Many people are accustomed to "reporting the good but not the worry", just like college students do what their parents like. When communicating with their parents on the phone, they often neglect a certain unsatisfactory test result or failure experience. would rather be a long-term self Never confess to your parents when you are depressed, lest your parents don’t understand but worry about it.
Unreserved honesty and selective concealment from loved ones, which one is better?
I am not sure what most parents think. What I know is that, for me, parents who are disappointed or anxious because of me are the last thing I want to see, so I myself was such a "good boy" who "reported the good but not the bad."
Until one time I talked to my mother about this, she said: "As your closest person, what I want to know most is your true situation, including your pain and troubles. I will follow the pain and troubles, But I still want you to tell me the truth and not lie to me. I don’t want to know from others, or don’t know at all. Maybe I can’t help, but I want to share with you.”
When we think we are using "white lie" to protect others from harm, the greatest harm to others comes from our "dishonesty" and "distrust" in the name of "good faith."
In other words, what we can deceive is often those who trust us, and the most unbearable thing for those who trust us is that we deceive them.
If you are a parent, you want your child to say nothing to you,Or do you hope that he can tell his own difficulties and concerns, and solve them with him?
So, stop telling white lies to your family and friends. A true relationship needs to be maintained by sincerity.
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