my husband secretly sent money to a woman. After the divorce, I learned that the fault was me
. The marriage broke up.
The seven-year itch is really not something that everyone can survive.
My name is Zhuo Ling, and I have been with my husband Luo Hao for seven years. I always felt that with our feelings, the seven-year itch is nothing at all.
But it turns out that I was wrong. In the seventh year of our marriage, there have been some subtle changes in our relationship with each other.
This change is so subtle that I didn't even notice it at first, until I found out that my husband would quietly transfer money to an Alipay called Jiaer every month!
I didn't believe it at first, and I quietly checked the transfer records of my husband, only to find that Luo Hao really transferred money to this Jiaer every month.
This is still the transfer record that I can find. God knows the transfer record that was unavailable a long time ago, is it the same, and it never stops every month.
In fact, based on my personality, I would have been calm and honest with Luo Hao, but the subtle changes brought about by the seven-year itch made me strongly doubt Luo Hao.
Driven by this mentality,I made the worst move, holding my mobile phone and questioning Luo Hao face to face.
Luo Hao, facing my question, behaved very angry, saying that I was peeking at his cell phone, which was tantamount to peeping his privacy.
I was so angry at that time, I raised my hand and slapped Luo Hao in the face, and started arguing with Luo Hao.
This is also the first time between our husband and wife in seven years.
But the situation at that time, I really can't completely blame me.
Our economic situation itself is not very rich. Luo Hao also transfers two thousand yuan to this Jiaer every month, which is twenty-four thousand a year.
I don’t even know, except for the records I can find, whether Luo Hao insisted on giving it for a few months or several years!
was discovered by me, not only did Luo Hao fail to explain to me, he blamed me for not looking at his phone.
I believe that any woman who is a wife can never be angry.
Just when we were getting louder and louder, the child who had just fallen asleep was awakened by us, and we could only temporarily silence the child and put the child to sleep first.
But this incident will definitely not go away like this. Luo Hao doesn't give me a reasonable explanation, it is impossible for me to treat it as nothing happened.
The following days,I didn't take the initiative to say a word to Luo Hao again, just waiting for him to confess to me.
Luo Hao seemed to know he was wrong, and he always actively wanted to hug me or help me with work, but he just didn't say anything about the money.
I feel more and more whether Luo Hao has a junior outside, and this money is for the living expenses of the junior.
Actually, after thinking about it carefully, who would be a junior for two thousand dollars a month? That is to say, I lost my mind at the time, so I felt that Luo Hao was raising a junior outside.
At that time, I really didn't think about any other direction, so I kept thinking in the direction of Luo Hao's derailment.
I didn't stop questioning Luo Hao, what happened to the money and Jiaer.
But every time Luo Hao looked ugly and perfuse me, saying that it was a friend of his long time ago. He borrowed a sum of money from someone before and couldn’t get in touch with him. Later, they contacted him and she Naturally, they have to pay back their money.
People understand that our economy is not very wealthy, so as long as we pay 2,000 per month, the water will be paid back slowly.
Luo Hao told me not to think too much. When the money is paid off, I won't contact this Jiaer again.
I asked Luo Hao to call the other party, or ask the other party to meet, let me check.
Luo Hao was not happy at the time, and asked me angrily if he just didn't trust him.
where I could hear it,It was determined that Luo Hao was unwilling to ask the other party to come out and verify that there was a problem.
Our conversation broke up again, and the next day I took the child back to my parents’ house.
My parents only thought that I was in conflict with Luo Hao, and went home to live for a few days, so they didn't say much at first.
It is normal for young couples to quarrel and have conflicts. Especially when we are still in the seven-year itch, few couples do not have conflicts.
My parents would also persuade me from time to time, and the couple should not be stunned for too long. They will go back when they are almost relieved.
I can't tell them, I suspect that Luo Hao has a junior outside, so I just dealt with it.
The next day I went home, Luo Hao came to him and kept begging me to take the child home. If we have anything to go home, we will talk slowly, so as not to affect my parents.
The words are somewhat reasonable, but before I go home, it is not that I have not talked to him, but he is unwilling to give in.
Luo Hao had no choice but to go home first, and then come back every few hours, hoping that I could calm down and go home.
My parents couldn't stand it anymore, so they asked me what happened to Luo Hao.
was asked again and again, every time Luo Hao came over, he still had the same attitude, he was reluctant to contact that Jiaer, let me confirm their relationship,I confided in my heart and told my parents directly that Luo Hao had a junior outside.
When my parents heard about this situation, they didn't get angry. When Luo Hao came back, my dad blasted him out with a stick.
To be honest, even though I have determined that Luo Hao has derailed, I still feel that my dad’s practice of driving people with a stick is a bit improper.
was just annoyed at that time, and couldn't hold back his face to reconcile with Luo Hao, so the days passed by day by day.
Since being driven away by my dad, Luo Hao's frequency of coming back to me is getting less and less, and I started to panic a little bit.
I also start to doubt that if Luo Hao really has a junior, he really doesn't love me.
He can't make mistakes to come and beg me to go home, let alone come to me with the embarrassment of being driven out by my dad with a stick.
Just when I gradually calmed down and wondered whether I should lower my face, go home and talk to Luo Hao, my girlfriend called me and made me feel like falling into an ice cave.
"Zhuo Ling, where are you! I just saw Luo Hao taking a woman shopping and taking that woman home! Your backyard is probably on fire!"
This time, I will never again Regardless of why he couldn't pull his face down, he hurriedly handed the child to his parents to take care of him, and hurried back home.
I thought about it,Luo Hao really asked Xiaosan to divorce him.
But deep in my heart, I actually don't want to bear this relationship, and I don't want to divorce Luo Hao.
Otherwise, I will not wait for Luo Hao to give me a reasonable explanation.
But I really never thought, I never go home, Luo Hao blatantly took the mistress home!
I was full of grief and anger. It was my mood at the time and the deep grievances.
I always give him a chance, I hope he can confess with me, even if he really cheated on him, as long as he finds the wrong point Contact.
For the child, for this family, and because I still love him, I might choose to forgive him.
The result of my painstaking efforts was his blatant betrayal!
I hurried to the house. As soon as I opened the door, I saw a pair of women's high heels at the door, and some unbearable noises came from the bedroom.
I didn't know what I was thinking, so I ran into the kitchen and picked up the kitchen knife and rushed into the bedroom.
My sudden intrusion probably shocked them. After a while, the naked woman screamed and hid behind Luo Hao.
Luo Hao also stared at me nervously.Said to me: "A Ling, calm down and don't mess around!"
I looked at them naked and didn't get angry at all, and said angrily: "Get me dressed and get out!"
I waited in the living room with a knife, and Luo Hao and the woman came out soon.
The woman shrank and hid behind Luo Hao. Without even looking at me, Luo Hao stood a little forward, protecting the woman behind him.
I got more and more angry, went up and pulled the woman out, slapped me cruelly, and slapped me: "Span!"
If a woman is amnesty, she doesn't even care about putting on high heels, she just lifts her hand and ran away.
I looked at Luo Hao for a long time, and tears of grievance flowed down uncontrollably. I threw the kitchen knife to the side and sat slumped on the sofa and said to Luo Hao: "Let’s get a divorce."
Luo Hao was silent for a while, then nodded: "It can only be this way."
After saying this, I left and returned to my parents' house, and started looking after the children while looking for a job.
My parents also noticed my abnormality and asked me if I divorced Luo Hao.
I didn't hide it. The paper won't keep the fire out. Sooner or later I had to say it, so I nodded and admitted.
My dad comforted me a lot,My mother cried and said why I was so miserable, and no one persuaded me to consider whether to divorce.
Not long after, Luo Hao and I went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures.
Luo Hao wanted the custody of the child very much, but he did not fight with me. He just reasonably requested that he could visit the child at any time, and I agreed.
I thought that when Luo Hao and I were over, the story should be turned over, but I didn't expect that I would not know the truth until my sister came back during the Chinese New Year.
After we got married, Luo Hao and I will spend the New Year at my house this year, and visit his house next year.
I was supposed to be at Luo Hao's house this year. The younger sister who came back after seeing me at home during the Chinese New Year asked me in a puzzled way, why did her brother-in-law Luo Hao not come back together.
I said that Luo Hao and I were divorced, and my sister's expression turned a bit wrong in an instant, and she started to ask me what was going on.
It has been a few months since our divorce, and the ones who should be sad have already been sad. I don't want to mention it anymore, so I told her roughly.
As a result, the more I spoke, the more ugly my sister's face became. When I finished speaking, she slapped herself severely and cried and said to me that she was sorry.
After my sister's explanation, I realized that Jiaer is not someone else, but my sister!
When Luo Hao and I got married,Because of buying a house, Luo Hao privately borrowed one hundred thousand yuan from my sister.
promised my sister that after five years of marriage, she will start paying back the money. A total of 130,000 yuan was returned. The extra 30,000 yuan is considered as interest and Luo Hao's thanks to her.
She was worried that this matter would be known to me or my parents, and that we would talk about it, so she asked Luo Hao to keep it secret and don't tell others about it.
Who could have imagined that Luo Hao was really so stubborn, and he didn't want to break his faith when he got divorced.
It's too late to say anything. Luo Hao and I have divorced, and we can't go back to the past.
I can only comfort my sister. She cannot be blamed for this. Luo Hao did find a woman to cheat. This is also an indisputable fact.
Sometimes, we can only make mistakes, let go of the past and look forward to continue living.
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