanny. But this is for the rich. For people. So, for most ordinary people, how can they live happily without causing trouble to their children or being disliked by them?
The most important thing is to refuse these two requests from your children. Only by learning to say no can you live longer and have peace of mind.
Uncle Zhao: You cannot give your own retirement home to your children
My name is Zhao Lidong, I am 73 years old this year, and I have been retired for thirteen years.
My health has been deteriorating during this period. Now I no longer have a nursing home . I feel very regretful. After thinking about it, I feel that I really shouldn’t have sold my nursing home to my son. I hope that the general public will not be like me. .
I work in a private company , and my pension is 3,000 yuan. This number is not much, but it is still a lot. At least it is more than enough for daily consumption. Even if I live in a big city, 3,000 yuan can cover food and clothing.
My wife and I divorced very early. At that time, my child was still very young, only 12 years old.
I worked hard to raise my son, sent him to college, paid his tuition and living expenses, and I worked hard without complaining.
But after my son graduated from college and went out into the world, he also worked in a company, but that company was not my company.
Before I retired, my grandson was born. Later, my grandson was getting married before he was 20 years old. My son asked me to live with him and asked me to sell the retirement home.
I was extremely hesitant at the time because I had remarried and my son had some conflicts with me because of my remarriage.
My remarried wife also brought a son, and she often had conflicts with my son. My remarried wife often bossed me around, saying that my son was a waste and the son of a slut. This made my son resentful, and I My son often quarreled with my remarried wife. We had many quarrels. My remarried wife’s son was about the same age as my son, and they were incompatible with each other. In the end, I couldn’t bear it anymore and divorced my remarried wife.
After the divorce, I never found a woman again. I was afraid that my remarried wife would not be able to treat my children as her own.
So I have been alone for ten years, but I don't feel that I can't live without a woman. Instead, I am more worried about my son.
Over the years, I have been having trouble with my son. It was not until my grandson got married that he prepared money for the bride price, that my son reconciled with me. He took the initiative to tell me whether I had saved a lot of money for my retirement fund over the years. , I have saved a lot of money in the business for so many years.
I only had a total of 150,000 at that time, and I gave it all to my grandson without leaving a penny.
After my grandson got married, he had to pay off the mortgage and car loan. My son told me to sell the retirement home, so I sold the retirement home and went to live with my son.
Before I went to my son's place, my daily life was relatively comfortable. Playing mahjong and chess with my friends every day, or going to the Cultural Park alone in the evening was also a beautiful thing.
But my son and his daughter-in-law are trouble-free people. I was happy only in the first year. From the second year on, my daughter-in-law disliked me getting in the way. The house was too crowded and we felt it was too awkward and inconvenient to live together. I would like to suggest My son sent me home.
But all my old houses were sold. As a last resort, my daughter-in-law, in order to vent her anger and think I was not an eyesore, instigated my son to take pension money from me. They took away my pension card. This makes me even more depressed.
I left without asking my son for the money back. I rented a house in my hometown and lived alone. Although I am still alone, it is still far from having my own house compared to before.
Aunt Zhang: You must not give your pension to your children
My name is Zhang Xiaoli. I am 71 years old. I have been retired for more than ten years. I have a pension of 3,000 yuan. This pension is considered high. I have always felt that I am very happy. Contentment.
My wife and I have a daughter but no son, but I don’t think this is a pity because the daughter was quite filial at first.
My daughter’s living expenses and tuition fees for college are all paid for by my pension, and she does not have a summer job, let alone a part-time job.
My daughter later got married and moved to another province. Although the long distance made me feel a little troubled, as long as my daughter and son-in-law truly love each other and are harmonious and happy, that will be fine.
My daughter later asked me to live with them and help them take care of their children. I thought it was okay to be a nanny for my daughter, so I went over.
But what I didn’t expect was that they actually wanted to take advantage of my pension. They said, “Mom, you can’t use your pension. You are here, eating our food and wearing our clothes. Don’t save those pension funds.” "If you get sick, we will pay for your treatment."
I gave them part of my pension at first, but then they took it for granted and took away my pension card.
I was very discouraged, and finally told them that I was going back to my hometown and returned the pension card to me, so my daughter returned the pension card to me.
I may have been a little depressed in my hometown because I had some money before I left, but after I left, I had no savings.
I exercise every day, go hiking, water the flowers and plants when I have nothing to do, watch TV dramas at night, and occasionally listen to music. This life can go by like this.
Conclusion:
Pensions and nursing homes are the protection of the elderly and are the top priority. They must not be taken away by children, because some children are gnawing at the elderly. Once these two things are taken away, they will not be returned. .
