Love is a wonderful thing. It is elusive and has no shape, but it is clearly understood by everyone.
When we love someone, all we see are the advantages of the other person, and even fart is delicious, but when you don’t love someone, even breathing is wrong, and love cannot be the same. The language also varies from person to person.
Husband took the opposite sex home, and his wife was beaten when he discovered it
38-year-old Xiao Gao (a pseudonym) and her husband Zhang Qiang (a pseudonym) have been married for 10 years, and they have a son who is now 8 years old. Li Xiaogao works in Jiaocheng, while Zhang Qiang works in Yuci, almost in a separated state.
Just two months ago, Xiao Gao took her son back to Yuci’s husband’s house, but as soon as she opened the door, she found a casually dressed strange woman lying on the sofa. Subconsciously Xiao Gao asked. Who are you and why are you in my house?
However, her question was not answered. Instead, the strange woman called Zhang Qiang and complained that Xiao Gao had beaten her and was about to beat her to death, so Zhang Qiang came back quickly.
In fact, Xiao Gao didn't even move his hand, and this sentence completely stunned Xiao Gao. It is clear that he is the hostess of this house, how could he get a bite back? However, Xiao Gao didn't think too much. She thought that since her husband was coming back, he would definitely help herself when he came back.
What she did not expect was that her husband came back and beat her with the strange woman without saying a word. After the beating, the husband pressed her and let the strange woman run away first.
Afterwards, the husband did not explain the matter clearly, only that he would never contact the woman again, and also wrote a letter of guarantee that he would live a good life, considering that the child is still young, the husband’s attitude of admitting his mistake It was also very positive. The soft-hearted Xiao Gao forgave her husband, and then returned to Jiaocheng to work with the children.
I have to say that Xiao Gao's heart is indeed very soft, and the inexplicable meal can be regarded as a waste. Look at her practice.Isn't it just a slap in the face? As the so-called Zhou Yu hits the yellow cover, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer?
Within a few days, what made Xiao Gao even more broken was that she called her husband and said that she would return to Yuci. However, her husband told her clearly that as long as she wanted to be beaten, she should come back. The contact information is blacked out.
Xiao Gao feels that he has suffered a great humiliation. I didn't make it clear the last time, so where is the trouble now? But Xiaogao's attitude is also very clear. She doesn't want to leave the family. If her husband can make corrections and return to Jiaocheng with her, then she can forgive her husband for what he did.
The reason why she chose this way, Xiao Gao said, because the child was brought up by her from birth to now. Due to the lack of father’s love, the child has a tendency to inferiority and autistic and doesn’t like to play with other children. For the sake of her children, she is reluctant to break up a 10-year marriage. She wants to have a good talk with her husband, hoping that her husband can return to the family.
Alas, poor parents in the world, everything is for the children.
The sophistry from her husband
Later, Xiao Gao took his sister back to Yuci to find Zhang Qiang. After the two met, Zhang Qiang took the lead in saying such a sentence, and he has already sued for divorce. Can receive a subpoena from the court.
Regarding Xiao Gao's unwillingness to divorce, Zhang Qiang bluntly said that she couldn't live with a woman like her. As for what kind of woman? Zhang Qiang didn't want to say more. In short, he just passed it, and he definitely couldn't. It would be useless to persuade anyone. The divorce is a divorce.
At the same time, Zhang Qiang also said that he had told Xiao Gao a long time ago that he was going to divorce, but Xiao Gao always disagreed, so every time he met, there would be quarrels, and he was helpless.
This is the end of the matter, then tell me about the strange woman?
Regarding this point, Zhang Qiang readily admits that there is indeed a woman named Lanlan (pseudonym) who treats him well, but she is only a friend.People only think it is difficult for him to live alone, so he comes to help with cleaning.
The truth is not what his wife Xiao Gao thinks. Besides, he is a gentleman now. Lan Lan is married and has a family. In short, the relationship between himself and Lan Lan is basically innocent. Then he moved his hands on her.
These statements of Zhang Qiang, Xiao Gao doesn't even believe in punctuation, why? It turned out that after the incident, Lan Lan had made a provocative call to Xiao Gao, saying that he had no love, so why bother to procrastinate, if I had chosen to divide it a long time ago.
After Lan Lan's provocative phone call, Zhang Qiang immediately talked to Xiao Gao about divorce, not only that, but also threatened Xiao Gao. If you don't get a divorce, try. Xiao Gao believes that the reason Zhang Qiang wants to divorce her is for this woman, and she wants Zhang Qiang to call Lan Lan over to confront her.
Maybe this lie is going to be unresolved. Zhang Qiang was a little bit irritated and said once again that he hadn't contacted Lan Lan for a long time, because they were married and have a family, and his phone couldn't get in at all.
Xiao Gao had nothing to say, and immediately took out his mobile phone and dialed Lan Lan's number. When confronted with questioning, Lan Lan also said that he did not contact Zhang Qiang and that he was married. Have you ever had a relationship with Zhang Qiang before? Lan Lan changed his mind that she didn't know Zhang Qiang, she didn't know, and then she hung up the phone.
What people did not expect was that at this moment, Zhang Qiang's phone rang. It was not someone else who called, but Lan Lan. After the call, she asked Zhang Qiang: Why are they calling me?
However, when Lan Lan heard that Xiao Gao was also nearby, he directly chose to hang up. Zhang Qiang was very embarrassed at this time, and it was a bit far-fetched to say that there was no relationship between himself and Lan Lan.
It's just that Zhang Qiang didn't feel guilty at all. Instead, he said that the reason for his divorce with Xiao Gao was not because of Lan Lan. Maybe Lan Lan played a role in the middle, but it didn't do much.
Because the relationship between myself and Xiao Gao had problems a long time ago, it can be said that it is a deformed marriage. I have no happiness at all. I regret that I am forced to marry Xiao Gao for the rest of my life.We got engaged in 2009. Later, our parents did not agree and we separated. We only got married in 2011.
Hearing her husband's sophistry, Xiao Gao was speechless. At the moment, she also told her love story with Zhang Qiang.
It turned out that Xiao Gao and Zhang Qiang were college classmates. They fell in love when they were in college. Now they have known each other for 20 years, have been married for 10 years, and have been in love for 8 years.
After graduating from university, Xiao Gao chose to work in Jiaocheng in his hometown, and Zhang Qiang would go to Jiaocheng to visit Xiao Gao from time to time. In order to stay with Xiao Gao, Zhang Qiang also set his job in Jiaocheng. Married, but because both family members did not agree, they separated.
Zhang Qiang also found a new girlfriend in 2010, but by coincidence in 2011, the two got in touch again. This time they got married naturally.
In Xiao Gao's thoughts, the relationship between her and Zhang Qiang can be said to be very deep, and it is a matter of your wish. There is no compulsion. The reason why Zhang Qiang said this is to make excuses and excuses for his mistakes. Responsibility.
To say that from the campus love to the present, the two still have some feelings. After all, it is not easy to go around all the way, but why the two have separated, and Zhang Qiang has also made a new girlfriend , Then why did he turn his head and marry Xiao Gao again?
Zhang Qiang was very wronged about this. He said that it was not that he wanted to turn his head to marry Xiao Gao, but that Xiao Gao was too troubled. They called back in three days and had to marry her.
is really unbelievable. Obviously it is too far-fetched. After all, everyone is thinking. Can't just make a few phone calls until now it has become forced? Since it is forced, why can this marriage last 10 years? This is an irresponsible statement.
from her husband’s dislike, she has been bean curd since she was young
Seeing that this excuse doesn’t work anymore, Zhang Qiang rerouted and put the blame on Xiao Gao’s appearance, and he said to be with Xiao Gao. I'm so frustrated, I don't want to lead her shopping together,She was disappointed and looked too far apart. When she was young, she was a handsome guy anyway, but when she was young, she was pure tofu.
I lost it. When I heard these words, Xiao Gao was completely stunned. Is this the husband I have loved for 10 years? Before she could react, Xiao Gao's sister couldn't bear it.
She yelled at Zhang Qiang, you said my sister is bean curd dregs, then what did you look for when you were in college? You have known you for 20 years and married for 10 years. You don't read any emotions at all and say such awkward things?
At this time, Xiao Gao also slowed down. She said in a trembling voice, she regretted knowing Zhang Qiang. Why did he ask me to fall in love in the first place? Why did he say such harsh words.
Perhaps no one in the world doesn't care about his looks. When he is scolded face-to-face by the person he loves, it is really a shame. No matter who it is, he can understand how painful Xiao Gao's heart is at this moment.
It’s just that no matter how everyone scolds Zhang Qiang, he doesn’t take it seriously. He bluntly says that he wants to live alone now and will get divorced at all costs. If Xiaogao doesn’t want to take it, he will take it himself.
Xiao Gao said it was impossible. He took the child from birth, and is now 8 years old. How could he give the child to Zhang Qiang to take him.
Not talking about children, it’s okay. When it comes to children, Zhang Qiang is completely blown up. Instead, he blames Xiao Gao. He believes that the child’s current autism is caused by Xiao Gao, and there is a problem with Xiao Gao’s education method. Zhang Qiang also threatened to fight for the custody of the child at all costs, and there is no need to raise the child's custody by a penny.
This is the end of the matter, Xiao Gao doesn't want to save Zhang Qiang anymore. She originally wanted to continue to live with Zhang Qiang for the sake of her child. But seeing Zhang Qiang’s attitude, Xiao Gao was completely chilled. She bluntly said that the custody of her child could not be given to Zhang Qiang. At the same time, I also hope that Zhang Qiang can give his bachelor apartment to the child, so that the child has a guarantee, and he must give the child something to return.
Zhang Qiang smiled at this. He said that Xiao Gao was planning this house, but she really couldn't take this house. It turned out that Zhang Qiang's parents bought this suite for their marriage. It was in the names of the parents and there was no joint property of the husband and wife.
At the same time Zhang Qiang also said that for divorce,I also proposed a plan, which is to buy a house in Yuci with a down payment for Xiao Gao, and the monthly payment is not much. Xiao Gao can do it by himself. Then the two divorced and wish each other happiness, but after the down payment is paid, Xiao Gao turns around. Go to the sales department and refund the money.
Xiao Gao quickly explained that the down payment is still his own money. But before he finished speaking, Zhang Qiang was angry. He retorted Xiao Gao. Is the down payment of 150,000 all your money? 110,000 belonged to you, and another 40,000 belonged to me. The more he thought about it, the more angry Zhang Qiang went away completely. He kept swearing in his mouth. If it weren't for being stopped by someone, Xiao Gao couldn't run away after being beaten.
After the mood eased, Zhang Qiang apologized, frankly admitting that he was indeed agitated and acted excessively. If Xiao Gao wants to compensate, then she will try her best to give it, but she can’t beat her parents’ house. If you give the house to Xiao Gao, you will have no place to live.
Xiao Gao shed tears in heartache. She admitted that she was not entangled in this house, she could earn all these things by herself, but she couldn't swallow this breath. It was obviously Zhang Qiang who had cheated on her, but on the other hand, she imposed all the mistakes on herself. On his body, if Zhang Qiang could let his anger go smoothly, perhaps he would have let go a long time ago.
In the end, Xiao Gao didn't want to waste it so much. She decided to use legal means to protect her legal rights. If she can be divided, she will be divided. If she cannot be divided, she will not want it.
In this way, from campus love to real marriage, how wonderful it used to be, how heartache it is now, 10 years of marriage is still lost to a chicken feather, 20 years of acquaintance, acquaintance, love each other, to the present Hatred, what do you want to ask about love? Maybe everyone has a different answer.
Choice is more important than persistence
A good relationship must not only have a first-sighted feeling, but also a long life. When you find a wrong choice, then don’t stick to it and stop the loss in time. It is wise to minimize the damage.
For Xiao Gao, she can't let go of the 20 years of feelings, so that her husband is still reluctant to let go after doing so many extreme things. This will only bring more harm to herself and at the same time make her husband more Look down on,Useless persistence is nothing more than torturing oneself and moving oneself, others will not be touched at all.
For Zhang Qiang, there is no love in his heart. Even Xiao Gao’s breathing is wrong. Staying with her for a second feels disgusting. He doesn’t want to take into account any of Xiao Gao’s feelings at all. Letting go early in this marriage is also letting go of yourself.
In the path of life, choice is more important than persistence. If you have a lot of disappointment, leaving is the best choice. Only by letting yourself go can you embrace a better tomorrow.
What do you think about this 20-year relationship? Everyone is welcome to express their opinions and express different opinions, thank you.
