"Insensitive power" is the expression of a real life attitude
As the saying goes, "People fight for a breath and Buddha receives a stick of incense." In this era of constant competition, I, we Many under the influence of social trends, it is difficult for us to see where the beauty of this era is. That kind of courage that does not care about the evaluation of others has become a "lying flat" and "Buddha" in this era. It is already difficult for us to stay out of the matter again, and it is difficult for us to have "The Courage to Don't Care" anymore when accepting the evaluation given to us by the world. So, what kind of attitude does such an attitude show in the writings of a senior psychologist, psychological counselor, and best-selling author Oshima Trust? What can we gain by reading such a book? How can dullness practice help us to get rid of restlessness, depression, and anxiety, so as to find our inner self?
Maybe you also have doubts, but you can find the solution here, such as the first chapter "Why are you always hurt", here we can see a cross-section of a real person, when we plan to do our best When you are going to complete a job, someone suddenly interrupts or asks you for help in the name of a request. When you measure carefully and plan to get a good impression, it may be difficult for you to get the future. peaceful. There is one thing I agree with very much, and that is "self-confidence." When you care about others too much, it's just because you don't hesitate to disrupt your own rhythm to cater to others. Therefore, Oshima believes that "cautious" is actually a psychological reflection: 1. Because I don't want to be disgusted by others. 2. I can't imagine myself being upright. 3. Realize that you are living in a nightmare. This kind of courage is worthy of us, and it also allows us to know how to do better, to be recognized by the people around you, maybe you have more confidence, of course, it may also make you fall deeply into the lives of others.
I don’t know how you think about this problem? But when I read this article,It's quite touching inside. In the past, people emphasized "being kind to others" and "being willing to help others." However, from another perspective in this era, we can also see "involuntary" and "weary". It can be seen that people who are "too sensitive" will never be able to truly participate in this society, and it is easier for them to be completely separated from the back of this era. Naturally, the road to the future will become narrower and narrower.
This problem, I think many people in society have actually encountered it, so how do we solve them? Oshima Trust gave the answer-practice insensitivity. In other words, you should learn how to deal with the things that most people care about seriously and then solve them, such as "distinguishing what should be cared about and what is unnecessary". When doing things for others and positioning ourselves, we should First care about whether to pay the price of our own freedom, especially when thinking about the "aggressive personality". We should put ourselves in a relatively stable position. People with "central thinking mode" often find it difficult to find people who can rely on and trust themselves.
In addition to this kind of real-life admonition and improvement in thinking, there are many workplace experiences in this book trusted by Oshima that also reflect this, such as the comparison and posture of life, how do you Only then can we learn to "ignore" skills, start from real life, and then give specific suggestions, which are all common personal interpersonal interactions in our lives and the feelings of life, such as when we are hurt by injury, why do we give priority Considered each other, but we are still injured? The answer is that you put your posture too low, so you can't have the same conversation with the other party, naturally it is easy to become an emotional sloping depression. For example, what should I do if I care too much about the other party? That's because your understanding of each other is not comprehensive enough. When you know that people have their own strengths and weaknesses, you will know how to discover yourself. For such a concise question that directly hits the real bullseye, these answers are indeed worthy of our careful consideration. I hope you read too, and you can live the life you like and be yourself.
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