Introduction:
Why do you still want to find a wife when you are seventy or eighty years old? I think it's because of loneliness. When people reach old age, their physical fitness will continue to decline. Accidents and diseases may be caused by the front and rear legs. It is unstoppable that a wife dies before oneself, and sadness will follow. It coincides with the time when the children are getting married, starting a business, and moving out to live. If a person cannot resist the feeling of loneliness, he will naturally have the idea of finding a wife.
But does every old man looking for a wife have the attitude of getting by? Impossible, some people have ulterior motives and seek personal gain for themselves under the guise of finding a wife. The 75-year-old Uncle Jiang said frankly: "There is a kind of woman who likes to find a wife. She is not doing it to live, but for other purposes."
The 75-year-old Uncle Jiang said in his own words:
My surname is Jiang, I am 75 years old, and I live in Guangxi. Nanning. I used to be a technician in a factory, and after retirement I had a monthly pension of more than 2,000 yuan. My wife left ten years ago. I have two sons and a daughter. They are very filial, but they are too busy and rarely come back.
After retirement, we don’t have to help our children take care of the children like other old people, the daughter-in-law can take care of them herself, so my wife and I had a very easy time during our retirement years, but I didn’t know how to cherish it, and often went out to play alone regardless of my wife’s feelings. , leaving my wife at home. At that time, I was obsessed with fishing and was rarely at home during the day, so my wife often complained to me, but I didn't take it seriously and didn't listen at all, otherwise the following things would not have happened.
Fishing is a very fascinating thing, especially when certain fishing spots hold competitions, and I don't go home for days and nights. Later, something happened to my wife, so I stopped fishing. Because I often left my wife alone at home, she was bored, so she went out to play cards. Later, she was deceived into managing money, and finally lost all her savings. After the incident was revealed, she blamed herself very much and was depressed every day. It didn't take long for her to die. I didn't blame my wife at that time, because I had an unshirkable responsibility for causing such confusion. When my wife passed away, I was very sad and regretful at the same time, so I decided not to go fishing again.
After my wife left, I lived alone for seven years, and I basically got used to living alone. But the year before last, I unfortunately fell down and lived a very difficult life. At that time, my eldest son went to another place for training, my younger son’s second child had just been born, and my daughter was very busy with work, so no one had time to take care of me. They came to see me while I was in the hospital, but they didn't have time to take care of me, so they hired a caregiver for me.
After I was discharged from the hospital, I had no nursing staff to take care of me. At that time, the children insisted on hiring a caregiver to take care of me, but I refused. I only broke one leg and my other mobility was normal. Moreover, my pension was not high. Hiring a caregiver cost 300 yuan a day. After one month, one child I have to bear about 3,000 yuan. I don’t want my children to be burdened by me, so I do this.
At that time, I was dragging an injured leg alone, and I could barely take care of myself. However, going to the toilet and taking a shower were not so easy. The wound often burst open and made me grimace in pain. At that time, I thought about my wife again. If my wife still Now, I don’t have to suffer so much. It was also at this time that I had the idea of finding a wife.
After I recovered from my leg injury, I went to a marriage agency for the elderly, , where I met Xiaofang. Xiaofang is two years younger than me. We both liked each other, so we started dating. At that time, I believed that Xiaofang was my ideal partner, but when Xiaofang made some demands on me, I felt that Xiaofang had a purpose in dating me.
At that time, my pension was about 2,750 yuan, and she told me that after living together, my pension would be used for living expenses. I have no opinion on this point. Men should be the master of the house and women should be the master of the house. Men should bear the living expenses. But Xiaofang was still not satisfied, and she also asked me to give a thousand yuan in alimony to each of my children, and give it to her for safekeeping, as a reserve fund for future retirement life. At the same time, she also asked me to get a certificate for my child a hundred years later. Half of the property is hers.I felt that the last two conditions were too much, so I asked her, I have paid so much, so what can you give? She told me very calmly that all she gave was companionship, so I asked who would do the housework. She directly said that the housework was too complicated and she could share some of it, but I live in my home and I should bear most of it.
I think Xiaofang is not looking for a wife, but someone to take care of her and also want my property. I felt that her demands were too much, and in the end I was unwilling to continue dating her. So I found a new partner, her name was Ayu. Ayu was five years younger than me and looked very young. When Ayu agreed to date me, I was very happy and thought I had gotten a bargain. But what happened to Ayu in the future? Makes me very angry.
During the time when I was dating Ayu, Ayu invited me to eat in many high-end places and took me to shopping malls. As a man, I pay for meals, and I should go to shopping malls with members of the opposite sex to buy gifts for each other. However, the places Ayu goes to are really beyond my reach. Once or twice is okay, who can afford to go there often? At that time, we were in the process of dating, and I was too embarrassed to say anything, so I could only give in unwillingly. About three months later, Ayu said that I was a good person and was willing to live with me, but she had conditions. When we live together, her retirement salary and savings must be managed by her, and I have to share the housework with her. In addition, we have to raise our grandchildren with her.
These conditions may not seem excessive, but when I think about it carefully, I realize that here and there I am living with my wife, but on the contrary, I am the one who contributes money and effort, and also has to serve two ancestors, one old and one young. I feel it's unfair to me, how could she go so far. I thought about it and let it go. Living with Ayu is very unrealistic. If nothing else, raising a grandson is a headache. We are in a period of recuperation at this age, so we don’t have the energy to take care of a child. When I proposed breaking up with Ayu, saying that I couldn't accept these conditions, Ayu cursed me, saying that a toad wanted to eat swan meat. When she said that, I almost got mad to death. Only then did I realize that she was such an unreasonable person. I was glad that I didn’t live with her. If we did, I would suffer.
Later, I still didn’t give up and looked for other partners in the blind date market, but in the end, when I talked about the conditions, I gave up. From then on, I decided not to look for a wife anymore, because I came into contact with so many blind dates, and I found that very few of them really lived a good life. Most of them were just looking for someone to take advantage of and enjoy other people's lives.
After experiencing these things, I think it is unrealistic for a seventy or eighty-year-old man to find a wife. At this age, he is already in his twilight years and there is not much time left. Finding a wife is a very troublesome matter, involving There are many problems, so it is better not to find a wife easily, because your body and spirit cannot withstand the torment.
is written at the end:
Elderly people in their 70s and 80s are basically getting older and their bodies are constantly declining. At this time, the risk of finding a wife will be very high. If you are in good health and the other person is not in good health, you may have to take care of the other person. At your age, you need someone to help you live. If you enter the stage of caring for others, your own body will not be able to bear it. Some people say that I can find a wife of a similar age. Do you think this is realistic?
Why do older women still look for a wife, and they should look for a rich and capable wife? Because they think more rationally than men, and they know that in a partnership life, as long as the other partner falls, sooner or later they will separate. Put forward the conditions as much as possible so that you can enjoy it and have someone else pay for it.
In short, it is not realistic to find a wife when you are old. If you live alone, you can hire a nanny to take care of you if you have the conditions. If not, you can go to a nursing home. These methods are very good and you can enjoy services. It can also avoid a lot of trouble.
