Qian Zhongshu wrote this paragraph in " siege": "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out." _span5p p11p Marriage is an abstract thing, but it is a process that most people will go through in this long life.
If you can find a happy marriage, it is certainly a good thing, but not every marriage can have a good result. A little carelessness may lead to sadness in your life.
Those who break life because of marriage are often caused by "being unfair to others."
Before marriage, many women were touched by each other's sweet words. Even if they had any shortcomings, they would choose to ignore them. I believe they can change in the future, but it turns out that they have not.
Marriage and love are two-way choices between two people. If you choose the right person, you will have a happy family for the rest of your life, singing and laughing; if you choose the wrong person, even if you go through hardships, it will be nothing.
There are a hundred kinds of people,The appearance of some people is a small fortune, and the appearance of some people is your disaster.
Life is not easy, no one is a masochist. In the two-way choice of love, we must keep our eyes open, choose carefully, and choose the right person to join hands with the white head. The game loses.
Therefore, whether you are married or in love, please stay away from these three kinds of "people".
1. Stay away from people who are not responsible for the family
A family is never supported by one person, so it must be supported by both parties If the members of are unwilling to pay for this family, then this relationship must be very unequal, and it is easy to make this relationship unbalanced.
Of course, a person who has no sense of responsibility, in their opinion, everything encountered in life is not related to them, and they are not willing to be responsible for these matters. Even if people like
get married and become a family, they cannot "willingly" contribute to the family because they have nothing to do with them in their hearts.
The premise of a happy marriage is to have a happy family.If the man who is the backbone of the family can't support this family, then how can this family be happy?
So no matter if you are in love or married, don't believe that a person will change after marriage and will take responsibility for the family.
Because this is unrealistic, when you meet such a person who is not responsible for the family, then learn to stay away in time.
Second, stay away from people who spend money uncontrollably
Many men are buying face because of their friends, parties and dinner parties.
Or often go out with friends to eat, drink and have fun, or often buy something meaningless, they spend their money on these unnecessary places.
In fact, it is understandable for men to do this occasionally when they are young, but if they still do not change after marriage and continue to spend all their money in these unnecessary places, it is very scary. .
After marriage, a man must learn to save money, save his own small vault, and leave a guarantee for the family and the future.
If a man is addicted to eating, drinking, playing, and even gambling before and after marriage, then such a man must not be able to assume family responsibilities.
A man who is profligate, spends money without restraint, don't expect him to make much contribution to the family, don't be dragged down by him is a blessing in misfortune.
If you are with this kind of man, there will be no happiness at all, so when you encounter that kind of man who spends money without restraint, you should stay away in time.
3. "Stay away" from unfilial people
The attitude that a person treats towards his parents will actually determine how he treats his parents in the future. Parents who raise adults by themselves, how can they talk about taking good care of you in the future married life?
Besides, a man is not filial to his parents, so how can he respect and take care of your parents?
So when this kind of man appears in your life, then you must not hesitate too much, you should stop it, otherwise your life will be greatly affected.
You are young and people are young. This is a good character, but also a concrete manifestation of a man's mature responsibility.
Hundreds of filial piety first, living with an unfilial man, you will be frightened by his bizarre values, and the rest of life must be endless troubles and quarrels.
So when you encounter this kind of unfilial person, even if you like the other person, you must stop the loss in time.
Emotional classroom:
Marriage and love are definitely not the same thing. In the process of marriage, two people can live together, but they may be acceptable. Need to change one's own shortcomings for the other party.
If a man is unwilling to change these for you, then this marriage will generally not have any good results for both parties.
When faced with the choice of love, we must not be too hasty. You must know that if you decide a marriage casually, if you accidentally meet someone who is not suitable for you, then you will not only lose Love also lost the original happy life.
If you haven’t met someone who can give us happiness,Don't worry about it, don't let it go.
Some people should cherish, some "people" must stay away when they meet, don't miss love, let alone fall into the quagmire.
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